Let's see

She's an MD and you are a .miscer posting about her at 10 o'clock on a Friday night?
I'd say your story is B.S or you should give up right now. At least give up hope of taking her out.

But you could be the exception to the rule. but I doubt it.

Yeah given you’re incel and she reached out you should’ve accepted with the idea of ngaf if she flakes again. Nobody is saying keep eating chit but I think listening to incels on this one was probably the wrong move, they don’t want you to succeed.

Turn to Jesus Christ

OK well sounds like neither of you are really taking this too terribly seriously, so I'd say go with it. You're not really doing wrong by her by playing along and getting what you want out of it; it seems to be what she is going for, at least.

Gotdamn. Getting strung along like this by a 2/10. Salvage what little (if any?) dignity you have and forget about her.

Women you meet on dating apps who want to hold off on meeting in person and make excuses not to aren't really serious about it. Unless she came back apologizing for flaking and giving a very specific day and htime range she wants to meet up, then she's not serious and is only stringing you along for attention.

The bottom line is, interested people act interested. They don't play endless mind games with you like this one has. As a physcian, it's understandable that her schedule is going to be very busy, to a point where it makes finding time to date challenging. That being said, if her meeting you was any sort of priority to her, she'd have found a way to make it happen within the course of a couple weeks. Meeting up for coffee/brunch or something for a first meetup isn't asking all that much.

The reality is, she's talking to tons of other men on the app along with you, and she had prioritized her favored options over you accordingly. You are nothing more than a bench warmer to her. Move on and find a woman who actually wants to meet you without playing the stupid games.

Bruh....you're getting strung along and flaked on by some chitty 2/10 hoe.

Forget dating and work on yourself until you can pull higher quality women.

Fukien’ LOL’d hard at “Banh Mi”!

Should’ve actually sent her a johnnydeep1 fat people are disgusting copypasta before blocking.

Ding ding ding. This dude gets it.

I’ve done a lot of online dating at this point and the pattern described here plays out constantly. Like OP I’m not a guy blessed with countless options, so I tend indulge these poor leads longer than I should.

Not sure I’ve ever had a flaker turn things around and finally ACTUALLY meet. Maybe once? And that’s over 15 years of sporadic online dating.

Also OP, you may be like me in that your text game is on point.

I don’t often brag as I don’t have a lot to brag about, but my conversational abilities are elite tier, no joke.

But the problem with this is that it means you are great to text with, and that might be the ONLY reason they are interested in you. You only qualify for fun texting when she’s bored, and she has so no real intentions of meeting you or dating you or what have you.

Gross

Prob a good choice. If she really wanted to meet she would have way before now. I don't understand people who flake like that. Or the age old excuse of "I'm bad at texting/keeping in contact". If they were into someone they would be communicating. I get that you just want dating experience so in the future just do what you did here. Give a couple chances but don't let it drag out too long. I really hope that you find someone soon.Aren't you unemployed at the moment? Why only 30 min?

she's all over your dik and wants every bit of you including your misc reps

but seriously brah this is classic behavior from someone uninterested but liking the attention.

move on.

No advice for OP just came to say DAMNNNN you getting flaked on by THAT?!?! Life must be hard. You should just become a passport bro.

Bingo.

When I was first trying online dating, I too would sometimes stick around and keep talking to women who wanted to keep talking but hold off on meeting. I quickly realized that women like that are using you as nothing but a placeholder for sporadic bursts of super easy attention. They aren't investing anything into you if they won't meet fairly quickly IRL, especially if you propose a very innocent, low-pressure meetup in a very public place. They certainly aren't planning on ever actually meeting you, let alone letting you touch them.

I was talking to some chick on a dating app a few weeks back who tried doing this. I spoke with her for 2 or 3 days via messaging on the app, then asked her to meetup for a brunch type thing (doesn't get much more innocent than that). Chick then went cold for 2 days before responding back saying she was thinking about it, but hadn't been on a date in a really long time and wanted to get to know people better online first before meeting them.

Initially, I let it slide for a couple days and said it was okay to wait a bit longer, and kept talking to her. Mainly because she also asked me something specific about myself in her response about wanting to wait to meet, because that seemed like a sign of interest at first. I quickly realized that I was wasting my time and umatched a day later. Waiting another week or two of bs texting wasn't going to change her mind about the situation, and she knew it. She just didn't realize that I also knew what was up. Even left her last message to me on read for a day before pulling the plug and unmatching lol.

The chick flaking on him is an Asian physician. Do you realize how many endless thirsty simps a woman like that will invariably get messaging them on dating apps even if they don't look very good?

The Asian physician chick was never interested in OP in the first place. She just liked the attention from his messages. She no doubt was/is entertaining probably a dozen other guys in similar fashion at any given moment, and focusing her real attention on her absolute favorites. Hence why OP wound up with no pussy, no meetup, and nothing but some sporadic messages on the app when she wanted attention and her making endless excuses to flake on meeting up IRL.

Nothing about how OP described the situation made it sound like she was actually interested at any point of it all. That chick was displaying classic behavior of someone who isn't actually interested, but enjoys the easy attention.

^^^^^

Awful advice. Sounds like this DolphonPilot fellow doesn't have much experience with online dating. Cut your losses and love on from chicks like this ASAP every time, OP. The flaky chicks literallyneverturn it around and end up meeting you, let alone legit dating you.

man. dating sucks so bad for men. we get flaked on by 3s.

You guys keep forgetting the part about how she is a physician. Women with high power careers like that are a usually a total pita to date and think 99.9%+ of men are beneath them even if they are not very attractive themselves.

Keep your dignity brah and move on. Bishes like that aren't worth the hassle.

Go for a bish that doesn't give you the runaround.

You got more important **** to attend to than her.

flaking because she's going out with other guys who banh her.

naww bro. inhave ugly doctors hitting me up on Hinge. They have no chance* with me though. Looks are the only thing that matters on these apps

Equivalent guys get flaked by the 3/10s. Hard part is most people rate themselves too high and can't accept that their ranking is determined by the market.

Remember apps make looks 99% of the ranking, because that mostly what people see and can quickly compare. In real life, charisma can bump someone up, which is why many have much better success face to face.

This, especially so for incel type guys.

OP has got a better chance of me meeting up with him and fukin’ him, and I don’t even live in the states nor am I gay.

Real talk.

i swipe on everyeone cause at least i can use the ugly ones for a quick smash 🤣

i wouldnt have to if the ones I wanted would just date me

Wouldn't have to eat raman noodles if prime rib was the same price.

What I don't get is how so of these dudes on the misc who complain about the antics of women with online dating is that they can apparently spend years upon years on the apps without figuring out how to quickly spot time wasters. I figured out how to tell which women were a complete waste of time within the first 1 to 3 messages within a few months of using online dating, meanwhile we got miscers here moaning about chicks they met online for weeks on end. It's crazy to me to think they can't sort that out after years of experience with it.

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