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post 1634886473 03-29-2021, 02:20 AM
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What is the key to an actually happy marriage? Does it exist?

I don't want any hollywood bull**** in this thread. Only IRL marriages you've actually witnessed where a couple has been married for many years, has kids and his wife still respects him, they still have fun together, still in love, still gets regular enthusiastic BJs etc.

What is the secret, if it exists
post 1635049213 03-30-2021, 09:46 PM
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Anyone know?
post 1635049333 03-30-2021, 09:48 PM
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Don’t change

Despite her nagging, hen pecking and best attempts at doing so. Don’t become the beta she thinks she wants
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post 1635049583 03-30-2021, 09:52 PM
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In my circles I'd say the key component is individualism. They have their own lives, rely on themselves, have their own goals hobbies and friends ect.

The worst ones are the co dependent types. Absolutely miserable

And even before that comes principles values belief systems ect. They must have similarities
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post 1635049603 03-30-2021, 09:53 PM
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post 1635062753 03-31-2021, 04:38 AM
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Originally Posted By lllEZRAlll⏩
In my circles I'd say the key component is individualism. They have their own lives, rely on themselves, have their own goals hobbies and friends ect.

The worst ones are the co dependent types. Absolutely miserable

And even before that comes principles values belief systems ect. They must have similarities
Yeah co dependance is definitely cancerous in a long term relationship. I didn't know this in my last relationship, thought it might even be a good thing, but I thought wrong
post 1635063013 03-31-2021, 04:45 AM
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Easier said than done but don't marry the wrong person.
post 1635063653 03-31-2021, 05:03 AM
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Having God in the center of your relationship srs.
post 1635064133 03-31-2021, 05:17 AM
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probably financial incentives
post 1635064163 03-31-2021, 05:18 AM
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Don't marry a trash woman. Make sure her parents are good people. She has to have a good high paying job and be independent. Not a sloot
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post 1635064253 03-31-2021, 05:21 AM
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The foundation of the relationship needs to be based on friendship and not lust. Too many guys meet their woman at a bar and bc she’s so hot want to marry her. Find a woman that is your best friend. With good morals. Barely drinks. That you love to fuk. This is the key
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post 1635064473 03-31-2021, 05:30 AM
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Originally Posted By CalmYerSwag⏩
The foundation of the relationship needs to be based on friendship and not lust. Too many guys meet their woman at a bar and bc she’s so hot want to marry her. Find a woman that is your best friend. With good morals. Barely drinks. That you love to fuk. This is the key
This is the answer right here. The chick you actually enjoy and look forward to spending time with. Similar interests, a sense of humor and the one who looks at you like you're her world.

Definitely nothing to do with whatever god you happen to believe in.

Plus you have to be a realist and understand that the first year of banging 10x a week will eventually subside down to a more normal couple times a week, but her personality won't change much and that's what makes her different than all other chicks.
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post 1635064623 03-31-2021, 05:35 AM
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The key to a successful relationship is never get married.

You lose all your power when you can't just walk away with your finances intact.
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Originally Posted By moosik85⏩
Don’t change

Despite her nagging, hen pecking and best attempts at doing so. Don’t become the beta she thinks she wants
This is probably the most sound advice itt so far. Women will try to transform you into a doormat. Up to you to become one.

It's their nature. I've seen so many relationships dissolve because men refused to fight back and just cave.

Keep the balance. You're a man. Act like it.
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post 1635065473 03-31-2021, 06:00 AM
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Studies say


1. Don't be mean (is more important than being kind)

2. Have psycholical flexibility


Confirmed by science. On phone so not gonna bother finding articles but search for it. Unfortunately most miscers are rigid as fuk in their way of thinking so jakes on them
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Originally Posted By fuaAAA⏩
I don't want any hollywood bull**** in this thread. Only IRL marriages you've actually witnessed where a couple has been married for many years, has kids and his wife still respects him, they still have fun together, still in love, still gets regular enthusiastic BJs etc.

What is the secret, if it exists
Happily married for 34 years, two grown up kids, life is fantastic! it does happen if you find the right person.
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post 1635065733 03-31-2021, 06:08 AM
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post 1635065923 03-31-2021, 06:15 AM
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Originally Posted By Noahbro⏩
Having God in the center of your relationship srs.
I don't go with this at all, I've never been religious and have a strong marriage, we are equals. Christianity is very biased towards men and women being subservient, I cant believe in that for a start!
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post 1635066323 03-31-2021, 06:27 AM
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Originally Posted By fuaAAA⏩
I don't want any hollywood bull**** in this thread. Only IRL marriages you've actually witnessed where a couple has been married for many years, has kids and his wife still respects him, they still have fun together, still in love, still gets regular enthusiastic BJs etc.

What is the secret, if it exists
1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.

1 Corinthians Chapter 1-7 KJV
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18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?

21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings.

22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.

23 He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

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Been married for going on 4 years, I know not the longest but the things that help us is that when things get tense we know well enough to let each other be, we simply don't argue. We also aren't attached at the hip, we obviously have a shared group of friends, but we also each kept our friends groups from pre-marriage and do seprate things from time to time, and we don't judge each others hobbies. She still goes to broadway shows, and to girls days at the spa and mall, etc. I still build cars, go shooting, and keep season tickets to the Dolphins, and aside from her occasional trip to the gun range, we don't do any of those things together, but respect eachothers separate interests.

The biggest thing I think though, is that we don't air out our lives on social media so there isn't hundreds of other people involved in every aspect of our lives. This ruins so many relationships because at the first sign of a problem you have fukin vultures trying to console your wife, to clap dem cheeks. Then the peanut gallery on both sides just comment making chit worse. Social media is probably one of the biggest problems with modern relationships.
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You get to pick who you get married to. If you **** that up then oh well. Some people aren’t meant to be in relationships and that’s fine. People make really bad decisions too.
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Originally Posted By Kev1972⏩
The key to a successful relationship is never get married.

You lose all your power when you can't just walk away with your finances intact.
Not really at some point you have enough money you really don’t give a chit.



Also per op,

For my marriage which I’m going on 10 years this year and been together 15 with our third kid on the way. There was multiple things to bring back balance. At a point now where me and the wife just don’t fight at all. We can calmly talk things through cuz we’ve been through so much it’s not worth the effort to yell etc, and we care more about the kids and each other even if we are pissed off.

But it didn’t use to be like that. You need to be able to talk about what’s bothering you without the other person being defensive. You need to be open to hear what the other persons perspective is.

You can’t have a selfish mindset. Relationship isn’t 50/50. If you have that mindset you will always be thinking “well fuk you I did xyz , you need to do abc”. If both people are willing to give the effort in running the household and giving 100%, then you don’t worry about what the other person accomplishes. You recognize they are doing everything they can.

If you have needs, be frank and open with them. Work out a solution and don’t keep it to yourself. It’s a two way street though, if you both aren’t in the same page with it, the other person needs to go.
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Been married 22 years. Gotta actually be friends and like each other beyond just physical attraction. Ask yourself if you'd still want to be with her if your dink fell off or she got horribly disfigured in a fire. Long marriages are a slow burn and you're gonna go through some chit so only the strongest bonds survive it.
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Originally Posted By fuaAAA⏩
I don't want any hollywood bull**** in this thread. Only IRL marriages you've actually witnessed where a couple has been married for many years, has kids and his wife still respects him, they still have fun together, still in love, still gets regular enthusiastic BJs etc.

What is the secret, if it exists
They both still go out and do their own thing like when they were single and then come together for kids and family time. My friend is like the only one out of 5 where I can say this.
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Don’t have kids

Try to continue growing as people together. Whether that’s traveling, learning, new hobbies etc
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Originally Posted By clive⏩
I don't go with this at all, I've never been religious and have a strong marriage, we are equals. Christianity is very biased towards men and women being subservient, I cant believe in that for a start!
You are older and in the UK. What worked for you will definitely NOT work with these new girls in the United States. I guarantee it.
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