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post 1693436083 11-15-2023, 06:59 PM
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I'm hopeless with women, please help me out

I'm chatting with this chick who I found on Reddit, she's looking for friends, any who I'm already drawing blanks because I'm socially awkward

Anabo 7:53 PM
Hi Ashley! I'm Anabo and would love to hang out.

Ashley 8:06 PM
Hey! Wanna talk a bit first?
How old are u?

Anabo 8:46 PM
Sure, I'm 34 but I feel a lot younger. I went back to school in 2013 and I didn't feel so out of place.


Ashley 8:47 PM
Where did u go to school?

Anabo 8:47 PM
XXX for Graphic Design

And that's it, already no response : /
post 1693436223 11-15-2023, 07:03 PM
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post 1693436283 11-15-2023, 07:04 PM
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You're boring bro
post 1693436303 11-15-2023, 07:05 PM
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Originally Posted By Kormo⏩
You're boring bro
I know, wat do I say? halp
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Originally Posted By AnaboLecter⏩
I know, wat do I say? halp
Should just send her a d pic and gauge her reaction at this point
post 1693436673 11-15-2023, 07:12 PM
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Secret to talking to really anyone: try to say "I" or "me" as infrequently as possible, especially when you first meet someone.

The appeal of you as a person is how you make others feel, and shifting the focus to the other person makes them feel that you're interested in them, which in turn causes them to feel interesting. They associate your presence with feeling good, so they want to be around you more.

When the topic does come back to you, continue avoiding "I" or "me" as the subject of any sentence - this will also help you think more clearly about what you're saying. Instead of "I felt like I connected with people better," you could have said, "people seem to be more willing to share the older you are," or something like that.

Notice how she went silent after you wrote a bunch of sentences about yourself?

Women want to feel like everything is about them (everyone does) so if you can gracefully center the conversation around things you find interesting about them, you won't have to try to be interesting yourself.
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post 1693436883 11-15-2023, 07:15 PM
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Originally Posted By EvanStroud⏩
Secret to talking to really anyone: try to say "I" or "me" as infrequently as possible, especially when you first meet someone.

The appeal of you as a person is how you make others feel, and shifting the focus to the other person makes them feel that you're interested in them, which in turn causes them to feel interesting. They associate your presence with feeling good, so they want to be around you more.

When the topic does come back to you, continue avoiding "I" or "me" as the subject of any sentence - this will also help you think more clearly about what you're saying. Instead of "I felt like I connected with people better," you could have said, "people seem to be more willing to share the older you are," or something like that.

Notice how she went silent after you wrote a bunch of sentences about yourself?

Women want to feel like everything is about them (everyone does) so if you can gracefully center the conversation around things you find interesting about them, you won't have to try to be interesting yourself.
Thanks for the tip, I'll try to center my responses towards the other person from now on. But I'm still drawing a blank on how to turn this around rofl
post 1693436943 11-15-2023, 07:16 PM
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Originally Posted By AnaboLecter⏩
Thanks for the tip, I'll try to center my responses towards the other person from now on. But I'm still drawing a blank on how to turn this around rofl
Ask about her.

Also go outside and talk to people in real life.
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post 1693437133 11-15-2023, 07:19 PM
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Originally Posted By EvanStroud⏩
Ask about her.

Also go outside and talk to people in real life.
Aw but I'm introverted. I can go days/weeks without talking to people and I wouldn't go crazy. What questions should I ask?
post 1693437483 11-15-2023, 07:26 PM
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Originally Posted By EvanStroud⏩
Ask about her.
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This guy knows his sloots.

OP sloots really like to talk about themselves , or their girlfriends relationships.
Remember you’re really conversing with a child, as a sloots brain can only develop as much as a ten year old boys . Scientists actually admitted this , but go to TikTok for more context.
So don’t get to caught up overthinking things . Sloots brains are very primitive , and they’re basically thinking about Chad all the time , so you may have to jester max a lot to keep their pea brains distracted enough .
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post 1693437523 11-15-2023, 07:27 PM
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Originally Posted By AnaboLecter⏩
Aw but I'm introverted. I can go days/weeks without talking to people and I wouldn't go crazy. What questions should I ask?
Anything, even just parrot back the same questions. She asked how old you were and you gave a statement with no follow-up question. Same for where you went to school - missed opportunity to ask about where she went to school etc.
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post 1693437763 11-15-2023, 07:33 PM
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OK in her reddit post she says she likes pets, so I asked her what kind of pets she has.

I think she's offline
post 1693437853 11-15-2023, 07:35 PM
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Get her off reddit and onto a social media app. If you don't have Instagram then it's over.
post 1693437943 11-15-2023, 07:37 PM
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Originally Posted By Onlinedatingcel⏩
Get her off reddit and onto a social media app. If you don't have Instagram then it's over.
I have IG but I don't use it to be an attention whore I just creep on people's profiles, should I get her on IG anyway? What difference would it make?
post 1693438253 11-15-2023, 07:43 PM
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Dude you followed up a hello with "i want to hang out" any chic is going to think you are a creep or weirdo.

Try talking at least 2 or 3 days . Come on dude
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post 1693438433 11-15-2023, 07:46 PM
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
Dude you followed up a hello with "i want to hang out" any chic is going to think you are a creep or weirdo.

Try talking at least 2 or 3 days . Come on dude
But her thread is asking where do I meet people? So I don't think that was a bad move.
post 1693438543 11-15-2023, 07:48 PM
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Originally Posted By AnaboLecter⏩
But her thread is asking where do I meet people? So I don't think that was a bad move.
Yet here you are saying how terrible you are with women?

Trust me. It's a bad move.

First hello..."hey I'm so and so i want to hang out with you" haha really dude?

Take the advice and stop doing it. Or ignore the advice and keep getting shot down .
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post 1693438613 11-15-2023, 07:50 PM
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
Yet here you are saying how terrible you are with women?

Trust me. It's a bad move.

First hello..."hey I'm so and so i want to hang out with you" haha really dude?

Take the advice and stop doing it. Or ignore the advice and keep getting shot down .
Oh fine, I won't do it again
post 1693438733 11-15-2023, 07:53 PM
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Should have said busness administration and finance. Tell her you work from home as a JP morgan senior account exectutive
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post 1693438823 11-15-2023, 07:55 PM
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Originally Posted By WWWWWWWQWWWWWWW⏩
Should have said busness administration and finance. Tell her you work from home as a JP morgan senior account exectutive
Nah, the truth will come out, I wouldn't know how to lie about that either.

Still got no response, guess she's ghosting me?
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She has zero attraction for you because you messed up first by making her be the one to lead the conversation, second you gave way too much information about yourself.
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post 1693439023 11-15-2023, 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted By AnaboLecter⏩
Nah, the truth will come out, I wouldn't know how to lie about that either.
This. Guys who lie to chics to.make them be interested are pathetic you can only play some role for a short time. At the end of the day. You are who and you will always come out. Just be you from the start. Of she doesn't want you for you why even bother with her?
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Originally Posted By cavillac⏩
She has zero attraction for you because you messed up first by making her be the one to lead the conversation, second you gave way too much information about yourself.
Lead and talk less about myself, I'll keep that in mind for the future.
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Originally Posted By EvanStroud⏩
Secret to talking to really anyone: try to say "I" or "me" as infrequently as possible, especially when you first meet someone.

The appeal of you as a person is how you make others feel, and shifting the focus to the other person makes them feel that you're interested in them, which in turn causes them to feel interesting. They associate your presence with feeling good, so they want to be around you more.

When the topic does come back to you, continue avoiding "I" or "me" as the subject of any sentence - this will also help you think more clearly about what you're saying. Instead of "I felt like I connected with people better," you could have said, "people seem to be more willing to share the older you are," or something like that.

Notice how she went silent after you wrote a bunch of sentences about yourself?

Women want to feel like everything is about them (everyone does) so if you can gracefully center the conversation around things you find interesting about them, you won't have to try to be interesting yourself.
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lmao you met a girl on reddit? great start OP
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post 1693440763 11-15-2023, 08:43 PM
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Originally Posted By ShakeBrah⏩
lmao you met a girl on reddit? great start OP
Well you can't really meet chicks on there, I just DMed her after she made a thread asking where to find friends.
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Your first mistake was trying to meet girls on reddit
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