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post 1613638731 08-15-2020, 03:55 PM
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Thoughts on public speaking? (srs)

How often have you done it? Good / bad experiences? Tips? Do you enjoy it?

I haven't done it in many years but might need to do it very soon.
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get the Dale Carnegie book on it.
post 1613639351 08-15-2020, 04:01 PM
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Most I've only done is in a class with 15-20 people, even then my heart was racing and I couldn't articulate myself for chit, constantly mumbling etc

Could never do it infront of a big crowd. Props to anyone who has the balls for it though.
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Originally Posted By Vascularmanlet⏩
Most I've only done is in a class with 15-20 people, even then my heart was racing and I couldn't articulate myself for chit, constantly mumbling etc

Could never do it infront of a big crowd. Props to anyone who has the balls for it though.
Lol really? That bad?
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Originally Posted By Dorich⏩
Lol really? That bad?
Yeah I have no problem talking to people one on one and can easily make conversation majority of the time.

I just can't talk infront of a big group, my anxiety goes through the roof.
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Took a college class last year. Normally don't have anxiety but the fact that you're graded+30 people in a small room watching+time limits makes you anxious.

My mistake was making my presentations way too detailed. If I just lowered my standards it would've been pretty easy.
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post 1613640091 08-15-2020, 04:08 PM
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Originally Posted By Vascularmanlet⏩
Yeah I have no problem talking to people one on one and can easily make conversation majorityof the time.

I just can't talk infront of a big group, my anxiety goes through the roof.
Damn.
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Had to do a technical presentation for one of my classes this past spring. Like 15-20 people, was pretty fuking nervous

Practicing your presentation over and over and over again is very important. even if you get nervous if you know the material you can do well

If you don’t know chit and you get nervous you’re fuked
You guys, I'm seriously
post 1613640551 08-15-2020, 04:13 PM
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I was terrified of it growing up, but I also had a bad speech impediment and a stutter that didn’t go away until I was like 17/18. Then in college I had to do it quite a bit, and didn’t mind it especially if it was a class I enjoyed related to fitness/nutrition (health education major).

Also had to do public speaking in church quite a bit.

My tips are just realize that most people hate public speaking, so more people have empathy for you than you realize. Be confident in what you’re speaking about. And don’t hide your personality. If you’re funny, be funny. If you’re socially awkward, well, just give the presentation and get through it.

I’ve worked in a field where I had to give weekly presentations to about 30-40 people for training and updates on our programs (therapy for sex offenders). It didn’t bother me at all.

Funny, my wife doesn’t like public speaking but is a talented singer, and has sung the national anthem at MLB and NBA games. Said she never even got nervous to do it.
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Last time I did public speaking was at a wedding last year. Best man speach, loved it! Was a lot of fun.
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You don't need tips. Just nut up or shut up.
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I do it a lot in my job, sometimes to groups of 400 people or so. But I'm more "instructing", so I try to make my presentations interesting.

I'll do some funny graphics or transitions between the data - it helps keep people interested, because my subject matter is fairly technical.

My only advice is: sometimes people are nervous about public speaking because they have no f'n clue what they are talking about and they are worried that the crowd will see that. This is why I'm always super prepared - I have even called out people during presentations who may have asked "strange" questions to other presenters, just to put them on the spot, and in their place.

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I get so nervous it feels like I'm just saying jibberish
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Originally Posted By Aristotelian⏩
I do it a lot in my job, sometimes to groups of 400 people or so. But I'm more "instructing", so I try to make my presentations interesting.

I'll do some funny graphics or transitions between the data - it helps keep people interested, because my subject matter is fairly technical.

My only advice is: sometimes people are nervous about public speaking because they have no f'n clue what they are talking about and they are worried that the crowd will see that. This is why I'm always super prepared - I have even called out people during presentations who may have asked "strange" questions to other presenters, just to put them on the spot, and in their place.

That's cool.
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You're literally just talking with people present

Most people go through life people afraid of something so trivial.

Learning public speaking is #1 life hack to get further in life. It removes so many imaginary obstacles and barriers in life everything else becomes a breeze

Only way is to actually just do it
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I used to be really good at it til I lost my parents, and I broke down when I spoke in the funeral...Til then I never recovered lost my best friend last year, and then I just got back from a funeral.



I figured out some people are fuking evil, and just come to funerals to fuk you up eh?



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The worst one I did was in english class when i was 16, It was a group presentation and 3 of us were stood up in front of the class and I was the last one to speak, as everyone zoned out listening to the other two lads I heard a girl say to her friend on the front row of the class "look how red his face has gone" they were both staring at me and I knew they knew my face was red it just got worse, when I finally stood up I had some cards to read out I literally had my chin touching my chest so I could hide my red raw face then I read the cards out skipping a few of them so I could end the pain ASAP.

I hated public speaking.
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Have to do it a lot in my job. Had to take prorapanol to slow my heart rate down as it would make my voice shaky.
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Absolutely love it. Srs.
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Originally Posted By MattBro95⏩
Absolutely love it. Srs.
Ok Mat Why


I love it I just have people dying
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I don’t like it. My job demands in though. I get through it by practicing my presentation multiple times at home or in my office. I find if I know it by heart, I’m more comfortable and confident.
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Playing music in front of people cured my public speaking anxiety.
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Originally Posted By Dontoewsmebro⏩
Ok Mat Why


I love it I just have people dying
Easy as piss and I don't feel any pressure when doing it.

Crack a few jokes, warm people up, and you can have dozens of people thinking you are a great guy and they know you personally. It's huge opportunity to jump up socially.

I find one on one talking much, much harder.
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Originally Posted By MattBro95⏩
Easy as piss and I don't feel any pressure when doing it.

Crack a few jokes, warm people up, and you can have dozens of people thinking you are a great guy and they know you personally. It's huge opportunity to jump up socially.

I find one on one talking much, much harder.
Some people are like you, charismatic on stage. I find that every1 is different, some get extremely nervous and some are really calm and collected.
I'm working on getting rid of my stage anxiety tho.
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I did quite a bit in college, I've had to do some for my job.

Best advice is to prepare. If its not something you do fairly often, then preparing half assed and thinking you will get up there and wing it could backfire pretty badly - and also being well prepared/rehearsed helps with the nerves.

It actually can be enjoyable.
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Originally Posted By Dorich⏩
How often have you done it? Good / bad experiences? Tips? Do you enjoy it?

I haven't done it in many years but might need to do it very soon.
I had always disliked it, and really failed at it a few times.

I remember taking a public speaking course Freshman year of college and totally BOMBING a speech in front of like 40 of my classmates because I had sort of procrastinated and winged it. Trembling voice, shaky, etc. Holy fuk that was awful.


When I get to my mid-20's and started a career in tech sales, I started to really want to pay attention to public speaking and get better at it. It wasn't just presentations for clients, but as I got better @ sales and became more known in my company, I would get put into situations where I had to speak in front of groups of ~50 people for "new hire training" situations, talking about my strategies and big wins, etc.

So I joined Toastmasters (a public speaking "club" or group that exists in pretty much every city). It didn't necessarily get rid of my fear of public speaking, but it totally reinforced that I can be good at it, and that for me personally it has a lot to do with preparation. I can't recommend Toastmasters enough for anyone who wants to get better at public speaking.
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Just like anything, it's mostly about exposure and experience. Not to say any amount of experience will completely eliminate nervousness, and you probably wouldn't want it to, but it can greatly reduce the negative impact it has on your delivery. And learning about techniques and ways to improve your abilities will help with how effective you are at it.

I read the Art of Public Speaking while interning between years in college and then delivered a presentation to the provincial government. Did many other presentations in college, it was a project management program and you kinda need to be able to speak in meetings etc. Right now I'm leading weekly project status meetings with anywhere from 10-30ish people, explaining project status reports and being hammered by questions from our Client.

Went to one Toastmasters meeting but it was mostly people who enjoyed hearing their own voice so I noped out. If you really need to do public speaking for your job, I figure you'll get the experience that way.


Overall I'm not a fan but I understand its importance when you want to move into positions of power / seniority, so I do it and am always trying to get better at it
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