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post 1693910643 11-25-2023, 01:14 PM
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Have You Ever Had A Toxic Relationship?

I recently came out of a relationship with a very attractive hot young girl, however the relationship was quite Toxic for the entire 8 months.

She had been on Anti Depressants prior to when I met her.. And her previous relationship apparently was also toxic with the last guy.

Why are the toxic relationships the most difficult to get over? I'm sure there a certain amount Trauma bonding involved.

How did you guys feel once you got over the toxic relationship?
post 1693911183 11-25-2023, 01:26 PM
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hehe

drained, used and abused, tired
post 1693911333 11-25-2023, 01:29 PM
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post 1693913133 11-25-2023, 02:12 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yea my marriage was super toxic

My other relationships have all been normal though so it’s not a pattern thankfully.
Was your ex wife attractive? Also did it take quite a long time to get over it, due to it being a toxic marriage.
post 1693913183 11-25-2023, 02:13 PM
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Originally Posted By Evolutionary1⏩
hehe

drained, used and abused, tired
Yeh I feel a little like that too
post 1693919043 11-25-2023, 04:38 PM
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"toxic relationship"

Now that's a buzzword if I ever heard one.
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post 1693919333 11-25-2023, 04:46 PM
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yep

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post 1693930643 11-25-2023, 09:39 PM
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Originally Posted By BulletDodged⏩
Yeh I feel a little like that too
It's like you're constantly dealing with bs that has nothing to do with you.

All the baseless accusations and what not so they can pretend like they are better than you because it's like a competition to them, and not a relationship.
post 1693942103 11-26-2023, 09:06 AM
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It's twice as bad when it's at work...
post 1693973203 11-26-2023, 10:24 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yea my marriage was super toxic

My other relationships have all been normal though so it’s not a pattern thankfully.
I’d sure like to hear his version of the story lol
Back with my Fam
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Originally Posted By BulletDodged⏩
Why are the toxic relationships the most difficult to get over? I'm sure there a certain amount Trauma bonding involved.

How did you guys feel once you got over the toxic relationship?
It ended on my terms after I realized things were not going to get better so I would say no it wasn't that difficult to get over. If it would've ended years before that when I was still infatuated with her potential then yes it would've been more difficult to get over.

I was relieved and excited for the next chapter of my life once the dust settled and I got my feet back on the ground.
post 1693994463 11-27-2023, 10:27 AM
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These Toxic people will do all this insane behavior and still insist that you are the problem...
post 1693996843 11-27-2023, 11:04 AM
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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88⏩
It ended on my terms after I realized things were not going to get better so I would say no it wasn't that difficult to get over. If it would've ended years before that when I was still infatuated with her potential then yes it would've been more difficult to get over.

I was relieved and excited for the next chapter of my life once the dust settled and I got my feet back on the ground.
Same story here, more or less. Ended once it was obvious she had serious issues that were never going to be resolved and that I had allowed myself to become convinced that I was responsible for all the problems. A rough month or so followed, but it has become better and better, especially after I started getting back in the gym regularly and spending more time with friends again.
post 1694001193 11-27-2023, 12:24 PM
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post 1694022083 11-27-2023, 08:14 PM
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Jealousy games are not acceptable

These women somehow think that it's part of a healthy relationship
post 1694071343 11-28-2023, 05:49 PM
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Originally Posted By Evolutionary1⏩
These Toxic people will do all this insane behavior and still insist that you are the problem...
Yup facts
post 1694071463 11-28-2023, 05:51 PM
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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88⏩
It ended on my terms after I realized things were not going to get better so I would say no it wasn't that difficult to get over. If it would've ended years before that when I was still infatuated with her potential then yes it would've been more difficult to get over.

I was relieved and excited for the next chapter of my life once the dust settled and I got my feet back on the ground.
Makes sense.. You left when you're attraction level for her wasn't at its peak, so it didn't hurt that much and you felt better chicks where outhere.

I think being the person who walked away helps a little too.

Being Dumped.. Rejection often leads to obsessed.
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Also they blatantly lie about you and think no one notices...
post 1694082163 11-28-2023, 09:57 PM
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I never realized how d lettuce makes some people so delusional
post 1694112133 11-29-2023, 12:51 PM
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playing mind games 24/7 instead of maintaining trust
post 1694133523 11-29-2023, 08:01 PM
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I swear all women are toxic


psychological torture equates to love for them
post 1694144113 11-30-2023, 03:04 AM
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Have you guys ever stuck around with a girl because she is very attractive, but has toxic traits?

Is it ever worth it in the long run.
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Originally Posted By BulletDodged⏩
And her previous relationship apparently was also toxic with the last guy.
Let me explain something to you broseph. All women ALWAYS had toxic relationships, every. single. time.
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Originally Posted By BulletDodged⏩
Have you guys ever stuck around with a girl because she is very attractive, but has toxic traits?

Is it ever worth it in the long run.
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Originally Posted By HoustonMiscer⏩
strong username to answer to question ratio
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You're obsession is bordering harassment at this point
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Originally Posted By elterrible987⏩
Let me explain something to you broseph. All women ALWAYS had toxic relationships, every. single. time.
Facts

They always say, my last relationship was toxic.. He was a toxic guy etc
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Yup

But always two sides to a toxic relationship. If you enabled it without leaving for a long period of time, you were part of the problem and need to work on yourself to prevent it from happening again. Narcissists and toxic individuals will never learn from a toxic relationship, but codependents often can.
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Originally Posted By EiFit91⏩
Yup

But always two sides to a toxic relationship. If you enabled it without leaving for a long period of time, you were part of the problem and need to work on yourself to prevent it from happening again. Narcissists and toxic individuals will never learn from a toxic relationship, but codependents often can.
I left pretty early. Within 8 months I realised she had serious anger issues, so I dumped her and walked.

8 months is still too long.. I recommend when you see those red flags, you run immediately.

You cannot fix broken women.
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