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post 1635339413 04-03-2021, 01:39 PM
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How do you guys work on your dating anxiety and insecurities

Over the last 3 years since my break I’ve dated a ton, they never worked out. Usually ends with the girl losing interest, goes to show good looks only get your foot in the door. And from that I’ve built quite a big insecurity. Whenever I like a girl and have been seeing her for maybe a month I start getting really anxious that she will send me a message telling it she’s not longer interested. I start overanlyze everything I did and said, everything she did and said even before the message.

I’m doing it now with a girl I’ve been seeing for 3 months now. I’m just overanalzing everything now.

What’s some advice ?
post 1635339513 04-03-2021, 01:41 PM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468⏩
Over the last 3 years since my break I’ve dated a ton, they never worked out. Usually ends with the girl losing interest, goes to show good looks only get your foot in the door. And from that I’ve built quite a big insecurity. Whenever I like a girl and have been seeing her for maybe a month I start getting really anxious that she will send me a message telling it she’s not longer interested. I start overanlyze everything I did and said, everything she did and said even before the message.

I’m doing it now with a girl I’ve been seeing for 3 months now. I’m just overanalzing everything now.

What’s some advice ?
Some booze, to loosen up, and work on your social skills u potato
Always remember, that YOU are the most important person in your world.

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post 1635340013 04-03-2021, 01:49 PM
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Originally Posted By edd4nz⏩
Some booze, to loosen up, andwork on your social skillsu potato
Feel like that's too vague to be helpful.

"just be less of a social retard OP"
post 1635340513 04-03-2021, 01:56 PM
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looks do get your foot in the door but it closes pretty quickly if you dont start meeting her other criteria

kind of job youve got

place you live at

car you drive

friends you have

your lifstyle

your history

best defense is a good offense

go on the "attack" right away

instead of letting her interrogate you pretend you are vetting her for a position in your company

make her qualify herself to you
post 1635341373 04-03-2021, 02:07 PM
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I don't date anymore but I found that back in the day a drink or two would settle the jitters and make me "funnier" prior to meeting up.

Once you're comfortable you can lay off the one to two drink tactic.

Don't want to drink? Go get a good, exhausting workout prior. It will shoot your confidence through the roof and make you much more calm overall. Body and mind.
post 1635341383 04-03-2021, 02:07 PM
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Man up. Your whining like a little bish bro.
post 1635341533 04-03-2021, 02:10 PM
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you can psych yourself out of anything thats not within your control boyo


some things in life such as a sloot telling you she doesnt love you anymore a month into a relationship is one of those things


i'd suggest trying keep that at the forefront of your mind
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post 1635341713 04-03-2021, 02:12 PM
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Did anyone actually read the op? I don’t get nervous or insecure on the actual date lol. My problems stems from constantly thinking the rejection is coming and questioning all their actions through lenses when I’m not with them and have developed feelings.

It has nothing to do with the girl, and everything to do with me being in my own head and making myself feel anxious
post 1635341953 04-03-2021, 02:15 PM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468⏩
Did anyone actually read the op? I don’t get nervous or insecure on the actual date lol. My problems stems from constantly thinking the rejection is coming and questioning all their actions through lenses when I’m not with them and have developed feelings.

It has nothing to do with the girl, and everything to do with me being in my own head and making myself feel anxious
i feel my response is applicable to your post

its out of your control if she wishes to do that
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post 1635343023 04-03-2021, 02:31 PM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468⏩
Did anyone actually read the op? I don’t get nervous or insecure on the actual date lol. My problems stems from constantly thinking the rejection is coming and questioning all their actions through lenses when I’m not with them and have developed feelings.

It has nothing to do with the girl, and everything to do with me being in my own head and making myself feel anxious
That’s cause you’re a beta, insecure, little whiny bitch. Enjoy the relationship while it lasts and if it ends simply move on.
Always remember, that YOU are the most important person in your world.

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post 1635343433 04-03-2021, 02:35 PM
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Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig⏩
you can psych yourself out of anything thats not within your control boyo


some things in life such as a sloot telling you she doesnt love you anymore a month into a relationship is one of those things


i'd suggest trying keep that at the forefront of your mind
You’re definitely correct and I tell myself that, have it written down. But it will take work, it’s been building up for 3 years. So it will take time. Thank you for your response
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