To get it out of the way - I'm not a virgin. I'm into double digits now with women I've fukt. But it's starting to bother me that I've never approached a girl in public. Even when being given signals to approach (holding eye contact, smile, double look, flat-out waving at me) I've always pussyed out.

I've seen girls who I knew liked me. I've seen girls I matched with on Tinder who were staring at me. I've seen girls waiting at the end of the self-serve checkouts so they could walk-out near me... I've literally just walked straight by them all as if they weren't there.

Just can't seem to get the confidence up. Today I was walking towards a girl in a isolated location. She was wearing those faux-leather tight black pants that I love on women. It crossed my mind I should just compliment her on her pants but I simply walked past her in silence.

How often do you single bros approach girls? Any apprehension or does that ease off once you get used to it?

I just do and end up looking retarded. It helps if you’ve had a few drinks. Run things through your head sometimes prior too. Also quit fapping. If you are super horny you will tell a girl anything without a care.

Are you just a tinder monkey or something? Blows my mind how much ass my friends will get on Tinder yet they can't approach IRL.

If you get anxiety it just means you gotta warm up by talking to people more. Can be anyone btw, not just HBBs. I usually bring up situational chit with women if they haven't shown they're interested yet. It's also funny how universal psychological/personality stuff is with most women. Any time I say "You know what I notice about you...." they completely lock in.

you have social anxiety. it's a thing.


thank God i don't have that.

Get your testosterone checked.

Dead srs.

as someone who has done plenty of both, online dating is better because you know they're actively looking for someone like you are

as for approaching, think of it like jumping into cold water, it'll suck at first but you'll get use to it once you start doing it more often

stupidest thing in the world is cold approaching chicks in public, unless its a pub

its fukcing creepy and retarded

it's not so much about getting laid as it is about having the sales/personal skills and confidence to not give a fuark and be able to go up to people. .

I will say something to any chick I pass by that I find attractive. srs Sometimes they ignore, sometimes they laugh, sometimes they stop and talk. It's less effort than swiping in my experience and it feels good.

not really. How is it creepy? If you have any sense of self worth, you'd be doing them a disservice by not approaching. Most girls are happy to talk to someone who's got it together. srs

i have but never banged one I approached i dont think

Don't think of it as approaching them. You're just starting a conversation with someone. See a guy at the store with a Rams/Bengals hat or some chit? Be like "Hey bro, go Rams! Should be a sweet game!" and see if they're receptive. If they are, you can strike up a friendly conversation on the game. You're not hitting on them, just starting a conversation.

Same approach with girls you randomly see in public. You're not approaching them for a date, you're just striking up a conversation. Use that conversation to judge their interest. During these conversations, mention something about their BF/husband and see if they mention they're single or not. If they respond letting you know they're single, you're in. If they say they're in a relationship or give a neutral response, just leave it at that.

Also, if you see some girl wearing something you just love, just let them know. Normally if I do something like that, I make sure to include something else not to come off creepy, like if a girl was wearing super tight leather pants like you said, "Hey, I just have to say... those pants are awesome, look totally badass" or whatever I think the look she's going for was. Another one is nails. Girls spend lots of time on their nails and guys don't GAF. Sometimes they have weird designs "Hey I just randomly noticed, your nails look badass" or ask what's painted on them or some chit.

Haven't done it in a long time since I'm married but just stop worrying about being shot down. It happens and literally nobody except you remembers 5 seconds later, just like anything else in the world - nobody cares.

Start by just talking to people around you.

I've fked over 100+ girls by approaching them on the streets & gym (100% srs). You just need to accept that you'll get rejected and laugh it off when girls reject you or you say something awkward. You're anxious as fk because you take yourself too seriously.

damn, 33 and never been rejected

mirin

you missed out on a lot of free pussy.

in your younger days they would literally fk you that same day if you have just gone up to them and say hi

hahahahahah... awesomely said !!!

it's like lifting. Check your ego at the door and just do it. Don't chat them up thinking you'll get laid, chat them up to see if they are even remotely interesting. I find it a lot of fun to have a circle of friends and acquaintances who are interesting people to be with. Then, if there is some interest try to go for a deeper connection ))

try men srs

Yeah. Everyone I approach is with someone. It’s awkward.

Approach online FFS. It's 2022

where do u live