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post 1697106033 01-28-2024, 07:29 PM
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a few family members died in a car accident this yesterday

immediate family and a relative. i wasn't very close to them but now i feel like i'm on the verge of a full blown mental breakdown. i've contemplated ending it. my mind is so out of wack. suddenly i don't give a chit about anything and have been lashing out at people today. i've been really depressed before and i don't get why this is happening to me since i wasn't really close to those family members in the first place


what the actual **** do i do
post 1697106383 01-28-2024, 07:33 PM
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post 1697106813 01-28-2024, 07:39 PM
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The fukk is killing yourself going to do?

Won’t make you feel better

Won’t bring them back

You **** up other people mentally

Sorry to hear it that’s sad AF. Nothing we say will make it better. Only time and grieving will do that.
post 1697106863 01-28-2024, 07:40 PM
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Loved ones dying is something that happens to almost all of us sooner or later. All you can do is give it time bro.

Go through the motions, do the things you have to do. Eat well, exercise. Spend time with others. Slowly you'll start to come good.
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post 1697107103 01-28-2024, 07:45 PM
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let this be a lesson.

I've been saying it since forever...do not be a carcel (i have a prius ...and a toyota truck I rarely drive). Driving is simply the most dangerous thing most people do.

you should value life more and value driving less.
post 1697107203 01-28-2024, 07:47 PM
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Originally Posted By andrepmeet⏩
let this be a lesson.

I've been saying it since forever...do not be a carcel (i have a prius ...and a toyota truck I rarely drive). Driving is simply the most dangerous thing most people do.

you should value life more and value driving less.
The older I get the more I realize this. It’s very sad and people treat driving extremely lightly like it’s a game. Our license tests should be 100x harder.
post 1697107293 01-28-2024, 07:49 PM
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Originally Posted By andrepmeet⏩
let this be a lesson.

I've been saying it since forever...do not be a carcel (i have a prius ...and a toyota truck I rarely drive). Driving is simply the most dangerous thing most people do.

you should value life more and value driving less.
I know someone who's late 20s wife and son died in car crash. 5 year old sister survived. Dad was at work.


He said worst part is his daughter misses her brother/mom(not the actual deaths but the surviving child's grief).


Agree that being a carcell is overrated. Buying a safe car is paramount to me with kids. Also avoid driving at night if possible
post 1697107443 01-28-2024, 07:52 PM
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Originally Posted By Guyfawkes1010⏩
The older I get the more I realize this. It’s very sad and people treat driving extremely lightly like it’s a game. Our license tests should be 100x harder.
the truly shocking thing is there aren't many many more accidents.

Been driving like a grandma since forever. ....yesterday I saw 3 cars pass by on the freeway all within 10ft of each other going 75mph. I was driving muh prius like 55mph in the right lane and thought....only one thing has to go wrong for all three of those cars people to be ended (it was also rainy, dark).

I like the design & engineering of cars but the whole going fast imperative is really for low IQ people, don't care how much money they have to buy said fast car.
post 1697107523 01-28-2024, 07:53 PM
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So sorry for your loss OP.Even if you weren't close it's your family and of course that's going to be super hard. Let yourself grieve.
Originally Posted By Guyfawkes1010⏩
The older I get the more I realize this. It’s very sad and people treat driving extremely lightly like it’s a game. Our license tests should be 100x harder.
That wouldn't do any good since everyone is texting while driving. Not like they'll do that during the test to get flunked.
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post 1697107533 01-28-2024, 07:53 PM
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While the fleeting quality of life may seem discouraging at first, there is a deep wisdom in acknowledging its impermanent nature. Individuals should embrace the splendor of fleeting moments and nurture a sincere appreciation for the encounters they come across.
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post 1697107733 01-28-2024, 07:56 PM
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Also OP you’re probably feeling this way because even though you weren’t close, now you don’t have the opportunity to become close which is probably what hurts the most and has you confused.

So you have to ask yourself how much of your emotions right now is from a sort of selfish greed and how much is actually you being devastated.

Only you can answer that. I wish I had magic words to help but I don’t. Only the experience from losing my family members over time and that it gets better. We’re the lucky ones, we’re still here. All we can do is live for them and ourselves.
post 1697107893 01-28-2024, 07:58 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
So sorry for your loss OP.Even if you weren't close it's your family and of course that's going to be super hard. Let yourself grieve.



That wouldn't do any good since everyone is texting while driving. Not like they'll do that during the test to get flunked.
It would actually do a lot. It would weed out the stupid people, which is why there are so many accidents. It’s not about proving aptitude, it’s about weeding out enough morons.
post 1697108033 01-28-2024, 08:02 PM
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Originally Posted By Guyfawkes1010⏩
The fukk is killing yourself going to do?
No offense but depending on his beliefs the thought process might be that he'd be able to see them again. Maybe don't be a f*cking dumbass retard before oyu respond and try to empathize instead of going off on some rant like you did. I know the intentions meant well but this is a poor attempt to back him down bro.
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post 1697108183 01-28-2024, 08:04 PM
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The first step is to stop posting on your alts so that we can take you srs.

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post 1697111093 01-28-2024, 09:31 PM
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Originally Posted By SoutheastBeast1⏩
No offense but depending on his beliefs the thought process might be that he'd be able to see them again. Maybe don't be a f*cking dumbass retard before oyu respond and try to empathize instead of going off on some rant like you did. I know the intentions meant well but this is a poor attempt to back him down bro.
Shut your bitch ass up.
post 1697111803 01-28-2024, 09:52 PM
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Originally Posted By 8pieces⏩
define immediate family
Don’t do that


To OP: i’m so sorry for you bro. don’t stay up too late. darkest thoughts come late at night. eat clean. exercise. reach out to friends to hang out but don’t bear this burden on them too.
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Sorry for your loss OP.

Try to have patience and grace for those around you. Especially those that may not know/understand what you are dealing with.

But like others have said, give yourself permission and time to grieve. Take care of your health. And make effort to spend time with those in your life that you are the closest to.

You're gonna get through it. Time is always the best medicine.
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post 1697112193 01-28-2024, 10:10 PM
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Sorry for your loss bud! I’ve lost many people in my lift including my best friend two years back in a car crash.
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My mom always said that a car shouldn't take more than 3 family members at a time. Idk what that meant at that time
post 1697113343 01-28-2024, 11:00 PM
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stay strong brother, they wouldn't want you to end it

live on for them
post 1697113453 01-28-2024, 11:07 PM
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Originally Posted By Brommando⏩
My mom always said that a car shouldn't take more than 3 family members at a time. Idk what that meant at that time
it's smart. carrying a family of four in two separate cars so that if there's an accident atleast two people survive.
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post 1697113653 01-28-2024, 11:22 PM
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Sounds like an existential crisis

Everyone dies b, hang in there, the wound becomes easier to live with overtime
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