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Wife wanted to move separately, said I can fk around if I want
28, been married for a few years now.
She's my first actual LTR.
She's been depressed for some time now and wanted to try separate living. I agreed because things haven't been same for quite a while for now.
Said she's fine if I go fk around, because we haven't been intimate for a while either.
The separate living seems to be working for now, we've been meeting most days and have better time than before.
But I'm conflicted if I should try to fk around or not. I've never been the type who runs around and I'm afraid even if she says that she's fine with it, she could get hurt by this.
Then again, since we're still young and I haven't really had the experience to fk around, perhaps it's what would be actually good.
What do you think brahs?
If I was to do it, would it ruin us for good or could it work?
Which apps are popular right now, Tinder?
Should I be open from the start about being married or not? If sex is only what I am looking for anyway.
She's my first actual LTR.
She's been depressed for some time now and wanted to try separate living. I agreed because things haven't been same for quite a while for now.
Said she's fine if I go fk around, because we haven't been intimate for a while either.
The separate living seems to be working for now, we've been meeting most days and have better time than before.
But I'm conflicted if I should try to fk around or not. I've never been the type who runs around and I'm afraid even if she says that she's fine with it, she could get hurt by this.
Then again, since we're still young and I haven't really had the experience to fk around, perhaps it's what would be actually good.
What do you think brahs?
If I was to do it, would it ruin us for good or could it work?
Which apps are popular right now, Tinder?
Should I be open from the start about being married or not? If sex is only what I am looking for anyway.
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Originally Posted By CatFunt⏩
It could be, but I really doubt itShe said you can, cos she is.
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Honestly this whole situation sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. If your wife is suffering from depression you going out and banging other girls will make her depression 0% better, even though she's giving you a green light, plus if she's ACTUALLY ok with you hooking up with other girls, her feels for you are likely gone and your married is over.
Sounds like she has a ton of issue to work out. Is she actively in therapy or attempting to work on herself? Does her depression have anything to do with you? (to your knowledge atleast)
Sounds like she has a ton of issue to work out. Is she actively in therapy or attempting to work on herself? Does her depression have anything to do with you? (to your knowledge atleast)
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She is banging someone else.
This will not end well.
This will not end well.
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Originally Posted By JUGGERNAUT1333⏩
hey man, thanks for understandingHonestly this whole situation sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. If your wife is suffering from depression you going out and banging other girls will make her depression 0% better, even though she's giving you a green light, plus if she's ACTUALLY ok with you hooking up with other girls, her feels for you are likely gone and your married is over.
Sounds like she has a ton of issue to work out. Is she actively in therapy or attempting to work on herself?
Sounds like she has a ton of issue to work out. Is she actively in therapy or attempting to work on herself?
she used to be in therapy at one point and I guess that it was one of the suggestions for her, that she should work on her issues by herself and not depend on anyone
I also suspect that if I was to really do it, she will get even more hurt
We both want the best for each other and I know that the reason she offered me this is because she knows that the situation is very hard for me too, especially because she hasn't been able to provide me with the intimacy
At this point, neither of us knows if the relationship is going to be over or not, but for now the separate living seems to be doing her good and I want to help and support her through this, be it as friends or as partners
I guess it's best to hold on for it for now and if I do want something, I need to consider fking a hooker so she wouldn't know about it
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05-26-2021, 11:20 AM
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Originally Posted By cactusbrah⏩
Hard Truth here- but if she isn't aggressively trying to get help, via therapy or other professional means, she likely won't improve much. It sounds like she has very serious depression and that's not something that goes away.hey man, thanks for understanding
she used to be in therapy at one point and I guess that it was one of the suggestions for her, that she should work on her issues by herself and not depend on anyone
I also suspect that if I was to really do it, she will get even more hurt
We both want the best for each other and I know that the reason she offered me this is because she knows that the situation is very hard for me too, especially because she hasn't been able to provide me with the intimacy
At this point, neither of us knows if the relationship is going to be over or not, but for now the separate living seems to be doing her good and I want to help and support her through this, be it as friends or as partners
I guess it's best to hold on for it for now and if I do want something, I need to consider fking a hooker so she wouldn't know about it
she used to be in therapy at one point and I guess that it was one of the suggestions for her, that she should work on her issues by herself and not depend on anyone
I also suspect that if I was to really do it, she will get even more hurt
We both want the best for each other and I know that the reason she offered me this is because she knows that the situation is very hard for me too, especially because she hasn't been able to provide me with the intimacy
At this point, neither of us knows if the relationship is going to be over or not, but for now the separate living seems to be doing her good and I want to help and support her through this, be it as friends or as partners
I guess it's best to hold on for it for now and if I do want something, I need to consider fking a hooker so she wouldn't know about it
I think you both need to sit down and have a very in depth conversation about the state of your marriage and your future together. Living apart is just a band-aid for now. If anything, it's going to make you both realize you were holding on to a marriage that is dead.
Definitely don't go out banging other women right now. Talk with your wife, and you guys need to determine a path for the future, whether it's her working on her issues or you guys separate.
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OP if srs thread
Rather she has good or ill intentions in her head about what she said it is wrong. Only wrong in the terms of marriage. She either does not care about you that way anymore, does not love you, is with someone else or wanting to find someone else, or has some mental issues were not aware of.
No matter which reason she has, it is very simple.
It’s over. That is NOT a marriage and time for you to peacefully move on before your own mental health diminishes
Rather she has good or ill intentions in her head about what she said it is wrong. Only wrong in the terms of marriage. She either does not care about you that way anymore, does not love you, is with someone else or wanting to find someone else, or has some mental issues were not aware of.
No matter which reason she has, it is very simple.
It’s over. That is NOT a marriage and time for you to peacefully move on before your own mental health diminishes
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OP she is getting fukkin RAILED by 1 or more dudes. That's why she gave you the pass.
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05-26-2021, 11:26 AM
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dude this thing is in complete free fall
divorce absolutely imminent, start getting your chit together now
you don't go from married and living together to separate living and her saying you can fk around
that's not a marriage at all
there are successful open marriages but this is absolutely not going to be one of them
she's either doing it already or wants you to move on to someone else and this is her weird way of facilitating that to happen.
divorce absolutely imminent, start getting your chit together now
you don't go from married and living together to separate living and her saying you can fk around
that's not a marriage at all
there are successful open marriages but this is absolutely not going to be one of them
she's either doing it already or wants you to move on to someone else and this is her weird way of facilitating that to happen.
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Originally Posted By DBoyDaRealest⏩
I guess that would be likely.dude this thing is in complete free fall
divorce absolutely imminent, start getting your chit together now
you don't go from married and living together to separate living and her saying you can fk around
that's not a marriage at all
there are successful open marriages but this is absolutely not going to be one of them
she's either doing it already orwants you to move on to someone else and this is her weird way of facilitating that to happen.
divorce absolutely imminent, start getting your chit together now
you don't go from married and living together to separate living and her saying you can fk around
that's not a marriage at all
there are successful open marriages but this is absolutely not going to be one of them
she's either doing it already orwants you to move on to someone else and this is her weird way of facilitating that to happen.
Thanks for suggestions ITT, I will sit down and have the chat about our future together, one way or the other
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if you screw around you can bet she will use it as an excuse to do it herself.
End well it will not.
End well it will not.
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Do you care she’s taking other dick? Because she is or will be shortly. Do you care about another man in your bed beating your wifes gash to death. ?
If not then you guys are on even grounds and you should go have fun .
If not then you guys are on even grounds and you should go have fun .
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Originally Posted By cactusbrah⏩
maybe its real depression that wasn't your fault, which in this case, is a sad situation, but you don't want to sacrifice your life and happiness if you can't help her and she won't get the help she needs.I guess that would be likely.
Thanks for suggestions ITT, I will sit down and have the chat about our future together, one way or the other
Thanks for suggestions ITT, I will sit down and have the chat about our future together, one way or the other
otherwise, she might just be kinda depressed she is stuck in this relationship. girls are weird man, not all have the confidence that misc acts like they have and go out and suk dink when they are bored. some just sulk in their situation until someone forces something to happen. hopefully it is #2 as you can both move on and lead happy lives apart from each other
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1) she's not attracted to you -- not really debatable unless there's a temporary cause in which all this discussion would be moot and the op questions would be dumb
2) You don't live together
I don't know if you know this or not, but you guys are separated lmao
2) You don't live together
I don't know if you know this or not, but you guys are separated lmao
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Originally Posted By CatFunt⏩
She said you can, cos she is.
Originally Posted By JUGGERNAUT1333⏩
Either one of these lolHonestly this whole situation sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. If your wife is suffering from depression you going out and banging other girls will make her depression 0% better, even though she's giving you a green light, plus if she's ACTUALLY ok with you hooking up with other girls, her feels for you are likely gone and your married is over.
Sounds like she has a ton of issue to work out. Is she actively in therapy or attempting to work on herself? Does her depression have anything to do with you? (to your knowledge atleast)
Sounds like she has a ton of issue to work out. Is she actively in therapy or attempting to work on herself? Does her depression have anything to do with you? (to your knowledge atleast)
She's either fukking around on you already/planning to as soon as you do, OR she's so deep in depression she isn't even capable right now of loving you the way she used to, or feeling the same emotions she used to have for you.
No sensible girl is gonna be okay with you smashing other chicks while you're in any semblance of a relationship, let alone MARRIED, unless they were raised with absolutely no monogamous values. And I'd argue someone raised like that likely isn't gonna be "sensible" as it relates to a marriage.
I've had exes come back when they found out I was sleeping with a new girl AFTER we'd been broken up for a while. You guys are still married, I don't see how this situation doesn't spell out the end of the marraige. Unless she's able to do a quick 180 on her depression, which is highly unlikely. What's more likely, if you stick with this situation, is she's gonna fall hard for the first guy she meets who makes her feel anything outside the depressive status quo. Even if it's only momentary emotion, or if it's volatile as hell...well as the saying goes, feeling something is better than feeling nothing. And right now she's feeling nothing for you past an obligation due to your marriage.
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it's over, time to move on
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OP, she told you that so that she can have the Symphonic Orchestra of Tyrone and Dwayne at her new place. They’ll do church stuff.
But srs, the moment a partner (especially spouse) says something like that - it’s over, or it will be soon enough. Either way, it’s time to get a divorce and start moving on. Do you think if she loved and cared for you she’ll even consider something like this? Absolutely not.
Even if she’s just depressed, she needs to get it sorted herself. You can help but only to some extent. Prepare for the worst.
What’s that old saying? “If I see that you’re drowning, I’ll come and help you but if you try to drown me with you, I’ll leave you to drown on your own.”
But srs, the moment a partner (especially spouse) says something like that - it’s over, or it will be soon enough. Either way, it’s time to get a divorce and start moving on. Do you think if she loved and cared for you she’ll even consider something like this? Absolutely not.
Even if she’s just depressed, she needs to get it sorted herself. You can help but only to some extent. Prepare for the worst.
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not sure if RH is trolling, but I'm having a real hard time believing a woman who is clinically depressed is going off getting railed by other dudes regularly. I would imagine those types have no sex drive and getting dick isn't going to do anything for them.
that's of course assuming she is really depressed and not the BPD, Cluster B personality type of "depressed"
that's of course assuming she is really depressed and not the BPD, Cluster B personality type of "depressed"
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
it's misc man so ofc you will have dudes piling on saying she's already getting railed on the sidenot sure if RH is trolling, but I'm having a real hard time believing a woman who is clinically depressed is going off getting railed by other dudes regularly. I would imagine those types have no sex drive and getting dick isn't going to do anything for them.
that's of course assuming she is really depressed and not the BPD, Cluster B personality type of "depressed"
that's of course assuming she is really depressed and not the BPD, Cluster B personality type of "depressed"
given what OP said, it just seems really unlikely. if she had a normal sex drive, even if she didn't like OP as much as she used to, she'd still be having sex with him semi regularly to scratch the itch
just feels like she is completely apathetic to the situation. i'm sticking to my theory that this her weird way of coping and facilitating an end to the relationship. she doesn't have the emotional energy to do this the right way so she's hoping it will sort itself out between OP and someone else
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
people react differently when they have depression. some sleep around because it gives them a quick emotional response/sense of gratification, whereas some are completely apathetic and couldnt careless if their spouse got sick, died, cheated, etc.not sure if RH is trolling, but I'm having a real hard time believing a woman who is clinically depressed is going off getting railed by other dudes regularly. I would imagine those types have no sex drive and getting dick isn't going to do anything for them.
that's of course assuming she is really depressed and not the BPD, Cluster B personality type of "depressed"
that's of course assuming she is really depressed and not the BPD, Cluster B personality type of "depressed"
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Originally Posted By DBoyDaRealest⏩
Yeah I would think this might be his wife's way of "taking a break" even if it's not her intention. I guess it all depends on exactly what she is doing while she is separated from OPit's misc man so ofc you will have dudes piling on saying she's already getting railed on the side
given what OP said, it just seems really unlikely. if she had a normal sex drive, even if she didn't like OP as much as she used to, she'd still be having sex with him semi regularly to scratch the itch
just feels like she is completely apathetic to the situation. i'm sticking to my theory that this her weird way of coping and facilitating an end to the relationship. she doesn't have the emotional energy to do this the right way so she's hoping it will sort itself out between OP and someone else
given what OP said, it just seems really unlikely. if she had a normal sex drive, even if she didn't like OP as much as she used to, she'd still be having sex with him semi regularly to scratch the itch
just feels like she is completely apathetic to the situation. i'm sticking to my theory that this her weird way of coping and facilitating an end to the relationship. she doesn't have the emotional energy to do this the right way so she's hoping it will sort itself out between OP and someone else
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Originally Posted By 5x10⏩
because her confidence is gone. It seems to me that of course she would be sad if so, but if it happened, then she wouldn't blame him either because she thinks she deserves it. why is her confidence gone? She prob blames herself that the relationship is failing, for example blaming her own inability to maintain it, to handle it, be happy in it. Obviously in all relationships, OP prob has something to do with it, but some people just blame themselves for everything.Why would she give you permission to fuk around?
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