There’s* Okay so it’s a debatable topic whether you should plan to/try to move out when you turn 18.

What about people who cannot find a job in their major and they only apply/are willing to apply to jobs in their city. Are they bytch made? Or is their any justification for that?

I personally find myself shaking my head at such people with all the adversity I’ve faced in life and then to see someone be not as willing to relocate. Maybe I’m missing something so enlighten me if you think staying at home should have that level of importance. I’m referring to fresh grads in the above scenario btw.

only live at home if youre gonna grind

There's nothing wrong with staying at home as long as it's temporary and you're not being a bum. If you're going to school, applying to jobs, or just trying to save up so you can pay off debt, move back out, or buy a house it's fine.

What if you’re ONLY applying to jobs in your city after graduating so you can stay with the folks.

Does that make you a **** or is there generally reasonable justification for that?

I think staying at home the first 5 years after graduating is generally the ideal scenario, if you have good parents/relationship.

I stayed at home until I was 26, saved hard each year, which meant I was able to put down 50 percent on my first house in a nice area, and mortgage paid off by the time I am 36.

Flip side, I have friends who stayed at home and moved out, but didn't save either way, and are hitting their 30s, with no savings/house.

As long as you aren't NEET, it's generally acceptable into your late 20's i'd say...I'm in town at least once a week and my rents enjoy having me. If they take me out I split the paycheck. Can't be a deadbeat though

when i was in my late 20's and early 30's i moved back home for a couple years and was driving a rusted out honda civic 1991 (by choice, i eventually bought a new car, but i know how to work on cars and refused to buy a new car for a long time and saved $$). I still was pulling 7-8/10 b1tches picking them up in my rusted out rattling honda and bringing them into my moms ghetto basement room and railing them. No excuses. As long as you are decent looking, in shape, have a decent job, no excuses.

The idea and pressure of OMFG MOVING OUT WHEN I'M 18 is some degen chit for the most part*... Asterisk because there are legit exceptions.

If you stay live at "home" or in other cases allow your parents/family to live with you it's gotta be for reason and not to LDAR.

Best be stacking that cash.

I have thought of, and would completely entertain the idea of buying a large property or ranch and having family all live on property... Nice big house with some guest house(s) too. Mainly to have an eye on my parents if they are ever in need for health/safety reasons. Would be amazing to host large family get togethers, reunions, birthdays, weddings etc... As my parents get older, them getting taken advantage of is becoming a fear of mine.

It's always nice having your people around. We easily take family for granted. Manpower is key.

Just got into a big argument with my old man over politics today. Wish I didn't live at home, or that I was more intelligent and didn't allow myself to make these dumb decisions.

Just lmao at living at home.

most likely your dad is straightening you out because you are being a beta low test liberal. your dad is right, listen to him

Pushing people out at 18 is why so many never succeed. Immigrants that routinely smash every other race in income, education and leaving something for their children never push out their young.

This might stem from the boomer mentality that it was possible to raise a family and own a home/car on a HS education by age 23-24 because they grew up in the best economic time though.

even old starter homes are typically 200k min. youre telling me you saved at least 100k by your mid 20's living at home? YEAH OK

I've saved $40k living on my own and paying my own expenses...no doubt that what he said was possible

I grew up in a smaller city on the coast and had the opportunity to go to a large state university in a major city on scholarship. I ended up going to university at home, mostly because my parents put pressure on me to stick around. My family is Italian-American and guilt trips are a thing.
I ended up getting my first job in that same city. Lived at home after graduating for 2 years because it was 2009, I was working retail sales and the bottom fell out on housing market. I wanted to be a pharmaceutical rep or med device sales but I couldn't even get a job selling furniture at full commission because I didn't have sales experience. Just a 4 year degree and a job working at a local golf course. No way I could afford living on my own at the time. My dad was a successful pharmaceutical district manager and even he couldn't pull any strings. The economy was bad and pharma/med device positions in my area were scarce and looking for 6+ years experience.

Finally got a job working in a furniture warehouse.. After working in the furniture warehouse, I was finally promoted to a salesperson ( a pay cut at first because I was full commission and didn't make an hourly wage like my warehouse job). Still living at home.

A little over 2 years later, I met a teacher and we started dating. Man I thought I hit the jack pot. She had a steady paycheck and made $35k a year! I moved in with her and my half of the rent was $400/month.

We broke up and I got a job in a bigger city. No regrets about that period of my life. I just went to school, studied, lifted and went out at night when my friends were in town. My parents were cool so living at home wasn't bad. Didn't save any money back then. And probably missed a few opportunities to bring a girl back to my place, but that's life. Everyone is different.

God damn I love y’all but miscers can be dense as fuk. They see a topic which they are emotional about and start typing without reading the op beyond the title.

The op is a very specific scenario. Not general discussion on the dynamics of staying at home vs moving out.

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Don't you know? It's Dense Dick December.

GTFO.

well thats not a big deal when your 50 years old and been working for 30ish years. this guy is claiming 100k in 5-6 years (assuming too he paid for his own schooling (prolly not) and that he was also going to school and working only pt or maybe FT but probably for low wage. he probably had lots of help from parents and is leaving that part out.

I'm 25 but go off

Unawei(ne)r

Why do you want to stay with your folks? Do you have a specific goal in mind (saving up for a down payment, paying off debt, etc)?

I live in the uk. My degree was funded by the NHS.

I worked 25 hours a week outside of college/uni between 16 and 21. Saving on average 700 pounds a month. I left uni with 30k in savings, zero debt.

I then worked full time in my grad job, saving 1500 pounds a month on average. 18k a year x 5 = 90k.

So I had a total of around 110k by the time I was 26 after buying a car.

Bought house for 170k, 100k down.

My parents were happy for me to live at home rent free because I was saving hard towards a home since I was 16.

The above takes a lot of commitment which a lot of people who live at home dont have.

Guys do not naturally want to rot. Only women think like that from low testosterone. Sometimes you can do better in more competitive social environments.

Ditching your family seems about as low class as anything I can think of.

Just think how much money you can save living at home until your parents die and the house becomes yours anyway!

If you can’t afford it then it is what it is.

I'm going to give you a genuine life tip. You can go through life doing things to prove to others how 'strong and independent' you are. But at the end of the day, irrespective of your actions and how others view you, you're going to have to live with the assets (or lack thereof) you've accumulated.

In other words who gives a fuk about what others think. Do what objectively benefits you the most. Like the old saying goes, I'd rather people look down on me while I'm in a Ferrari than a Datsun.

I've been an aspiring actor for awhile but earlier today the producers and director told me they want me to co-star in their netflix series

Btw they already got paid for season 1 which is like 12 episodes and all I will say is that my guaranteed comp is close to 6 figures with a potential to get to over 7 figures...

So the netflix series is like a modern The Office but its rated R...and I auditioned for a random character but they want me to be...

Sorry they want me to be the "pam" and the "jim" is a buff black guy who is bisexual...I am straight...

I think I could fake it if it was like regular acting but there are a lot of romantic scenes like we fckin have to french kiss and chit...but it gets worse...

The producers and director have a roadshow to advertise the series which is typical for something like this but they want us to literally sell that we are "together"...

I mean its a big break for me but I feel like this is too much and feel like if this netflix series takes off I could literally be type cast but if it does not then I have to do gay chit with this guy and still probably still type cast

I don't know give me serious advice please

I don’t live with my folks. It’s sheer curiosity what ppl would think of a person with that mindset.

absolutely nothing wrong with staying at home all ur life, if u love ur parents, and u love ur family...unless ur literally doing nothing with ur life. i've had good professional mature managers with kids who still live with parents. absolutely nothing wrong with that. combined income = bigger house, less financial stress, save money buy another place to rent out. family is strength

nope nothing wrong with that

Having moved out when I was 17, I realize now almost 15 years later how many enormous roadblocks I set up for myself by doing that.

At the time it was probably the right thing to do since my home life was pretty messed up, but if I had just bitten the bullet and bided my time-- even just until I turned 18-- I would have been able to save myself a lot of headaches.

That said, I do kind of judge people if they live at home and aren't making the most of it. If you have a good family life, your parents are good people, and you're working towards some kind of independence vis-a-vis work I don't really take any issue with it though.