Feels bad. Things have been gojng really well but she has an ex that she keeps around. It was exactly a year ago today she broke up with me for one day and slept with him. I almost went after the guy over it but after a lot of crying and craziness we moved passed it. She slowly started playing online games with him and even joined a private group chat with him and his friends. I was like what is next gojng out with them. Well now it’s happened. They are having a Christmas party /birthday party Friday and I’m not invited. Of course I blew up over it but she is the type to go through your phone and look for petty stuff to justify it. Now she is gojng to the party single and I feel it’s to try to get back with him and maybe it’s a. Who thing but I don’t see how I could get back with her after this abs she is telling me to die and burn in hell. We have been super close too.

Well that sounds about right. She came over crying saying she wanted to get back and that she had slept with soneone. I asked if it was him and she said no. Then in a rant one day when she was accusing me of something but turned out to be wrong she confessed it was him. We had a lot of words and he was like he can’t hangout at my parties. I honestly don’t think she likes him but he has a lot of friends and they have get together a and **** abd she likes that. So months had passed before I found this out

Age:40
Status:Cuck

This is all your fault OP for not ignoring the red flags she showed early and staying with a trashy girl srs.

What is with guys who blame and want to fight other guy for sleeping with their gf. It's only her fault obviously.

staying with a cheater ???

this is what you'll get, well, WELL deserved..

just stay with her, things will be fine

The obvious answer is to be done with her.

If you can't let it go, try couples counselling and bring up everything that has gone on with said ex. They'll likely re-iterate the relationship she insists on keeping with him is absolutely toxic to your relationship and she will never have a healthy relationship without letting him go completely.
But she won't see that because she thinks she's an exception to the rule when she is absolutely not.

Move on bro. She's trash. Srs. Any woman entertaining other men while in a relationship with you is a straight up hoe bag. Get away, far away and don't look back! Look at the old bag in the chat thread keeping her fwb on the line while talking to someone new and seeing nothing wrong with it. Trash.

Change your username to Immacuck.

Not even a misc response, but a irl response too. OP, move on. She disrespected you a year ago and has 0 problem doing it again, whether or not anything happens.

Please, move on. You deserve so much better

Um.. no one with any self respect will let anyone that's suppose to 'love' them treat them like that. Move on and count it as a lesson learned OP.

I talk to 1 ex. Once every 3 to 6 months whenever he decides to touch base to see if I'm still alive and to ask about my general well being. No one says anything inappropriate and it's all very platonic.

I don't even know what any of my (OTHER) exes are doing nor do I care. Don't let her treat you like 2nd fiddle. You don't deserve that.

You just contradicted yourself.

Why keep that one ex in the picture? Just so you have a ready cock to munch on in case your current man isn't giving the right amount of attention?

please be a troll. otherwise you're a cuck. grow a pair. dont get me wrong, sometimes its hard to rationalize your thoughts after u been with someone for a while, but this is a whole new level. she'll smash him at the party and you'll prob still be with her

It's over. No contact and start working on other girls ASAP.

Apologies I forgot to add in the word any OTHER. I don't know what any OTHER of my exes are doing besides that one. He isn't really in the picture. A friendly hello every 3 to 6 months to me 'isn't in the picture'. We don't play video games or invite each other to parties and not bring our significant others like OP has expressed. I haven't banged him mid relationship in my current - I haven't seen him in over 5 years in person nor do I want to. But being cordial to someone isn't any sweat off my back.

I'd have plenty of cock to much on by command and much closer in proximity if my current man isn't working out. Don't need to get that from an ex BB.

Dude you know what to do..

Lol so she slept with her ex a year ago and yet you stuck around? And now the relationship doesn't seem to last? I'm shocked.

If she respected you at all, she wouldn't have been keeping this guy around.

If she still had any respect for you, she wouldn't continue to hang with him after he said you aren't allowed around.

If you had any respect for yourself, you would get over this bish ASAP.

I have an ex who keeps sliding into my DMs and would send me cards to my home address. I never replied and moved a house. He is still making accounts on Ig and trying to creep in as exes don’t like to see their ex moving on and being in a happy relationship.

Anyone in their right mind would cut all ties with their ex. The fact she has been keeping her ex around is a major red flag and you must be visually impaired as you haven’t been able to see it.

While I sometimes disagree with the Misc re exes, this is a complete chitshow.

1. How the phuck did you rationalize taking her back after you know she phucked him?

2. How the phuck did she rationalize STILL keeping him around after that?

3. How the phuck did you accept the rationalization above?This should tell you everything you need to know.This, too.

OP, you're not really 40, are you? I'd expect this from a 19-year-old.

Unless you're 40 and she's 19.

In that case, keep doing what you're doing.

LMAO you're so full of chit. I'm not keeping him on the line as you'll see if you had any reading comprehension. Plus you're one to talk when you're out there banging multiple women, putting them at risk of STDs. I've never slept with multiple guys at a time in my life. Who's trash?! It's certainly not me. I have always been a one man woman.

LMAO.

... and OP. Dumb that whore you have mistaken for a girlfriend. You deserve better.

If he's dumb enough to stay with someone like that, then he does not deserve better. He got exactly what he deserves.
Now if he wisens up, then maybe.

Her level of respect for you is off the charts awful. What exactly is there to cry about anyways? She's trash and shouldn't even be on your level. If she is then that's on you. This girl broke up with you for a day just to go whore around with an ex she obviously still had feelings for, then after taking all of his DNA she came back like nothing happened, and she continued talking to this guy anyways throughout the next year together and you put up with it, and are sad to lose this? That's way worse than a gf who still talks to her exes on a platonic level which is also completely unacceptable. That's as big of a middle finger from a supposed gf as I've heard in a while.

And to cement her trash narcissistic ways, she'll just go through your phone and gaslight you to justify her whore behavior? I see nothing to be sad about other than you hate to lose out on your investment of 2 years of your time with her, but better now than later. Man up and chin up. Keeping it moving. Let him have her, he'll probably dump her again soon. There's no way he could have any respect for her. Don't take her back if she reaches out to you when that happens.

May have ended? Sounds like it's been over for at least a year OP. Just be thankful that you only wasted two years, and didn't have any children w/ this whacko.

This shouldn’t even be a thread. You knew what to do before posting. Do what needs to be done.

This actually sounds about right. I’m pretty sure it’s over anyway. Now she claims she is single and right before this party where him and his buddies are at. I didn’t even know what all was going on before her son told me. Pretty crappy because the youngest one I think sees I’m pretty upset and he is like y’all 2 are like magnets. It’s nothing because obviously he likes me but I feel she is up to no good and it’s only the beginning of this crap and I deserve better

I actually told her this. What’s strange is she told me the guy has limp dick and it’s not even pleasurable but she feels a bond with him. I talked to him in chat before I knew about the second time sex thing and he admitted it like it’s no big deal. I like wtf

This sounds about exactly right

she cheated on you and you stayed with her for 2 years?

lmao dafuq

I bet all her girlfriends told you the past is the past

I guess it sounds worse than it is. My working schedule only allowed for me to have the weekends. She would come by the second I was off and stay the whole time and cook and do whatever I wanted sexually. That’s hard to find. She came over crying one day saying she had sex and begged me not to leave her. I was working so much I was like oh well. She lied about who it was though and they continued to talk. One day a girls son accidentally posted a live thing on everyone’s ******** account abd she thought I was messing around and I a rant Told me she slept with this guy. I hit his inbox telling him how I felt and crap and they ended the friendship. Of course more crying and her doing her thing I looked past it. Now I see they are back to playing online games and. Hit and now a party. It’s his buddies and he even said I can’t come to their social crap. At first she didn’t want part but now this is happening I’m tempted to just block her on everything but idk. What’s weird is she is accusing me of **** and that’s weird as **** like wtf. I told her simply she has taken me for granted and this could very well be the end. Worse part is we just did a 8 hour trip to see my family and now I had to tell them not to post on her ********. She also just had corona. Somehow I didn’t get it but I’d laugh the hell out loud if she brought it to the shim dig