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post 1636152583 04-13-2021, 08:07 PM
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Should I cancel on her

Been seeing this girl for 3 months, and to keep it short I can tell she’s not into me as I’m into her. I mean I tried my best really, making plans to go out weekly and show her new experiences, not really getting anything close to an equal amount back. Like she never texts me. I’ve been blinded by my feelings for her, but now I’m accepting it for what it is.

I have a double date planned with her and her roommate on Thursday, i set my boy up, which is the only reason I haven’t canceled the plans yet. But I think I’ll cancel and just won’t hit her up again and forget about her and move on. Right decision?
post 1636152683 04-13-2021, 08:09 PM
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Move on. Its already taking too much of your energy. Your friend can find his own dates.
post 1636152733 04-13-2021, 08:10 PM
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post 1636153123 04-13-2021, 08:16 PM
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Go out, support your boy, don't make it about you and this girl at all, have a good time and see what happens....what've you got to lose?

If it's weird and you 2 just aren't hitting it off, don't reach out to her anymore.

If it falls apart and the roommate doesn't like your friend, oh well you tried. Yall are already out.....have some drinks, go out have a good time. Both girls are probably expecting to at least get a free meal out of it anyway, so why so serious?

Best case you end up high fiving your buddy while you getting your dinks wet

Worst case you have a semi awkward dinner, laugh about it later and end up high fiving your buddy while you both fap.
post 1636153593 04-13-2021, 08:25 PM
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Originally Posted By Mercworx⏩
Move on. Its already taking too much of your energy. Your friend can find his own dates.
I get the other replies but he can get his own chicks too, like I’ve already put in enough effort with this girl
post 1636153753 04-13-2021, 08:28 PM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468⏩
I get the other replies but he can get his own chicks too, like I’ve already put in enough effort with this girl
3 months.......You gotten any play?

What keeps you coming back to her?
post 1636154033 04-13-2021, 08:33 PM
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Nah, talk to your boy first, see if he's still down and if he is then go but if he doesnt care then suggest cancelling and you all do your own thing. You committed to going out. Cant punish him because now you feel different. Just give no fuks that night and live it up.
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post 1636154123 04-13-2021, 08:34 PM
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Originally Posted By bsmit107⏩
3 months.......You gotten any play?

What keeps you coming back to her?
Of course bro lol, I would’ve left a while ago, but my feelings for her has been what’s been bringing me back. I’m just not willing to emotionally invest this much and not get half of it back.
post 1636154143 04-13-2021, 08:34 PM
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Originally Posted By friesbruh⏩
Nah, talk to your boy first, see if he's still down and if he is then go but if he doesnt care then suggest cancelling and you all do your own thing. You committed to going out. Cant punish him because now you feel different. Just give no fuks that night and live it up.
I mean I asked him if he cared, he said yea but if I gotta cancel then it’s cool
post 1636154683 04-13-2021, 08:42 PM
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Ghost her and if she ever hits you up, tell her you're not into her anymore. You'll probably be smashing in a week
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post 1636154733 04-13-2021, 08:43 PM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468⏩
Of course bro lol, I would’ve left a while ago, but my feelings for her has been what’s been bringing me back. I’m just not willing to emotionally invest this much and not get half of it back.
So just keep it casual?

I get it if you cant....some women will just have that pull on you. Maybe talk to her about it, see if she's up for more....maybe she just thinks yall have a FWB type thing going and is afraid/scared to push.

Either way I still think you should at least go to dinner.
post 1636154783 04-13-2021, 08:44 PM
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post 1636155043 04-13-2021, 08:48 PM
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Originally Posted By bsmit107⏩
So just keep it casual?

I get it if you cant....some women will just have that pull on you. Maybe talk to her about it, see if she's up for more....maybe she just thinks yall have a FWB type thing going and is afraid/scared to push.

Either way I still think you should at least go to dinner.
That’s my problem brother, one I’m a big overthinker, and when my emotions become involved I can’t just do fwb or even really spend time with the person because I just often feel bad.

Also she had a very minor procedure today, and I told her to let me know how it went, and it’s bed time and crickets, I’m trying to show I care for her but I can’t even get an update lol. If a girl ain’t crazy bout you as you are her then it’s time to move on. Plus I’m 95% sure she’s seeing other people.
post 1636155253 04-13-2021, 08:50 PM
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Don't cancel but just don't show up to the date
post 1636155383 04-13-2021, 08:52 PM
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Originally Posted By DesperateEnuf⏩
Don't cancel but just don't show up to the date
Lol, nah I’m not a dickhead like that, plus she didn’t do anything wrong, nothing wrong with not reciprocating someone’s else’s feelings
post 1636157273 04-13-2021, 09:22 PM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468⏩
Been seeing this girl for 3 months, and to keep it short I can tell she’s not into me as I’m into her. I mean I tried my best really, making plans to go out weekly and show her new experiences, not really getting anything close to an equal amount back. Like she never texts me. I’ve been blinded by my feelings for her, but now I’m accepting it for what it is.

I have a double date planned with her and her roommate on Thursday, i set my boy up, which is the only reason I haven’t canceled the plans yet. But I think I’ll cancel and just won’t hit her up again and forget about her and move on. Right decision?
The not texting thing is too much.

If a woman doesn't want to communicate with you, that's an extremely bad sign.

It's also disrespectful.

I hate these slang terms, but I assume she thinks of you as a "simp" which is not true. She is the one who is playing herself by mistreating a person who likes her. So, she likely has some issues.
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post 1636157673 04-13-2021, 09:29 PM
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Originally Posted By Coolman468⏩
That’s my problem brother, one I’m a big overthinker, and when my emotions become involved I can’t just do fwb or even really spend time with the person because I just often feel bad.

Also she had a very minor procedure today, and I told her to let me know how it went, and it’s bed time and crickets, I’m trying to show I care for her but I can’t even get an update lol. If a girl ain’t crazy bout you as you are her then it’s time to move on. Plus I’m 95% sure she’s seeing other people.
You need to mirror more of her behaviours.

If she is aloof and doesn't text much you need to match that. If she isn't emotional with you, you shouldn't be with her.

That's just standard stuff you should have learned by 27.
post 1636283943 04-15-2021, 01:01 PM
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She pulls back 1 step you pull back 5 OP. You only chase what runs, and its about time you get running bro. If she dont chase, her loss. I would still go support your boy though.
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