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post 10000155359 05-06-2026, 05:54 PM
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Showing up to an online date heavier than my pics? (srs)

Hey fellas! Question for you all.

This woman who is 35 (I'm 36) messaged me on a dating app (not the mainstream ones, this one is for minorities) and is very keen on meeting. Problem is, my pics are old, and I've put on some weight. I'm not obese by any stretch, but my jawline isn't as defined, and my cheeks aren't as hollow as they normally are. I'm cutting and am probably 3 months away from looking better than my pics.

Is this something I could explain on the date and get away with? Are older women more forgiving? I was thinking of mentioning I'm cutting weight for summer and just being honest about it.

I have to say this woman is basically a 9/10. Normally I wouldn't date any woman over 31 or so, but this woman looks pretty young for her age and clears half a million per year. But I'm very skeptical because 35 is OLD... I could definitely find younger women.

Is it even worth it? I'm just thinking that in 4-5 years she will be 40.. and I look 10 years younger than my age. I'm not sure her beauty is worth the compromise in age.
post 10000155366 05-06-2026, 05:56 PM
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Go for it bro

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post 10000155370 05-06-2026, 05:58 PM
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The pics don't seem to be loading
post 10000155371 05-06-2026, 05:59 PM
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Originally Posted By ayyylmao
but this woman looks pretty young for her age and clears half a million per year.
Prediction: OP's next thread is about how he's missing a kidney
"One day I won't be able to lift any more. Not I won't want to lift. I mean physically unable. That day could be decades from now or it could be tomorrow. All I know is that's the day I'll wish I could lift more than ever. The day I'd give anything for one more workout, one more set, or one more cardio session. So go hard and enjoy every workout, every set, every rep. Because one day you will wake up and you will never get it back."
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post 10000155373 05-06-2026, 06:01 PM
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She's also heavier than her pics
post 10000155375 05-06-2026, 06:02 PM
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NO reason to fraud as a man on dating apps

you're good looking or you're not
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post 10000155378 05-06-2026, 06:03 PM
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Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig
NO reason to fraud as a man on dating apps

you're good looking or you're not
It's not an intentional fraud. I don't use the dating app, I just happened to check it and this woman messaged me.

I'm normally as good looking as my picture, it's just that I'm in the middle of a cut right now and am not there yet.
post 10000155386 05-06-2026, 06:06 PM
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post 10000155397 05-06-2026, 06:14 PM
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Originally Posted By ayyylmao
I'm in the middle of a cut right now and am not there yet.
This has become the misc mantra.
post 10000155402 05-06-2026, 06:19 PM
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Originally Posted By ayyylmao
It's not an intentional fraud. I don't use the dating app, I just happened to check it and this woman messaged me.

I'm normally as good looking as my picture, it's just that I'm in the middle of a cut right now and am not there yet.
fair enough

send some recent pics so there's no surprise and smash that cunny brah
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post 10000155414 05-06-2026, 06:26 PM
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post 10000155417 05-06-2026, 06:27 PM
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35 is old?! Jesus christ what is wrong with you people?!

Go on your date and see where it goes...
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post 10000155427 05-06-2026, 06:31 PM
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Originally Posted By kimm4
35 is old?! Jesus christ what is wrong with you people?!

Go on your date and see where it goes...
It's not old when considering the entire age spectrum, but I could be dating a much younger woman.

And for me since I look much younger than my age, I don't want to be dating a woman that might look older than me in the near future.
post 10000155446 05-06-2026, 06:46 PM
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Originally Posted By ayyylmao
It's not old when considering the entire age spectrum, but I could be dating a much younger woman.
So why aren't you?

LOL'd...
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post 10000155460 05-06-2026, 06:54 PM
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Originally Posted By ayyylmao
It's not old when considering the entire age spectrum, but I could be dating a much younger woman.

And for me since I look much younger than my age, I don't want to be dating a woman that might look older than me in the near future.
You're red, fat, and more than likely a manlet. You'd be lucky to get a second date with an obese 35 year old
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post 10000155464 05-06-2026, 06:56 PM
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Originally Posted By kimm4
So why aren't you?

LOL'd...
Because I'm not currently looking to date; have other priorities. This woman just happened to direct message me and given how attractive she is, I couldn't pass her up.
post 10000155469 05-06-2026, 07:00 PM
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Originally Posted By TheParish
The pics don't seem to be loading
This gonna need a irl pic and pic you used
post 10000155473 05-06-2026, 07:02 PM
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Originally Posted By Basedbabyy
This gonna need a irl pic and pic you used
Just LOL @ thinking someone is going to post pics and get themselves detectived.
post 10000155474 05-06-2026, 07:03 PM
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Originally Posted By tripod29
This has become the misc mantra.
Been cutting the same 10lbs for 5 years crew
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