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post 1637835313 05-05-2021, 12:28 PM
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My girls ex husband is coming to pick up the last of his stuff, how should I approach

She was with him ten years, divorced cuz he’s alcoholic and was disrespectful af. They divorced two years ago. I been with her for 6 months. We really like each other. I think this is the one.

But anyways, he’s coming Saturday. She wanted me to answer the door when he comes which is cool. But if we have to leave the house before he comes. I would leave his **** in front of the door. But I also would like to ask him to get a drink, doubt he would want to. Or I can tell her to answer the door, act like I’m not there and listen to what he says, and if anything is step in.

What would you guys do?

He’s a beta douche from what I heard from her coworkers and friends.

Part of me wants to ask him questions over some drinks.
post 1637835483 05-05-2021, 12:29 PM
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Ask what questions. He'll likely lie like most alcoholics do. Leave the chit outside.
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post 1637835653 05-05-2021, 12:31 PM
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post 1637835673 05-05-2021, 12:31 PM
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1. Why the fuk would you want to get a drink with him? Why have any interest in getting to know him?
2. Why the fuk would you involve yourself in their chit ?You've only been with the sl00t 6 months
3. Why would you do anything but drop his chit at the end of the driveway?
4. Are you retarded?

Sounds like she's using you to do her dirty work. Rile him up and use you as the muscle. You've been with this broad 6 months, she's old enough to clean up her own mess, and you don't owe her chit.
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post 1637835963 05-05-2021, 12:34 PM
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You should definitely ask your girlfriend's alcoholic ex husband out for a drink.
post 1637835973 05-05-2021, 12:34 PM
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Originally Posted By apple2yourEYE
She was with him ten years, divorced cuz he’s alcoholic and was disrespectful af. They divorced two years ago. I been with her for 6 months. We really like each other. I think this is the one.

But anyways, he’s coming Saturday. She wanted me to answer the door when he comes which is cool. But if we have to leave the house before he comes. I would leave his **** in front of the door. But I also would like to ask him to get a drink, doubt he would want to. Or I can tell her to answer the door, act like I’m not there and listen to what he says, and if anything is step in.

What would you guys do?

He’s a beta douche from what I heard from her coworkers and friends.

Part of me wants to ask him questions over some drinks.
Is this your first relationship ever???? Why would you think your girl would want you to go have drinks with him?? LOL, use your brain dude.
post 1637836383 05-05-2021, 12:38 PM
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answer the door in gray joggers and half a second from being fully erect. like just before you start drippin pre. Tell him YOU made things easy for him and his stuff is in the corner. Maria aint around. Don't give him any info and dont have a convo. No attitude but be short and stern.

You don't want to humanize him and you don't want him to create an image of you as being soft enough that he can talk to her behind your back or of you being a tough guy and him wanting to start trouble. In n out
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post 1637836393 05-05-2021, 12:38 PM
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Get in the car and leave with him to show her who's the boss
post 1637836823 05-05-2021, 12:41 PM
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You are over thinking this. There is no reason to deviate from the intended purpose of his visit what so ever.

He is there to pick up his stuff. It is a previously agreed upon and accepted behavior for him to do.

You don’t have to do anything beyond facilitating that.

You don’t have to establish dominance or be overly inviting either.

Simply let him get his ****, and then you move on with your life.

Anything beyond that and you are simply either displaying insecurity, or being a pawn for your girl to use to “get back” at him.

Simply facilitate the transfer of property. Then move on with your life.

Don’t be trashy dude. Leave that to him.
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post 1637837023 05-05-2021, 12:43 PM
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OP he's likely going to shoot you, fuk that
post 1637837333 05-05-2021, 12:46 PM
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This is a chit test for you not him. She wants to see if you're more alpha than her ex. He had her in her prime and dumped heavy loads in that vag, all you're getting are used sloppies while he's out crushing fresh young poon on the regular.

So sit there and play silly games for that washed up sloot while he's out living the life banging half the town. Just lol at settling for a divorced whore.
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post 1637837963 05-05-2021, 12:52 PM
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so much wrong in this thread, please video it and upload to YT so I can grab my biggest bucket of popcorn. the amount of drama you're walking into is borderline legendary. they make movies out of this kind of chit.
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post 1637838453 05-05-2021, 12:56 PM
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Me reading OP:









Me reading the replies ITT:

post 1637838603 05-05-2021, 12:58 PM
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assert your dominance and fekc the ex husband

srsly though, maybe he became an alcoholic and disrespectful because she was a terrible wife
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post 1637838653 05-05-2021, 12:58 PM
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fek him in the ass to assert dominance.
post 1637839013 05-05-2021, 01:03 PM
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"Thinks this is the one" in a post fretting over meeting her ex-husband who is an alcoholic deadbeat.

M8, just enjoy it while it lasts, I guess.
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post 1637839203 05-05-2021, 01:05 PM
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Does she have kids with this guy? They’ve been divorced for years and he still has stuff there? She wants you to answer the door, why? Clearly they’ve had a relationship over this past two years or his **** would have been out long ago.

This is such a **** test set up
post 1637839703 05-05-2021, 01:10 PM
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LOL @ considering anything other than dropping his box of stuff on the driveway or porch for him to pick up with no contact.
post 1637840053 05-05-2021, 01:14 PM
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Don’t ask him questions. Dudes an alcoholic and depending on how bad he prob hates himself. He lost his wife, has to meet her new bf to get his own stuff. That’s torture enough bro. Let the dude go on his way and maybe he’ll get help.
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Lol this op has to be the biggest cuck of the week.

You’ve already moved in with this divorced bitch? What is wrong with you?????

Not gonna end well
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Originally Posted By badbl00d
1. Why the fuk would you want to get a drink with him? Why have any interest in getting to know him?
2. Why the fuk would you involve yourself in their chit ?You've only been with the sl00t 6 months
3. Why would you do anything but drop his chit at the end of the driveway?
4. Are you retarded?

Sounds like she's using you to do her dirty work. Rile him up and use you as the muscle. You've been with this broad 6 months, she's old enough to clean up her own mess, and you don't owe her chit.
so much all of this.
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post 1637841653 05-05-2021, 01:34 PM
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He will probably show up hammered, slap you in the mouth and laugh at how pathetic you are

He’s used those holes in ways you never will
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post 1637841753 05-05-2021, 01:36 PM
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Just leave the stuff outside! Are you kidding us with “having a drink with him”? That’s dumb!
post 1637842213 05-05-2021, 01:42 PM
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next question who tf gets with a dirty old used up whore with an alcoholic ex. lol she probably has a couple of semen demons by him to.

OP cucked himself
post 1637842493 05-05-2021, 01:45 PM
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put on a gimp mask and cry in the corner while she blows him one last time
post 1637842953 05-05-2021, 01:51 PM
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post 1637843113 05-05-2021, 01:52 PM
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Approach of him and say "Sir, I would like to shake the hand of the man who's ex wife I am currently sticking it to every night"
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post 1637843223 05-05-2021, 01:54 PM
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Make sure you have your video camera charged to capture him banging his ex wife one last time

It’s a memory your girl will need to last her a lifetime now that it’s over. Make sure to get on film!!!
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post 1637843513 05-05-2021, 01:57 PM
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This sounds like the prelude to a domestic disturbance. Agree with everyone, absolutely no reason for you to see this dude. She sounds like a slice of **** to dump all this on you. If he was abusive or whatever she should just put his stuff out on the porch and not be there.
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I have a few issues with the scenario.


-She entered a committed relationship with you, prior to cutting ties with her ex.
-She's been storing/holding onto his crap for 2 years. Clearly wasn't ready to move on/let him go.
-I don't buy for a second that he was some abusive person. If he was, she'd have cut ties at divorce and tossed whatever he left in the garbage.
-If he hasn't needed that schit for 2 years, he doesn't need it. Or want it.
-She's putting you in a situation where you have to be involved with a property exchange. Recipe for drama. This is 100% unnecessary contact.



I really don't see how you can take a divorced woman seriously. This is someone that stood up in front of her family, her friends, and her God. She vowed to love this guy no matter what until death. Then what, he doesn't live up to her standards for what a husband should be so she bails? Lmao at this being the one. She was someone else's 'one' first too. Until that got hard.
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