It seems like every other Millennial and Zoomer these days has gone no contact with their parents. There are whole communities centered around “estranged kids.” I can’t even imagine the devastation this is causing. Society will be far worse off with this behavior becoming acceptable. We gotta stop this shit mane.

Speaking from experience, I went years without seeing or talking to my own mother. She was imperfect, but she had me when she was 20 years old. Basically just a kid herself. Through self reflection and growth, I finally forgave her for her mistakes last year. My life has become exponentially better since then. It’s like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and my spirit has been healed. I only regret not reconnecting sooner.

But kids don’t think about the pain they’re unjustly inflicting on their own parents.

My half-sister cut off all contact with my dad about 10 years ago when she was just starting high school. Long story short, she was raised by her mom, who brainwashed her into believing our entire side of the family hated her. That in turn made her hateful. Now she’s a grown woman (covered in tattoos and piercings) and she carries that hatred with her.

Of course she still begged my father for money constantly, and he would never hesitate to give his last dollar. The fucked up part is he always loved her and made it known. When he had a stroke last year, he desperately reached out to my sister, but she couldn’t even be bothered to show up at the hospital. Even worse, it took her a month to text him back.

Now, I don’t know what she said or did because he won’t say, but since then my dad has been unusually depressed, drinking himself to sleep and he even threw away a bunch of photos of them together. Now he’s telling me to make sure she gets nothing when he dies.

Think about that shit. You’ve spent your life devoted to your child, doing everything you can to care for them, and in return they spit in your face. I would be broken.

These ungrateful, entitled, fucking pieces of shit need to realize that going N/C is the lazy way out. Unless your parents were truly abusive in the most heinous ways (physically, sexually), most people would benefit from maintaining some relationship with them. You can set boundaries, you can live your own life, but cutting them off completely is not only heartless and cruel, it’s some pussy shit.

Family is everything.

Discuss.

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Damn that is rough.

Sounds like she is bound to be a lonely cat lady

I agree, and it's usually over political shit. Liberal kids "cutting off" their parents because they're brainwashed from social media

I agree. Always pisses me off hearing those people and their sob story about some minor childhood neglect.
I think the only acceptable reason to go nc on your parents is if they actually abused you.
But if you got your ass kicked for getting out of line man stfu.

Didn't read

Everyone is dealt different cards

Some parents are real pos and writing them off is better than keeping them around

Like any other person

If you had parents that were good to you ,I envy you ,I really do

Yeah I was in one of those children of narcissist parent groups- my mom has problems but I don’t hate her. She did the best she could. I really don’t like her at times and she’s still selfish but that’s who she is. It is what it is

Edit- I had to leave the group because they all seemed like the apple didn’t fall far from the tree

I don't know anyone who is completely NC with their parents (srs)

Buy yeah I can see if they're completely abusive and/or toxic and are actively sabotaging your life why you may need to go NC

I think this is mainly an American thing. As for your case your mother being 20 isn't an excuse because i'd say majority of us Millennials mothers had us in their early 20s. My mother was 21.  The elves have been trying to destroy the nuclear family in the west for the past like 30 years 
This unless you were SA'd or constantly beaten for no reason or your parents were crack heads or some wild shit like that... I would understand.

So you're upset zoomers are doing the exact same thing you did when you were younger OP?

Lmfao

Damn now that you put it that way.....

TLDR

I like how they call MAGA a cult, like cutting off your friends and family isn't cult behavior.

Definitely. My sister is a huge liberal lunatic too, she has the gay and trans flags in her social media bios, neon colored hair, etc. My dad is a Trump supporter so I'm sure that plays a part. I really dislike her for the way she's treated our pops too. Fucking cunt.

Right bro. These people will cry "my parents are narcissists" when THEY are the ones making it all about themselves. 90% of them never got abused either. They just disagreed with their parent's opinions or are overly sensitive.

I stumbled across /r/EstrangedAdultKids on Reddit and ho lee fook these people are mentally ill. They'll screenshot loving texts from their parents wishing them a happy birthday or trying to reconnect and the selfish bastards will be like "see what I have to deal with." Mind you, these people are in their 30s and 40s or even older. You can tell some of these parents are genuinely crushed and confused, they can't understand why their child cut them off.


I suppose. But you live and you learn. My main issue was resentment due to the fact that my mom moved 500 miles away when I was 7 years old right after losing a custody battle. I felt abandoned, even despite visiting her regularly. Then as I grew up, I watched her raise a new set of kids the proper way. They are 17-19 years younger than me and get everything I felt like I deserved - private school educations, a 2-parent household, a $700k home in a beautiful neighborhood. I had to grow up in the inner city, struggling in poverty, raised by a single dad. Which also pissed me off because when she moved away, she was a waitress at a diner. Today she's a high six figure earner. Meanwhile my dad had to bust his ass working multiple dead end jobs at a time just to barely put food on the table. He's broke and in poor health today because of it.

It took years of maturity for me to realize my mom actually did the best she could given the circumstances. People who cut ties with their parents don't have the mental or emotional capacity to put themselves in their shoes. Almost like a Monday morning quarterback. Unless you've lived their experience, you're bitching about shit you know nothing about.

Didn't read any of that but I very much agree on almost all cases.

Only exceptions being if they were abusive or absent parents.

If they were below average parents who did try but just weren't really good at it that's not their fault and honestly they probably still sacrificed quite a bit for you even with that below average result. Shitty thing to do to go no contact on someone that's done far more for you than you have for them.

These liberal **** who go no contact with parents that don't agree with their political views are the lowest of the low scumbags.

My brother does this to not only my parents but the rest of my family too. He has severe anxiety tho.

I’ve gone out with plenty of women who say they’re NC with a parent or both. They typically say it shamelessly, too. I feel embarrassed for them.

Im estranged NC for 10 years.

Fuck ur judgement.

Nah ur wrong OP.

A child leaving their parents is their absolute last resort. Meaning they justified every single reason to stay and couldn't find one. They exhausted and ruminated through any bit of excuse to stay and nope. None.

You on the other hand left ur mother because YOU were an ungrateful, emotional prick. And later realized how stupid as hell you were and ur mother wasnt too bad after all. Not everyone is as stupid and impulsive as you OP.

Most of these kids are cutting their parents off because of back the blue flags, or their parents supporting ICE. It's cringe af and gay af. Like everything, Zoomers/young Millenials think the world revolves around them and their desire to degenmaxx or be an individual. Everyone I've known with truly traumatizing upbringing still tries to make amends with their parents. Honestly, they are probably just blowing smoke online while still asking their parents for money behind the scenes.

Brutal

Yeah always crazy beetches in my experience.

Not having good relationship with her father = she's one crazy ass bitch.

I can understand white people going NC with their parents because their parents arbitrarily kicked them out at 18. But other cultures, really no excuse for not having a good relationship with their parents - and no, them disapproving of you wanting to become the village bicycle is not a valid reason for going NC with your parents.

Whenever I hear these stories it’s always some tds liberal who refuses to talk to there family most adults can put there differences aside but not them OP if I was you I’d have the old man make a will explicitly stating she gets nothing while he’s still alive