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post 1611717481 07-26-2020, 11:58 AM
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Wishing you were someone else is cope. You chose your life. (srs)

In light of so many Miscers worshiping athletes, businessmen, lifters, etc., and even posting threads like:

“Who would you rather be: rich person X or good looking person Y?”

I thought I would take this moment to provide you with the following PSA:

People choose the life that they ultimately lead. So if you don’t like where you are at in your life, now is the time to start changing it. If you want to look to others for advice on how to get there, that’s great. But around here, it sometimes starts to look like you’re just obsessing over some dude.

So no matter where you started, you can improve your life. What do you want to do with your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Notice I didn’t ask you how much money you wanted to have or how famous you wanted to be. I asked you what you wanted to do and who you want to be, because you can start moving in that direction right now.

Don’t listen to other negative, depressed Miscers in the echo chamber that is this forum.
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post 1611717681 07-26-2020, 12:00 PM
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Agreed

Nice to see some quality posts up in here, feels like i'm the only one who doesn't think life is one massive red pill sometimes when im on here

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post 1611717801 07-26-2020, 12:02 PM
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post 1611717841 07-26-2020, 12:02 PM
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post 1611717931 07-26-2020, 12:03 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
You can and should always improve your life but thinking that you can fully control your life or have complete agency is wrong. A lot of it is luck and circumstances.

What about small children dying from cancer or getting abused at home? Do you think they chose that life?
As far as I know there are no dead children on this forum reading my posts.

I’m speaking to the adults.

And of course there are things that are not within our control. I’m talking about the things that are within your control.
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post 1611717971 07-26-2020, 12:03 PM
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Lots of high ranking celebrities have breakdowns, chitty marriages and shallow lives in general.

If you envy those people you're very unwise.

People need to learn to accept and love themselves 100% for who they are and make the best out of it.
post 1611718301 07-26-2020, 12:07 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
You can and should always improve your life but thinking that you can fully control your life or have complete agency is wrong. A lot of it is luck and circumstances.

What about small children dying from cancer or getting abused at home? Do you think they chose that life?
There are circumstances you can't control, yes. The trick is to work on the things you CAN control. A poster here has in their sig that a billionaire and beggar both have 24 hours in a day. It's a good maxim to remember.

Also, there is no "right" to have an easy life. To expect that, and fall short of that is a recipe for disappointment. Too many have that mindset without putting in the effort.

Another part of the problem is people put effort into the wrong things and end up spinning their wheels for nothing.
Virtue is its own reward.
post 1611718571 07-26-2020, 12:11 PM
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Ultimately, you have to be comfortable in your own skin and be confident in yourself. Also, monetary success doesn't always make someone "better."
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post 1611719161 07-26-2020, 12:19 PM
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I agree and the amount of time people spend paying attention to the lives of athletes, celebs, etc. is staggering.



I didn't have the easiest teen years and really got fukked over due to life circumstances. Never graduated HS, had to quit school at 16. Basically had to get a GED at 20. Enrolled in a community college because I didn't qualify for any university. Did 2 years then transferred to a state college and got my bachelors. Paid my entire way through school and graduated debt free. Got a job at 24 and just grinded my 20s away. Now that I'm in my 30s I'm doing pretty good and life is on cruise control, especially financially. Given nothing in life. Massive disadvantages from my teen years. No real adult guidance/advice/direction for my life. Etc.



I can't even imagine where I'd be if I sat around watching reality TV or scrolling through Instagram all day long fantasizing about the lives of the rich/famous. Blows my mind when I see people talking about 'white privilege' or talking about how hard it is for millennials to get ahead.
post 1611719271 07-26-2020, 12:20 PM
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You should definitely focus on what you can control and compete with our past self rather than compare yourself to others, and most people have the potential to carve out a pretty damn good life if they put their mind to it.

But we shouldn't ignore the luck and number of factors that can't be controlled, or the fact that some people do have a much stronger start in life that a lot of very successful people have. It's not a reason to be negative though, and i'm not sure you should envy them.
post 1611730351 07-26-2020, 02:44 PM
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BRB trying to choose to be Kevin Durant. My will power isnt strong enough to push me to 7'0 though.
post 1611730581 07-26-2020, 02:48 PM
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haven't wished i was anyone else since i was like 13 srs

adults actually feel this way?
post 1611733251 07-26-2020, 03:23 PM
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Originally Posted By arod204⏩
BRB trying to choose to be Kevin Durant. My will power isnt strong enough to push me to 7'0 though.
False premise. Wishing to be Kevin Durant is the problem.

I figured I was mostly addressing the Miscers in their early twenties. I didn't think I'd have to provide explanations to a 32 year old.
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post 1611733471 07-26-2020, 03:27 PM
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Don't think many people would actually go for it if they could. srs
As for me, even the thought of going back and changing something in my past gives me nightmares. One small change and I could lose everything I have now. I don't want that.
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post 1611733861 07-26-2020, 03:32 PM
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Disagree.

I didn't choose this life. This life chose me.
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post 1611734181 07-26-2020, 03:38 PM
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Originally Posted By SuperHercules⏩
If I had a terrible life and was an ugly incel loser, I'd probably want to be someone else
The dichotomy isn't just Chad or incel tho. The vast majority lie in between those two on that spectrum. 9/10 "incels" are too stupid or lazy to realize they are not as bad off as they have convinced themselves.

In b4 BigBallsMcGee or Wincel come in and set me straight lol.
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post 1611734461 07-26-2020, 03:41 PM
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Originally Posted By Tomohokk⏩
Disagree.

I didn't choose this life. This life chose me.
Determinist?
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post 1611734831 07-26-2020, 03:45 PM
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Originally Posted By Johnez⏩
Determinist?
Can confirm
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Originally Posted By Johnez⏩
The dichotomy isn't just Chad or incel tho. The vast majority lie in between those two on that spectrum. 9/10 "incels" are too stupid or lazy to realize they are not as bad off as they have convinced themselves.

In b4 BigBallsMcGee or Wincel come in and set me straight lol.
BBM is not an incel anymore
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Originally Posted By TypeNirvash⏩
BBM is not an incel anymore
Good to hear. He seemed to have a head on his shoulders, even when he rustled me good last time we went at it lol.
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Originally Posted By Johnez⏩
Good to hear. He seemed to have a head on his shoulders, even when he rustled me good last time we went at it lol.
He's a smart guy. Being smart can sometimes be dangerous to those who aren't in the places they'd like to be. IMO dude is a straight misc hero for turning his chit around like that.
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Originally Posted By TypeNirvash⏩
He's a smart guy. Being smart can sometimes be dangerous to those who aren't in the places they'd like to be. IMO dude is a straight misc hero for turning his chit around like that.
I remember the name, but not specifics. All I really remember is that he seemed argumentative.

Either way I’m glad he got things turned around for himself.
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post 1611738201 07-26-2020, 04:29 PM
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Originally Posted By DrewDarden⏩
I remember the name, but not specifics. All I really remember is that he seemed argumentative.

Either way I’m glad he got things turned around for himself.
It's natural to feel incredibly pessimistic, and be unable to see a solution to your situation when you're deep in the hole. It's the same with a lot of misc brahs out here. But it's nice to know that there are some people who have turned those things around, isn't it?

I mean, it's credence to the fact that you can work at making things better. Maybe not everything is in your control, but you can give yourself more opportunities to have a better life by being proactive about it.
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Originally Posted By TypeNirvash⏩
It's natural to feel incredibly pessimistic, and be unable to see a solution to your situation when you're deep in the hole. It's the same with a lot of misc brahs out here.But it's nice to know that there are some people who have turned those things around, isn't it?

I mean, it's credence to the fact that you can work at making things better. Maybe not everything is in your control, but you can give yourself more opportunities to have a better life by being proactive about it.
Absolutely.

It kind of deviates from the belief around here that serious posts and trying to help people here are a waste of time.
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Be grateful for what u have, my neighbor moved here from Bulgaria where he said people were so poor they were eating out of garbage cans. Just remember if u think your life is chit there is someone out there whos life is 10x worse
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Originally Posted By NextPound⏩
I agree op. So lay it bare. What did you choose?
I chose to be a family man and a teacher.
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