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Thread: How many of you know how to approach an attractive woman?

post 10000253172 Yesterday, 01:20 PM
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How many of you know how to approach an attractive woman?

Say any woman above 7.5 looks scale.

Can you approach anywhere or does it need to be a certain venue?



Are you:

Knees weak arms spaghetti?

Okay, but suck?

You can get the digits but get ghosted?

You can get digits, date, and smash?
post 10000253184 Yesterday, 01:27 PM
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it can be anywhere - but bar or gym is best - but you must follow this flowchart IMO - do not try to jump the steps and force it -

eye contact-->smile-->approach-->small talk-->ask out for drink sometime-->exchange numbers
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"I susbscribe to tinyfoiler" works everytime.
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real answer: in a bar

go up and say "wanna have sex"? she either

laughs because she thinks its a joke OR she thinks you are cute and lets it slide

OR

y'know... calls the police
post 10000253212 Yesterday, 01:42 PM
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Originally Posted By GordonXXX⏩
it can be anywhere - but bar or gym is best - but you must follow this flowchart IMO - do not try to jump the steps and force it -

eye contact-->smile-->approach-->small talk-->ask out for drink sometime-->exchange numbers
This.

The hardest approach is when they are least expecting it, like just out shopping or hanging out at a park, but if you have enough balls you can be successful.

Other part is make sure you have a few planned things you can say without even thinking about it. Which requires practice and experience. You can either go with an indirect approach (like "hey, I'm looking for x thing or x place, do you know where it is?") or just be really direct and say you think they're attractive and wanted to introduce yourself.

Expect to be shot down about 95% of the time unless you're pretty damned attractive.
post 10000253213 Yesterday, 01:43 PM
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
"I susbscribe to tinyfoiler" works everytime.
It’s works with ladybois sure
But you still have to pay
post 10000253215 Yesterday, 01:43 PM
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Cold approaching is a thing of the past unless you're a chad. You will creep her out if you're not in here friend group or a mutual friend.
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post 10000253222 Yesterday, 01:47 PM
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Originally Posted By WoofieNugget⏩
This.

The hardest approach is when they are least expecting it, like just out shopping or hanging out at a park, but if you have enough balls you can be successful.

Other part is make sure you have a few planned things you can say without even thinking about it. Which requires practice and experience. You can either go with an indirect approach (like "hey, I'm looking for x thing or x place, do you know where it is?") or just be really direct and say you think they're attractive and wanted to introduce yourself.

Expect to be shot down about 95% of the time unless you're pretty damned attractive.
the trick is to pick out something about her to talk about before you walk over. her hair, outfit, shoes, nails, eyes, smile, laugh whatever. or maybe tell her she looks like XYZ "hot" celebrity. it has to have an element of truth and sincerity. i'm good at this i've been doing it for 35+ years. i have natural charisma and confidence tho - not everyone can pull this off.

also you have to be decent looking. you can't be a slob and expect results. you have to be the best version of yourself you can be - fit and groomed and dressed.
post 10000253232 Yesterday, 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted By GordonXXX⏩
eye contact-->smile-->approach-->small talk-->ask out for drink sometime-->exchange numbers
I see many potential points of failure here.
post 10000253235 Yesterday, 01:55 PM
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I can approach sure.

But then as I get close I walk right by her and keep going.
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post 10000253238 Yesterday, 01:57 PM
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Originally Posted By Mr_83⏩
I see many potential points of failure here.
yes that's the point. you only proceed if you can get to the next step. if you fail you want to do it early. this isn't magic. but using this chain framework you screen out those that aren't interested in you and you cut your losses. not everyone is going to magically like you. but this framework gives you the system to proceed - with caution. you're not going to bat 100%. maybe you close 1/10 or 1/20. but this framework gives you the system to ACT rather than DO NOTHING and never get anywhere. you have to step up to the plate and swing the bat. this is how you do it without getting beaned by the ball.
post 10000253245 Yesterday, 01:59 PM
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Has to be a certain venue- approaching at a farmer's market is different from approaching at a bar; but it's a skill I've honed well
Have fun and be yourself :-)
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Originally Posted By GordonXXX⏩
it can be anywhere - but bar or gym is best - but you must follow this flowchart IMO - do not try to jump the steps and force it -

eye contact-->smile-->approach-->small talk-->ask out for drink sometime-->exchange numbers
Good formula. I hit them with the hungry eyes every now and then to let them know my cawk is aching for them. It's a subtle subconscious cue but guaranteed to make them wet as long as they find me attractive, and most do.
post 10000253277 Yesterday, 02:15 PM
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Originally Posted By MikeLowrrrey⏩
Say any woman above 7.5 looks scale.

Can you approach anywhere or does it need to be a certain venue?



Are you:

Knees weak arms spaghetti?

Okay, but suck?

You can get the digits but get ghosted?

You can get digits, date, and smash?
i was nervous when i was young which i regret i thought it really mattered what i said but now I think it didn't matter at all what i said i'm not very attractive

yes i talk to women when i see beautiful woman i usually say

hi i just had to talk to u u are so gorgeous

or i compliment their dress i say u look so beautiful in that dress

they all smile and say thank you they can tell i'm sincere

and that's basically it tbh doesn't go much further yes i ask for numbers sometimes depends on how it feels but 99% i get "sorry i have a boyfriend" or "i'm not looking for anyone atm" so
I put effort in all my threads srs

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post 10000253282 Yesterday, 02:17 PM
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No point unless your looksmaxxed
post 10000253331 Yesterday, 02:45 PM
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Originally Posted By CocoaButterMage⏩
Has to be a certain venue- approaching at a farmer's market is different from approaching at a bar; but it's a skill I've honed well
What's your approach?
post 10000253336 Yesterday, 02:52 PM
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Originally Posted By GordonXXX⏩
yes that's the point. you only proceed if you can get to the next step. if you fail you want to do it early. this isn't magic. but using this chain framework you screen out those that aren't interested in you and you cut your losses. not everyone is going to magically like you. but this framework gives you the system to proceed - with caution. you're not going to bat 100%. maybe you close 1/10 or 1/20. but this framework gives you the system to ACT rather than DO NOTHING and never get anywhere. you have to step up to the plate and swing the bat. this is how you do it without getting beaned by the ball.
I like the baseball analogies. One hell of a sport. Check out Trevor Bauer's videos if you're interested. He gives a closeup pov of what it's like as a pitcher, even during actual games!
post 10000253339 Yesterday, 02:55 PM
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I suck at (and don't enjoy) small talk with strangers, so I kind of suck when it comes to that. I'm pretty good with women if the ice has been broken in some way, but as far as just "cold approaching" not so much...
post 10000253471 Yesterday, 03:56 PM
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Originally Posted By AMOG⏩
real answer: in a bar

go up and say "wanna have sex"? she either

laughs because she thinks its a joke OR she thinks you are cute and lets it slide

OR

y'know... calls the police
Must be at least 7/10 to get on this ride
post 10000253478 Yesterday, 03:59 PM
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H-h-h-hi.

Works every single time......53.3% of the time.
post 10000253480 Yesterday, 04:00 PM
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Needs to be a certain venue

One my wife isn’t at
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