About me:

Reasonably attractive, one year post sliding genioplasty (this is jaw surgery, but technically a chin surgery), 12% bf, 6'0.5 tall, 208 lbs, 37 years old, master's degree, make six figures, overall net worth six figures, own a house, own two cars, decent remote job, basically a full head of hair, no kids (a young sibiling of mine does live in my house rent free trying to help them get their chit together), not much I should complain about?

Feel depressed and My life is boring af. I work remote from home, which I am greatful for. This has made me, as an introvert naturally, even more autistic AF. When i go out in public, especially with a pretty chick, but in general, I feel uncomfortable AF. I don't remember having this much social anxiety/akwardness when I worked a regular job.

I have no friends, I tried to make a few friends in the past few months. None of it worked out. I never really had many friends anyways since after highschool, although there were a few periods in my life where I did have a small group of friends which has faded away. At this point in my life though, i do believe I would benefit greatly from having a few great friends. But again, i don't tend to trust most men. I do eventually wind up with pretty attractive women, and for that reason I have always kept my women seperate from any guy friends because i don't trust the situation or the dudes I have met. I would like to have a guy friend I actually could trust and bring a chick around, but it isn't really all that important.

I have been talking to a lady for about six months now. She for sure eggshells me or stays mad for way too long every time something is bad. Sure, I am to blame for a lot of it. I am for sure riddled with insecurities which has contributed to ruining alot of whatever relationship we did have. For instance, on sunday, I called her in the late afternoon to go and do something, and she did not return my call. Six hours went by, and it was 1030pm. I called her later that night, pissed off. I was pretty much saying to her," wtf? Who does not return someone's call or at least text them back in a 6-hour window?, wtf have you been doing all day?" Her response made everything worse, basically her stating she forgot I had called her and she doesn't have to tell me to chit about her day. This lead to further disagreement and another break up or whatever. I called her a few times, we spoke, but at this point I have not heard back from her. I do believe I ruin alot of my relationships because of similar events like mentioned above. I do not really trust women in general I guess. I m assuming she is done with me at this point.

I am really just so bored in life, stressed about stupid chit and want a stable partner. I do not want to go back to online dating, but probably will have to. How long should I stay off of dating apps to try and recover? what should I do with my life outside of gym/work? I am so bored it hurts. I lay on my couch and watch youtube videos when I am not working, going to gym, or doing some type of house projects.. What is the point?

Brah, you need jesus.

Go out into nature or a park and just take in the scenery.

Pop in some old school Halo and just reminisce on the good times.

Do you have any hobbies?

Church or volunteering is a good way to meet high-quality people while killing boredom.

try sterons

you arent 12 % at over 200lbs bro. youre probably 18-22%

I go to the beach all the time, quiet beaches often. It doesn't work that much anymore.
I do play some d2 sometimes. I need jesus sure, i also just need someone loyal partner who doesn't get flaky when chit goes bad. Just move forward from it and turn the page. Ain't worth dwelling on stupid chit all day.my hobbies are probably working on my garden (roses), gym, working on cars/small house projects, going to the beach, thats about it man. IDK church is like a subscription, don't you have to pay a good chunk if you want to attend and not look like a douche bag?i m not though, lol..

Just travel man

Do what nonsense does, he gets pissy drunk for confidence and then talks to girls.

Brutal.

I have a feeling he is posting naked pics with his cousin or his inbred sister.

Are there any local groups/clubs you could join? A gardening club or a volunteer group? That would give you some interaction around a shared common interest that can help alleviate the anxiety.

Another suggestion is to try getting more sunshine and taking in some different scenery.

Wish you the best brah!!

not the best lighting. i think 12% is fair. I ve been natural bodybuildign for 20 years straight.i tried, but the sun bothers my seb derm. But serious, i dont like to travel alone.I don't drink, if I do it is rare.
sometimes I do want to move. I am bored of my area, maybe that would help, but I shouldnt need to do that to enjoy life. I like the idea of a gardening club, it ll probably be all old ladies. Not a bad idea.

no need to move to get new scenery, could go to a park you dont usually go to for a walk or something like that.

well just dont lieto yourslf about it. if you have a pump especially

'i m off today, i m going to go for a walk.what man, i been training for over 20 years, almost 21. that is not a full pump. That is me in my bathroom at my house. a pump would have been in the gym. As i sit here typing right now I have veins in my arms and legs.

remote job is nice but just because you can work from home doesn't mean you have to

work from a cafe, look around for coworking spaces, doesn't have to be an every day thing but try and get out of the house as much as you can. there's an athenaeum nearby me that has an annual membership and is easily one of the nicest places ive ever sat with a laptop to work

Going for a walk is good, try going a different place/route from the usual.

Being afraid to bring a girl around guy friends because they'll steal her? That's messed up. Never crossed my mind.
Def worth trying therapy/life coach/dating coach.

What do you mean a girl you were "talking to?"
Were you dating without a label/sleeping together?
After 6 months yeah I would expect a text back saying I'm busy until xxx time and will chat then so that relationship doesn't sound like it's worth trying to salvage.

Do you read when you go to the beach? Maybe join a book club?

ok i will try something differenti work with 5 screens! would be hard to use just a laptop. i ve been slowly looking for a job nearby, so i could have the option to drive in.plenty of guys try to steal your girl. Low key message her when you are together, or go after her after a break up.

Yes we were in a relationship. I mean its not the first time she didnt get back right away, usually would have to double call her or text her and she d respond. She could have just legit forgot about it, but I never do that to her.

I don't read that much anymore,but have in the past. Yes, i m driinking one more coffee and going for a long walk at a different beach.

If a guy did that he's a chitty friend and if a girl is that susceptible to it then she's not the one for you.

I'd look towards joining a rec sports club/league to meet people too. Pickleball is all the rage lately - could be worth a try.

i think most men are chitty friends. it is just as hard to find a unicorn friend as it is to find a unicorn partner, i think, at least.

I called her a few times today. No response. Chit not looking good. What do I do

You stop calling. That's what you do.

Ok any other advice

Move on. She's not showing she values you.

It'll hurt in the short term but you can focus your energy elsewhere and eventually find someone who does.

lol at that list. none of that chit matters when you have a defective brain

I know if you were bald you would have just blamed all your issues on being bald, funny how that is.

Try skydiving. Makes you feel alive and everyone is having a great time. Dropzones all over and it’s not that expensive. Typically only $24-30 a jump

That is such a short event. It’s not practical for someone like me. I m looking for ways to fill in my empty time on a weekly basis to avoid loniless I guess.Maybe she ll reach back out who knows. She has before. Isn’t the first time she got this way. Hate it though. How long do I need before I go back to dating apps

There's no one size fits all answer here.

If you're heartbroken/emotionally unavailable/don't want a relationship you can still go on the apps in search of something less serious (just be honest about it).

If you only miss her because you're lonely and aren't that upset about losing her you can go ahead and start looking again. Don't get too caught up in the apps though. They can bring you down when you don't feel at your best as it is and can suck your time and energy you could be using in a way more productive way to benefit you longterm.

Get some social hobbies like sports or rock climbing

Delete her number ded fkin srs