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post 1617316671 09-22-2020, 07:19 PM
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Miisc how do you get over your parents death?

My mom and dad died recently hence my drinking has escalated my cousin died too.


I cry every once in awhile.
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post 1617316741 09-22-2020, 07:20 PM
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post 1617316791 09-22-2020, 07:20 PM
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post 1617316831 09-22-2020, 07:21 PM
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I don't know. All those memories and such, just the past now. It's not easy.
post 1617317151 09-22-2020, 07:23 PM
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post 1617317301 09-22-2020, 07:25 PM
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Mine are alive, but I don't think you do. Nothing will ever measure up to childhood, and no love will ever compare.

So little time left and my parents are stupidly unhealthy. fuk

If I could just bang even a troll and then present her to them they would be so happy but I am so disappointing
post 1617317371 09-22-2020, 07:25 PM
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Good luck OP. Both of my parents are still around, but I've been thinking a lot more lately about how much time they have left. Definitely hurts to think of life without them, or being in my hometown without them.
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post 1617318371 09-22-2020, 07:38 PM
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post 1617318451 09-22-2020, 07:39 PM
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post 1617318551 09-22-2020, 07:40 PM
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you don't really, you just develop strategies to deal with it. quite honestly, it's not healthy to suppress and crying is a good outlet no matter how many tough guys tell you not to. i lost my dad suddenly and a close friend to suicide, i choke up relatively often when i hear songs or something that remind me of them, even more than 10 years later. it's human. we're cursed with the intelligence to think about death rather than just accepting it

at least for me, the sadness and bitterness about them no longer being around slowly turned into an impetus for me to do things that would make them proud of me. there's no reward there any more obviously, but i internalize the reward. i know it would make them happy, that's good enough for me.

i'm not gonna sit here and preach but i can tell you from first hand experience, the drinking does nothing but make those emotions worse and put off the amount of time it takes for you to develop those coping strategies. it took me a lot of years to realize it but one day i just stopped and i think i'm better for it. i keep the stack of crown royal bags around to remind me how damaging it was.

think about seeing a professional. they're gonna tell you a lot of corny bullchit but sometimes it's nice to hear someone knowledgeable tell you that the things that you're feeling, are normal. you might pick something up from it and there's no shame in it
post 1617319581 09-22-2020, 07:56 PM
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Most people can’t get over the question of their own death. The nearer eventuality for us is the death of our parents.

There’s no way to get over it, because the death of your parents is a perpetual reminder of your own death. You’re gonna die and never exist again for eternity and so did all of your ancestors.

We will all be dead for eternity.
post 1617319591 09-22-2020, 07:56 PM
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damn brah sorry for your loss stay strong

i think about my parents dying from time to time and chit makes me sick to my stomaching worrying about it
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post 1617319691 09-22-2020, 07:58 PM
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Originally Posted By Train57⏩
my parents dying from time to time and chit makes me sick to my stomaching worrying about it
I can understand worrying over something that might happen but you know for a fact your parents are going to die, it's really only a matter of time. What is there to worry about?
post 1617319761 09-22-2020, 07:59 PM
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You just hope to see them one day in heaven. This life is only temporary and you will see them again OP stay strong
post 1617319821 09-22-2020, 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted By DizzySmalls⏩
Mine are alive, but I don't think you do. Nothing will ever measure up to childhood, and no love will ever compare.

So little time left and my parents are stupidly unhealthy. fuk

If I could just bang even a troll and then present her to them they would be so happy but I am so disappointing
the climate we are in (im not even talking about covid) it's made it near impossible to present a nice pleasant gf to your parents
post 1617319981 09-22-2020, 08:04 PM
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My dad died a couple years ago. Didn’t have the best relationship but still think about it from time to time. Couldn’t imagine losing my mom but one day I will or she will lose me. To me I feel like everything that happens is meant to happen. The good the bad everything. Hold on to the memories and cherish them for life. They love you op
post 1617320341 09-22-2020, 08:09 PM
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post 1617320601 09-22-2020, 08:13 PM
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Sorry for your loss man. I lost my father when I was 13 (29 now) to cancer and I can honestly say that there hasn’t been a day the past 15 years that I haven’t thought about him. Sometimes it’s just for a second, sometimes it’s a while. Truth is, you never truly get over losing your parent(s) before their time. You just learn to live with it. Know that they would want you to live your life.

It’s tough, but you will find happiness again. You just have to find something, or someone worth living for.

Most importantly, don’t make the mistake of trying to bottle up your feelings trying to be ‘alpha’. Talk to someone, whether it be a therapist or close friends. Trust me, it feel good to talk about it and it helps more than you can imagine.

Again, sorry for your loss and best of luck bro. Life can really suck sometimes
post 1617320761 09-22-2020, 08:14 PM
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If not a troll..try to remember all the good in them and the times you shared. Take a deep dive into a beneficial hobby or something you love spending time doing rather than dwelling or doing overtime at work (if you hate it there.)
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post 1617320861 09-22-2020, 08:16 PM
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I've lost some close family in recent years. Honestly the world just changes and it doesn't go back. Parents exist as a lot of different things to us as children, and as adults. They separate us from death (or rather, they tend to be our first impactful experience), they support us when we fail (because who else really cares about your successes or failures?), and they also chain us to our youth (often a very negative way, or else it drives us far away). The passing of our parents is certainly devastating, but it is also freeing. You can no longer show them what shiny piece of garbage you've recently found, and you can no longer learn from them. There's always regret. Unless you're already a perfect human being who understands what it means to live fully and in the moment and all that trash. You might not be ready yet OP, but after you've come to terms with it, you can rise up and become a free man. Have an impact on the world in the ways your parents and grandparents taught you, whatever those things were that made them so special.
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damn brah.
Cant imagine dem feels.

I pray my pops and mom live at least till 100 even if i have to clean their chit, srs.

RIP and stay strong.

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Sorry for your loss.

I dont think you ever get over it. You just live by the good example they set for you to make them proud.
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post 1617322931 09-22-2020, 08:38 PM
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Originally Posted By Ayz33⏩
If not a troll..try to remember all the good in them and the times you shared. Take a deep dive into a beneficial hobby or something you love spending time doing rather than dwelling or doing overtime at work (if you hate it there.)
Why would I troll? that's fuked up. People that kinda know me know that my family has passed away.
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post 1617323141 09-22-2020, 08:40 PM
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Originally Posted By umadbroski⏩
damn brah.
Cant imagine dem feels.

I pray my pops and mom live at least till 100 even if i have to clean their chit, srs.

RIP and stay strong.

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post 1617323221 09-22-2020, 08:41 PM
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You don't get over it, and you shouldn't want to. Let it remind you to be a good person and live the best life they would have wanted you to live.
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you don't, there will always be things that remind you of them and make you sad and maybe a little angry but remember they love you and wouldn't want you to be upset
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I don't understand what there is to be upset about unless you're young
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Originally Posted By ByAssociation⏩
I don't understand what there is to be upset about unless you're young
I wasn't trying to be upset I will admit I'm really drunk so I think of them a lot, and hence why I made this thread.
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Its been five years for me and i never got over my dads death, it has it effected me negatively since day one. Dont think you ever do get over it, sorry brah dont wanna be negative but they really isnt another way to look at it for me, rip to ur folks.
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Sorry broski. Its not easy for anybody, and for some its harder than for others.

It helped me to understand its natural for your parents to pass and for you to feel pain as a result.
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