When I was growing up I had dozens of friends I would hang out with on a regular basis. Life was like a teen movie. There was the core group of about 8 dudes who were my boys. They knew my family, we stayed at each others homes. Then we had a bunch of kids at school, friends of friends, girlfriends or siblings of theirs, people we’d play sports with or whatever who’d come around including older kids in the neighborhood. There was never a weekend that went by without seeing all of these people. I still have a photo from one night when I was 17. We were walking around literally 50 deep, drinking and smoking by the park. I felt invincible and life felt infinite.

Then after high school everyone slowly drifted away. My core group dwindled down to 2 or 3 by my mid-20s. A few of my friends became junkies or scumbags. Others moved away. A couple died.

Now I’m 29 years old and I only have one friend left (srs).

We only hang out a couple times a year. I saw him after New Years and it was great, but most of the time we’re too busy to actually meet up so it’s just occasional texts or calls.

I can’t help but to mourn the old days. It was awesome having so many meaningful, fulfilling, adventurous friendships with people my age.

Adulthood is lonely brahs.

Is this how the rest of life is gonna go?

When I was growing up I had dozens of friends I would hang out with on a regular basis. Life was like a teen movie. There was the core group of about 8 dudes who were my boys. They knew my family, we stayed at each others homes. Then we had a bunch of kids at school, friends of friends, girlfriends or siblings of theirs, people we’d play sports with or whatever who’d come around including older kids in the neighborhood. There was never a weekend that went by without seeing all of these people. I still have a photo from one night when I was 17. We were walking around literally 50 deep, drinking and smoking by the park. I felt invincible and life felt infinite.

Then after high school everyone slowly drifted away. My core group dwindled down to 2 or 3 by my mid-20s. A few of my friends became junkies or scumbags. Others moved away. A couple died.

Now I’m 29 years old and I only have one friend left (srs).

We only hang out a couple times a year. I saw him after New Years and it was great, but most of the time we’re too busy to actually meet up so it’s just occasional texts or calls.

Is this how the rest of life is gonna go?

I've noticed that when people's group activity revolves around drinking, it's not a good glue to keep people together. You need to find real hobbies and do them and you will run into people who enjoy the same hobbies and develop friendships based off of that. That's creates a much more substantive group of friends

In retrospect, most of my friends growing up were burnout losers. I wasn’t even really a drinker and I don’t drink at all anymore, but you’re right that the main activity of the extended crew was getting drunk or high and just hanging out. Not my core group though.

The problem with making friends as an adult is that the relationships become entirely transactional. I hate that shit. Nobody wants to associate with you unless there’s something they can get out of it. Whether that is to network or gain an advantage in a particular career/passion, elevate their social status, or befriend each other because their kids play on the same soccer league, 90% of friendships after 25 seem to be shallow.

When I was younger, you could be close friends with anyone from any background whatsoever just because. Nobody thought in these parasitic, opportunistic terms.

And his crying thread of the day.. you've made this thread numerous times and various miscers have told you to get hobbies and get into those communities and make friends. but since your so anti-social, you wont. just face facts tours over.

I'm your friend brah. You aren't alone anymore.

I picked up camping as a hobby but I’ll never go with richstrong again. It wasn’t that cold out and he was still trying to share a sleeping bag

normal in the west. even worse is with mass immigration, they stick to their own group, while we are just used , the greedy leave it all behind for more money to rape our country resources. I'm so sick of it. but they are living it up, having a ball with their own races, ungrateful and rude to the generous westerners. they then have dual citizenship, so use us for our money, our free healthcare, then they buy up mansions and slaves in their own country. whenever they want premium holiday time off, they just claim a family member is sick overseas, and live it up there for months. where we can't buy properties or work in their countries, while they steal our wealth and use us, then live like kings back in their 3rd world cheap countries.
absolutely pissening! and I don't blame them, I blame the fuken VelociKarens

Why do some of you guys get depressed for not having friends, a gf, or a family? srs. You're not going to necessarily be happier with or without them.

Why do some of you guys get depressed for not having friends, a gf, or a family? srs. You're not going to necessarily be happier with or without them.