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post 1645708813 08-25-2021, 02:59 PM
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Do you put your GF/spouse before yourself?

After some relational issues, including moving out from eachother but still dating, family on her side insisted that for a good relationship to work, the man has to put the woman before himself.

I'm 26. I'm unashamed and confident to say that I'm not willing to do that. At least at this time. I'm living for myself.

Any thoughts from Miscers about that? Do you feel like you're always putting your significant other first no matter what? Sounds like something I could never do. Only having kids might spark that mindset in me I'd reckon.
post 1645708893 08-25-2021, 03:00 PM
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No learned it the hard way

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post 1645709253 08-25-2021, 03:05 PM
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as a man youre supposed to lead your family in the house which entails making the decisions that impact everyone in that house so you have to keep them in mind with everything you do


as a man i dont believe its about putting her or the kids above yourself as they are apart of you now


you put them on the same level as yourself - not above or below
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post 1645709483 08-25-2021, 03:07 PM
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Men are and always have been disposable, but the social covenant has been broken so theres really no reason to accept that fate any longer.
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post 1645709673 08-25-2021, 03:09 PM
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Nope. I put my children first, would lay down my life for them. Would not for the wife. Best I can do, I'll put myself in a risky situation if there is a reasonable chance to help/save her. Ie, I'll donate both my kidneys and lungs to my children and die on the operating table, not wife. I might run into a burning house for her, provided there was a reasonable chance I might save her and the risk wasn't certain death.
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post 1645709803 08-25-2021, 03:11 PM
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Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig⏩
as a man youre supposed to lead your family in the house which entails making the decisions that impact everyone in that house so you have to keep them in mind with everything you do


as a man i dont believe its about putting her or the kids above yourself as they are apart of you now


you put them on the same level as yourself - not above or below
Damn, solid advice. Came in to post virulent sexism, and learned something new.

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post 1645709893 08-25-2021, 03:11 PM
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If you guys once lived together and mutually decided to move apart, I got some bad news.... even if you 'decided to stay together'
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post 1645710323 08-25-2021, 03:16 PM
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It depends on the situation. It's not a you definitely do or you definitely don't kind of thing. If you're in a decent relationship, you should have a good working balance and know what it is. Having a good balance will govern when you do or don't and she shouldn't expect anything outside of that.
post 1645740143 08-26-2021, 01:10 AM
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post 1645740963 08-26-2021, 01:53 AM
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Not sure what you mean by that.. but relationships are give and take, and should be roughly equal. If one part does way more than the other, its skewed and not equal.


Many men also become docile (aka whipped), forget all about their own life/hobbies/friends and end up rotting. You should always have personal time for you and yourself and hone that besides relationship/family life
post 1645740983 08-26-2021, 01:55 AM
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Women before men? Lmao wut is dys? Cooking show?
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losing all to her in future
is something stupid if it happened to you.
post 1645741313 08-26-2021, 02:16 AM
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You put the relationship first, not her. If you put her first over yourself or the good of the relationship, it will fail. Guaranteed.

Never let a woman take the lead in a relationship. The relationship will fall apart and she will not respect you, end up dumping/cheating on you anyway, and saying it's all your fault.

Compromise is fine, being a door mat is not.

Sounds like her dad is a cuck and she's a "princess."

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