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post 1697700853 02-11-2024, 08:55 AM
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Where should a man be in life at 30?

Or where shouldn’t he be? Ideally, in your opinion.
post 1697700883 02-11-2024, 08:57 AM
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post 1697700933 02-11-2024, 08:58 AM
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Originally Posted By LethalGunz34
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damn im 38
post 1697701023 02-11-2024, 08:59 AM
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Depending on where they're from. If they're from a first world country, have a decent job. If they're from a third world country, they're SOL
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post 1697701133 02-11-2024, 09:03 AM
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Not asking strangers on the internet where they should be.
post 1697701153 02-11-2024, 09:04 AM
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Playing with his kids, not playing with his penis.
post 1697701353 02-11-2024, 09:09 AM
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Settled.

At 30 I truly believe a man should have already been married, established in his career, attained homeownership and either had children or be in a position to do so imminently.

I’m 27 and that’s my goal, at least…
post 1697701363 02-11-2024, 09:10 AM
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That about the time Jesus Christ started his ministry. 12 disciples dropped everything and followed him
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post 1697701693 02-11-2024, 09:20 AM
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If you have a wife and parents who love you you're doing better than most
post 1697701813 02-11-2024, 09:23 AM
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Doing the best u fkn can thats where. Comparison will **** you & its a trap.
Some people are spoonfed & make it early. Some people never had a chance.

But if you doing the best u can, you will feel good no matter the age
post 1697701913 02-11-2024, 09:27 AM
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Originally Posted By bhicks3712
That about the time Jesus Christ started his ministry. 12 disciples dropped everything and followed him
If a man is not following Jesus, it does not matter what he has attained in life. A man can die tomorrow, and end up spending an eternity in hell.

You have but one life and it shall soon pass, only what is done for Christ will last.
post 1697702023 02-11-2024, 09:29 AM
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Self sufficiency is a must at this age, you should not be relying on anyone for anything, financially, emotionally, whatever.

Having a SO at this point is important too..But clown world has ****ed things up pretty good where allot of successful, well established people are still single

Same with having kids..Clown world fuked up the nuclear family

A man should also have a high risk tolerance at this age and a strong mind with high emotional intelligence
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post 1697702173 02-11-2024, 09:34 AM
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Originally Posted By dopamine72
Self sufficiency is a must at this age, you should not be relying on anyone for anything, financially, emotionally, whatever.

Having a SO at this point is important too..But clown world has ****ed things up pretty good where allot of successful, well established people are still single

Same with having kids..Clown world fuked up the nuclear family

A man should also have a high risk tolerance at this age and a strong mind with high emotional intelligence
This is some bullcrap insecurity.
Had you had high emotional intelligence youd know that. You really cant take nobodys words for value, its 99% time people projecting.
post 1697702243 02-11-2024, 09:36 AM
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On the Misc.
post 1697702253 02-11-2024, 09:36 AM
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Originally Posted By LonelyHustler
This is some bullcrap insecurity.
Had you had high emotional intelligence youd know that. You really cant take nobodys words for value, its 99% time people projecting.
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lol
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post 1697702923 02-11-2024, 09:56 AM
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Originally Posted By dopamine72
Self sufficiency is a must at this age, you should not be relying on anyone for anything, financially, emotionally, whatever.

Having a SO at this point is important too..But clown world has ****ed things up pretty good where allot of successful, well established people are still single

Same with having kids..Clown world fuked up the nuclear family

A man should also have a high risk tolerance at this age and a strong mind with high emotional intelligence
Also learn that the corporate workplace is 95% social politics and 5% doing enough to cover your own ass
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post 1697703243 02-11-2024, 10:05 AM
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By 30 you should have at least 500,000 reps on the misc.
post 1697703333 02-11-2024, 10:06 AM
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There's societies opinion, your family's opinion, and then your opinion op.

Your opinion is the most important
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post 1697703423 02-11-2024, 10:08 AM
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Originally Posted By dopamine72
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lol
To your neg, im not gonna explain myself to you because its fuk all. My 1st post was /thread for this
You can read it & think about it, but if you dont get it. I cant help u my man
post 1697703493 02-11-2024, 10:11 AM
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You're running a race against yourself. It's not like there's time checkpoints you have to hit, and if you miss them, what happens?

If there is a clock, it's the fertility window to have a family. Most of your traditional society's expectations were geared towards getting men and women to be self-sufficient enough to raise dependents by the end of puberty, early 20s-ish.

But if you're not having children - and that's almost become the norm rather than the exception in clown world - things get much simpler. Want to sponge off your parents for life and whack off to anime in their basement? Sure, what's wrong with that? If it's a stable arrangement, you can literally keep that up until they die.

Again, you're running your own race. If you want a family, there's probably checkpoints you want to hit. But if that's not the direction you choose, those aren't the checkpoints you need to hold yourself to.
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post 1697703683 02-11-2024, 10:17 AM
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>100k/year income
own place with a decent size 3+ rooms
Car bigger than a VW Polo, Seat Ibiza kind of deal
50+ slay count (no whores)
Visible abs
Able to run 10k with a decent pace
20k+ invested

Something like this
post 1697703753 02-11-2024, 10:19 AM
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On the journey.

By 30, you should have decided what direction you want to follow in life and be following it. You don't need to be rich, or have a wife and kids, but you need to have decided roughly what you want to do with your life.
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post 1697704203 02-11-2024, 10:36 AM
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Originally Posted By JackyChin
If you have a wife and parents who love you you're doing better than most
Damn…

That struck me right in the feelz.
post 1697704463 02-11-2024, 10:44 AM
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These are the three pillars IMO.

Sex and Relationships
MINIMUM: Not a virgin, had at least 1 LTR in your life (2+ years long)
RECOMMENDED: 5+ Kill count and/or a very worthwhile LTR
GIGACHAD: 10+ Kill count and/or marriage

Disclaimer: Paying for sex doesn't count. 90 day fiance-esque immigrant doesn't count for marriage unless she's hot AF and/or high net worth, as well as being 100% confirmed loyal long term.

Finances and career
MINIMUM: $50k+ net worth, $80k/yr income, minimal debts (below $20k debt)
RECOMMENDED: $200k+ net worth, $125k/yr income, minimal or zero debts outside of a mortgage
GIGACHAD: $750k+ net worth, $200k/yr income, investments afford your cost of living on its own

Disclaimer: Inheritance doesn't count. Income numbers are gross pay, MINUS your debts/alimony/whatever. If your area is particularly expensive, multiply numbers by 1.5x. If your area is particularly cheap, multiply numbers by 0.8x.

Physique
MINIMUM: Below 25% bodyfat, decent amount of muscle with some fat, people know you go to the gym
RECOMMENDED: Below 20% bodyfat, mostly muscle, people are envious of you
GIGACHAD: Below 15% bodyfat, mostly muscle, take the shirt off and girls are wet

Disclaimer: You must have muscle as indicated.
post 1697704513 02-11-2024, 10:44 AM
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There is no 'should'. Nobody's opinions really matters outside of your own

Even if you hit societal milestones its not like you get some prize, cause nobody gives a chit what you do with your own life. aslong as you aren't impacting theirs
post 1697704583 02-11-2024, 10:46 AM
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probably wherever they'd end up after following the newest commandment in the form of the greatest love known to man (John 15:13)
applied probabilistic combinatorics
post 1697704793 02-11-2024, 10:53 AM
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Originally Posted By LonelyHustler
To your neg, im not gonna explain myself to you because its fuk all. My 1st post was /thread for this
You can read it & think about it, but if you dont get it. I cant help u my man
Classic example of an idiot right here

You gave no reasoning to your response, just: "This is some Bullcrap insecurity" lol

I'm speaking for the people who are doing well but still aren't married with kids, the world is entirely different today boyo
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post 1697704803 02-11-2024, 10:53 AM
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Originally Posted By Paul
If a man is not following Jesus, it does not matter what he has attained in life. A man can die tomorrow, and end up spending an eternity in hell.

You have but one life and it shall soon pass, only what is done for Christ will last.
What a sadistic cult
post 1697705583 02-11-2024, 11:18 AM
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Lmao. So pointless to create a list. It doesn't matter what your age is - if you are happy with where your life is at and where it is going, that is all that matters. End of story. Who cares what other people think or what societal norms are.

And I say this as someone that has followed "the template" -> go to school -> get good jobs -> find a wife -> start a family and buy a home.
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post 1697705723 02-11-2024, 11:24 AM
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Not being a wageslave or incel

Everything else is cope
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