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post 1632230083 02-24-2021, 09:00 AM
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Might give my 2 weeks tomorrow...Story time Srs

I've been at my current job for about 10 years right now.

In December I transfered to a different location. I transfered in part to move back home.
Since transferring, I've been working for a boss and at a location that is absolutely soul sucking. I've been absolutely miserable.
I've tried to talk to my boss. And even spoke to HER boss.
Same lip service.

My departments have consistently, for years, been at the top in the district and many times top 20 in the entire company.
My departments have always exceeded company expectations for sales growth and comp. This is at multiple locations.

I've been overlooked for promotions over and over, and I feel in part it's due to the fact I missed 1 1/2 years to go through cancer treatment. And also due to the fact that I do SO well, my bosses don't want to lose me through promotions.

My mother is 63, works 7 days a week doing residential cleaning [her own company] she's at the point where her knees are so bad she has issues walking.
She's mentioned several times that she hopes either I or my brother's will take over the company due to how much she makes.


I'd like to quit my job and help my mom with her work.
I'd be taking a pay decrease, but might feel more satisfaction helping my own mom as opposed to working for a company that would replace me in a minute if I quit.


Thoughts?




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post 1632230213 02-24-2021, 09:03 AM
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No promotion in 10 years, lol just ghost them like a teenager srs.
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Originally Posted By Dennis71
I've been at my current job for about 10 years right now.

In December I transfered to a different location. I transfered in part to move back home.
Since transferring, I've been working for a boss and at a location that is absolutely soul sucking. I've been absolutely miserable.
I've tried to talk to my boss. And even spoke to HER boss.
Same lip service.

My departments have consistently, for years, been at the top in the district and many times top 20 in the entire company.
My departments have always exceeded company expectations for sales growth and comp. This is at multiple locations.

I've been overlooked for promotions over and over, and I feel in part it's due to the fact I missed 1 1/2 years to go through cancer treatment. And also due to the fact that I do SO well, my bosses don't want to lose me through promotions.

My mother is 63, works 7 days a week doing residential cleaning [her own company] she's at the point where her knees are so bad she has issues walking.
She's mentioned several times that she hopes either I or my brother's will take over the company due to how much she makes.


I'd like to quit my job and help my mom with her work.
I'd be taking a pay decrease, but might feel more satisfaction helping my own mom as opposed to working for a company that would replace me in a minute if I quit.


Thoughts?




Dedfknsrs
Threaten to leave, let them know why and see what they offer you.
post 1632230403 02-24-2021, 09:05 AM
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Originally Posted By Brozef
Threaten to leave, let them know why and see what they offer you.
So give a notice and see how corporate management responds?
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post 1632230663 02-24-2021, 09:07 AM
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If you don't like it, leave and find something else. This is something that people somehow don't seem to understand. Your girlfriend is a dumb sloot or an abusive Chad, leave them. You don't like your job and can find another, do it.

I took a supervisor position at my work and someone asked "what if you don't like it"? I bertstared them and said "then I'll stop doing it" and they bertstared back like they never thought of that.

People fall into their routines and go on autopilot. Time seems to go faster for you as you age because you just repeat the same senseless actions over and over without any conscious mindfulness. Hopping jobs has always netted me 10-50% more income and a fresh start lets you work on avoiding past mistakes.
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Sometimes you gotta be willing to walk away
post 1632230743 02-24-2021, 09:08 AM
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Originally Posted By Autumnal
If you don't like it, leave and find something else. This is something that people somehow don't seem to understand. Your girlfriend is a dumb sloot or an abusive Chad, leave them. You don't like your job and can find another, do it.

I took a supervisor position at my work and someone asked "what if you don't like it"? I bertstared them and said "then I'll stop doing it" and they bertstared back like they never thought of that.

People fall into their routines and go on autopilot. Time seems to go faster for you as you age because you just repeat the same senseless actions over and over without any conscious mindfulness. Hopping jobs has always netted me 10-50% more income and a fresh start lets you work on avoiding past mistakes.
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post 1632230793 02-24-2021, 09:09 AM
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Originally Posted By Dennis71
So give a notice and see how corporate management responds?
Yes, especially since you have a backup plan for work.
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What was said above: give your 2 weeks notice, see if they try to retain you with an increase.
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post 1632232043 02-24-2021, 09:25 AM
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fukkin do it brah, plus you can grow your family business and never know where it could lead, fuk working for anybody else and making their dreams come true, 100% srs
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post 1632232133 02-24-2021, 09:26 AM
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Originally Posted By drvillain
If you don't mind working for your mom, then go for it. It doesn't sound appealing to me though breh
I'm very close to her.

She would drive 2hrs each way to see me in the hospital every other day. I was in the hospital for about 30days.
This was on top of her working 7 days a week.


Eastern European woman.
Really working with her would give me some time to also find something more long term.








My brother works for a huge investment company. And I met some of his coworkers over the weekend. They all said I could be doing something much better than my current job.
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post 1632232223 02-24-2021, 09:28 AM
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Thread motivating me to leave my job too, kinda srs
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10 years at one job that hasn't given you any promotions? Why didn't you job hop long ago? Jw. Definitely help your mother as much as you can regardless brah
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post 1632232743 02-24-2021, 09:35 AM
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Originally Posted By DesiredUser****
10 years at one job that hasn't given you any promotions? Why did you job hop long ago? Jw. Definitely help your mother as much as you can regardless brah
Meh. I've been promoted.
But have been at the same level of management for the last 4-5 years.


I'm currently maxed in terms of compensation, so without that next jump in promotion, I can't make much more money.
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post 1632232823 02-24-2021, 09:36 AM
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Sounds like if they offer you something better you're going to be in the same boat as you are now, or worse. But you have a backup plan and it's a solid one. Might not be as sexy but might be the way to go. Trust your gut.
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Originally Posted By darkninja67
What was said above: give your 2 weeks notice, see if they try to retain you with an increase.
So do I give a normal 2week notice with the hope they might try and reach out and keep me.


Or do I need to word it differently?
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post 1632233453 02-24-2021, 09:44 AM
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sucks.

also, pm me your mother's number. i'll take care of her and the business for time being.

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Put your two weeks in, and see what they do. If they value you, they will make a counter-offer, if they don't then they never gave a fuk about you (provided what you said is true). The only issue is their offer would be countering a lower position. If you were cool with working for your mom and taking over that company, then great, but if it's not what you "want to do" then Idk.

I put my two weeks in after getting passed over for a promotion, and I ended up not getting "promoted" but got a raise that exceeded what my promotion would have been. There was two many people log jammed at the next level. So when I do get promoted, which is likely this year, my raise will be even more than what it would have been.
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Originally Posted By Dennis71
I'm currently maxed in terms of compensation, so without that next jump in promotion, I can't make much more money.
Who told you that? Someone told me that a few years ago when I was making 67k.... now I make 110k with literally the exact same job title SRS. Companies/Bosses/Etc will always say you're maxed out because they know most people will accept that answer. Get an offer from another company for more and they instantly change their tune.
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I know we all go to work to make money, but at the same time there is a value to what it pays vs. what it cost. If a job pays more, but you are miserable, it better pay enough to make up for that misery.
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Originally Posted By Dennis71
I'm very close to her.

She would drive 2hrs each way to see me in the hospital every other day. I was in the hospital for about 30days.
This was on top of her working 7 days a week.


Eastern European woman.
Really working with her would give me some time to also find something more long term.








My brother works for a huge investment company. And I met some of his coworkers over the weekend. They all said I could be doing something much better than my current job.
Seems like a solid plan. If promotion is the only way to move up in salary + you are overall happy with the company/industry then you might propose them setting you up for some type of expansion (IOW: I'm great at this and you don't seem to have a place for me. Take a shot at letting me grow this business, or I'm moving on.)

Do help your mom. Don't feel that you must keep the family business going to make her happy. Life is too short.

If your mom wants out of it/can't keep it up you might consider selling the business. Maybe you could help her get it straightened out so that it could be an appealing purchase for, say a foreigner who wants an easy in to the US.

Proceeds from the sale could be invested for her retirement (maybe an annuity + some growth type investments).
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Would you be happier though even if they gave you more $?

Change is a good thing. Don't be afraid of it. Especially if it's going to afford you the mental stability of not being miserable.
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Originally Posted By jamalfudge
Sounds like if they offer you something better you're going to be in the same boat as you are now, or worse. But you have a backup plan and it's a solid one. Might not be as sexy but might be the way to go. Trust your gut.
Agree with this one.


Even if they give you more money you’ll still be unhappy dealing with the BS of the environment, and probably dealing with more of it. You don’t have to give out numbers, but what type of pay difference are you talking about? If you can live comfortably while helping your mom you should probably go that route. And later on after your mom passes you can always change direction at that point and would probably end up making more than you are in your current position.


Edit to add - even if they offer you more money you’d still feel guilty seeing your mom work every day at her age
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Originally Posted By Dennis71
I've been at my current job for about 10 years right now.

In December I transfered to a different location. I transfered in part to move back home.
Since transferring, I've been working for a boss and at a location that is absolutely soul sucking. I've been absolutely miserable.
I've tried to talk to my boss. And even spoke to HER boss.
Same lip service.

My departments have consistently, for years, been at the top in the district and many times top 20 in the entire company.
My departments have always exceeded company expectations for sales growth and comp. This is at multiple locations.

I've been overlooked for promotions over and over, and I feel in part it's due to the fact I missed 1 1/2 years to go through cancer treatment.And also due to the fact that I do SO well, my bosses don't want to lose me through promotions.

My mother is 63, works 7 days a week doing residential cleaning [her own company] she's at the point where her knees are so bad she has issues walking.
She's mentioned several times that she hopes either I or my brother's will take over the company due to how much she makes.


I'd like to quit my job and help my mom with her work.
I'd be taking a pay decrease, but might feel more satisfaction helping my own mom as opposed to working for a company that would replace me in a minute if I quit.


Thoughts?




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Bro u need to wake up and learn 3 things (u kinda acknowledge 1):

1. Why would I promote you if you are SO GOOD at your job, I would rather keep you working hard and delivering results than having to look for a replacement who probably wont be as good

2. Getting a promotion to higher up Management positions is not about how good you are as a worker but how good u are as a manager of people and resources - different skill set tbh

3. You are just a number at your company, u dont owe them anything, they dont owe u anything. HR departments spread propaganda about how u are part of a family but dont eat it
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Originally Posted By littlemissy
Would you be happier though even if they gave you more $?

Change is a good thing. Don't be afraid of it. Especially if it's going to afford you the mental stability of not being miserable.
Not necessarily sure.
I'm not 100% on board with the direction the company is heading as well.
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family over money brah
plus it seems like they dont appreciate you at current job anyways

like other miscer said, just dont show up to work one day.
they dont feel like they owe you anything for your hard work, then you dont owe them a 2 week notice
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Originally Posted By Beast92
Bro u need to wake up and learn 3 things (u kinda acknowledge 1):

1. Why would I promote you if you are SO GOOD at your job, I would rather keep you working hard and delivering results than having to look for a replacement who probably wont be as good

2. Getting a promotion to higher up Management positions is not about how good you are as a worker but how good u are as a manager - different skill set tbh

3. You are just a number at your company, u dont owe them anything, they dont owe u anything. HR departments spread propaganda about how u are part of a family but dont eat it

And also due to the fact that I do SO well, my bosses don't want to lose me through promotions.
Yes. I know that. But I can't show what I'm capable of without ever being given the opportunity.
I've been successful in every position and department given to me over the last 7+years.
At this point I feel I'm only given lip service to drag me along.

+1 on the HR propaganda bs. I see it. I ate it for a while. But my stomach can't digest it anymore.
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Originally Posted By Dennis71
Yes. I know that. But I can't show what I'm capable of without ever being given the opportunity.
I've been successful in every position and department given to me over the last 7+years.
At this point I feel I'm only given lip service to drag me along.

+1 on the HR propaganda bs. I see it. I ate it for a while. But my stomach can't digest it anymore.
You said u managed sales at a district level. What does the next level of management do? is it a promotion within sales?

Maybe u were never prepared for the next level, srs, the highest level positions of sales / marketing are not really about actually selling or marketing a product, they are more about vision and resource allocation
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Your moms company means your company....leave everything and go there...if you made ur company exceed sales expectation ull excel at ur moms
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