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post 1654939153 01-24-2022, 05:28 PM
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Should gays be allowed to use surrogates to have kids?

Wife recently found out that due to a medical issue she can't have kids..no fault of ours...she's kind of devastated...

Been on surrogate pages lately and found out we will be competing with gay people to even get a surrogate at all.


I'm a pretty accepting fella, but..

Should people who can't due to medical issues not get first pick over these people?

Should I be as bitter as I am about this?
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post 1654939183 01-24-2022, 05:29 PM
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Why not?
post 1654939323 01-24-2022, 05:31 PM
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Children should not be raised by mentally ill. Take that for what you will.
post 1654939633 01-24-2022, 05:38 PM
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Originally Posted By JayJ350⏩
Why not?
Due to a side effect from a medical procedure, my wife can't have a kid.

Just seems like that should take precident over two dudes who were never intended to have kids.

After that, they can go for it...
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post 1654940103 01-24-2022, 05:46 PM
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Originally Posted By Hutrapper⏩
Due to a side effect from a medical procedure, my wife can't have a kid.

Just seems like that should take precident over two dudes who were never intended to have kids.

After that, they can go for it...
Agreed. They can have leftover kids. Better them than nobody, but definitely lower priority than real couples.
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post 1654940443 01-24-2022, 05:52 PM
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I’m so sorry Op. My husband and I have dealt with infertility issues the last few years. My heart goes out to you and your wife. Apply and see what happens. There are surrogates out there who probably don’t want to carry a child for a gay couple due to their beliefs and would rather help a couple like you and your wife. Do you have family or a friend willing to help you out?
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post 1654940663 01-24-2022, 05:57 PM
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Originally Posted By MadNinjaSkills⏩
I’m so sorry Op. My husband and I have dealt with infertility issues the last few years. My heart goes out to you and your wife. Apply and see what happens. There are surrogates out there who probably don’t want to carry a child for a gay couple due to their beliefs and would rather help a couple like you and your wife. Do you have family or a friend willing to help you out?
We have a friend who did a private surrogacy and she said it was better than agency. Buy we are just wading into it now. Have embryos iced.

Sorry to hear you are dealing with it too.

My wife miscarried and as a result of a D&C her uterus is fukked now...

The surrogate does pick the couple, so maybe belief systems will help level the field a bit.
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post 1654941263 01-24-2022, 06:07 PM
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Originally Posted By Hutrapper⏩
We have a friend who did a private surrogacy and she said it was better than agency. Buy we are just wading into it now. Have embryos iced.

Sorry to hear you are dealing with it too.

My wife miscarried and as a result of a D&C her uterus is fukked now...

The surrogate does pick the couple, so maybe belief systems will help level the field a bit.
That’s good you have some embryos to use. That’s one step ahead of some people. So stay positive!

That’s awful! Is there anything they can do to repair any damage? I had a miscarriage in middle of 2020, but chose to do the pill. There is no easy solution when it comes to that.

Is there such a thing as a Christian/religious based surrogate agency? Keep doing research till you find a good fit.
post 1654941423 01-24-2022, 06:11 PM
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Originally Posted By MadNinjaSkills⏩
That’s good you have some embryos to use. That’s one step ahead of some people. So stay positive!

That’s awful! Is there anything they can do to repair any damage? I had a miscarriage in middle of 2020, but chose to do the pill. There is no easy solution when it comes to that.

Is there such a thing as a Christian/religious based surrogate agency? Keep doing research till you find a good fit.
She has surgery planned to correct it, but the doctor said it's one in a million chance it will work.

We tried the pill. Wasn't working...

Will look into the Christian surrogacy thing
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post 1654943443 01-24-2022, 06:47 PM
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GL finding somebody brah I'd be pissed as well. I don't think gays should be allowed to adopt either. A child needs a father and a mother.
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I don't blame you for being upset and yes you should come first. If I wasn't too old to be a surrogate I'd be all over this srs.
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post 1654943633 01-24-2022, 06:52 PM
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post 1654943743 01-24-2022, 06:54 PM
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Originally Posted By Barteh⏩
GL finding somebody brah I'd be pissed as well. I don't think gays should be allowed to adopt either. A child needs a father and a mother.
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post 1654963563 01-25-2022, 06:20 AM
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Originally Posted By Barteh⏩
GL finding somebody brah I'd be pissed as well. I don't think gays should be allowed to adopt either. A child needs a father and a mother.
Its tough to function in the world with those views. I share them.

While I accept everyone and treat them no different, my beliefs are that its contributing to the degradation of society.
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post 1654963663 01-25-2022, 06:21 AM
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Originally Posted By kimm4⏩
I don't blame you for being upset and yes you should come first. If I wasn't too old to be a surrogate I'd be all over this srs.
Aww thanks!

Never too old for most things, but the surrogacy cutoff is 35 unfortunately.

My wife found out that once you are over 35 your pregnancy is referred to as a "geriatric pregnancy".

She wasn't a fan of hearing that lol
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post 1654963813 01-25-2022, 06:24 AM
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Originally Posted By Hutrapper⏩
Should people who can't due to medical issues not get first pick over these people?

Should I be as bitter as I am about this?
Yes. I'm not too keen and gays having kids (ESPECIALLY lesbians, it's almost definitely over for those kids), but them potentially getting priority over a hetero couple (assuming they have their shyt together of course) is extra ridiculous imo.
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Gays? Yes.

Trannys? Fuk no.
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Dude that's awful, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you guys are able to find some potential alternatives.

To answer your question, imagine having 2 dads. Imagine if your gay fathers were more on the alpha side of the spectrum. 2 big burly buttfuking bears that accompany you everywhere like security. Literally no one would fuk with you.
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Originally Posted By GuineaDago585⏩
Gays? Yes.

Trannys? Fuk no.
the world is so fukked srs
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Originally Posted By lightsarefallin⏩
Dude that's awful, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you guys are able to find some potential alternatives.

To answer your question, imagine having 2 dads. Imagine if your gay fathers were more on the alpha side of the spectrum. 2 big burly buttfuking bears that accompany you everywhere like security. Literally no one would fuk with you.
I think we've established that being gay is the highest test one can have right?

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And thanks, hoping it works out. When your wife has dreamed of having kids her entire life and wants nothing more, being told you can't have them is pretty crushing.


I am getting tired of waking up to her crying late at night, srs...
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This isn’t about the homos, this is about the kids. Is it fair to these kids to be forced in to homes without a mother or father? We know the effects of weak parents, weak family units missing a mother or father, and this is no different. A man cannot provide what a woman can, and he has to accept that truth. A woman cannot provide what a man can, and she has to accept this.

This why the the whole “equal” mentality requires a particular perspective. We are equal in God’s eyes, but we are not equal on earth. We both have weaknesses, strengths, and differences that are equally important, but that doesn’t make us the same.

There are people out there that have written books about being raised in the homes and it wasn’t until they were adults that they realized they were robbed out of a good home and it took them years to realize the results of that.

Gays and lesbians taking in children is extremely selfish. They are only thinking of themselves, whether they want to believe that or not. As usually, far leftists never think of the outcomes and people affected, only their emotions
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Originally Posted By Kraken⏩
This isn’t about the homos, this is about the kids. Is it fair to these kids to be forced in to homes without a mother or father? We know the effects of weak parents, weak family units missing a mother or father, and this is no different. A man cannot provide what a woman can, and he has to accept that truth. A woman cannot provide what a man can, and she has to accept this.

This why the the whole “equal” mentality requires a particular perspective. We are equal in God’s eyes, but we are not equal on earth. We both have weaknesses, strengths, and differences that are equally important, but that doesn’t make us the same.

There are people out there that have written books about being raised in the homes and it wasn’t until they were adults that they realized they were robbed out of a good home and it took them years to realize the results of that.

Gays and lesbians taking in children is extremely selfish. They are only thinking of themselves, whether they want to believe that or not. As usually, far leftists never think of the outcomes and people affected, only their emotions
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Absolutely not
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Originally Posted By Kraken⏩
This isn’t about the homos, this is about the kids. Is it fair to these kids to be forced in to homes without a mother or father? We know the effects of weak parents, weak family units missing a mother or father, and this is no different. A man cannot provide what a woman can, and he has to accept that truth. A woman cannot provide what a man can, and she has to accept this.

This why the the whole “equal” mentality requires a particular perspective. We are equal in God’s eyes, but we are not equal on earth. We both have weaknesses, strengths, and differences that are equally important, but that doesn’t make us the same.

There are people out there that have written books about being raised in the homes and it wasn’t until they were adults that they realized they were robbed out of a good home and it took them years to realize the results of that.

Gays and lesbians taking in children is extremely selfish. They are only thinking of themselves, whether they want to believe that or not. As usually, far leftists never think of the outcomes and people affected, only their emotions
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Originally Posted By ShakeBrah⏩
Agreed. They can have leftover kids.
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Originally Posted By Shysty021⏩
Sheesh being female aint bad

Get knocked up, kick back, make bank…rinse and repeat
its pretty good bank. There are legal fees, but a surrogate is likely to cost me 100 gs.

Even if they only get 60 of that, an extra 60k for not smoking and drinking is decent.
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Most gay brahs I know are surprisingly based. They’re also well-educated and earn high incomes. I would have no problem with them raising children.

I can’t say the same for lesbians or transgenders. I would genuinely worry for the mental well-being of any kids they parent.
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