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post 1660279663 04-26-2022, 06:40 AM
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Number 1 cause of Inceldom/no gf is not mingling with girls srs

I see most people putting it down to guys being too short, too ugly etc, the main thing stopping them is not actually coming into contact with girls in a social or even a work setting.

A guy who wants to meet girls needs a couple or more guy friends to go out with and mingle and meet girls. Or work or study with them, or be part of a bigger mixed social group.

I’m a pretty decent looking guy I’ve been told and people were always surprised J didn’t have a gf and I was always frustrated but the problem was I work in construction with no women and my socialising evaporated after school and most people went off to uni. If you don’t talk to girls you won’t get any simple.

Incels need to get off the Xbox and out there.
post 1660279763 04-26-2022, 06:43 AM
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OP is not a (p)haggot in this case. Biggest thing you can do is have a mixed social group and regularly go do things with said group. You get more comfortable around people, surround yourself with those who push you to be better, and be the best version of yourself.

With a side benefit of making it easier to meet women/opposite sex.
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post 1660279863 04-26-2022, 06:47 AM
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Nah, women are right, 80% of men are ugly worthless dregs on society.
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No the number 1 cause of inceldom is not having sex with women
post 1660280833 04-26-2022, 07:14 AM
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According to bigballsmcgee all his friends are average looking guys and always go out yet never find women.

Have Incels thought about being a trans woman or turning gay? They'll have all types of huge support from the LGBTQ community.
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I think most guys don't get girls because of a lack of effort for one reason or 20. I've gotten a lot of pussy in my time but it has usually required lots of "work". If you don't put yourself out there and start chatting them up nonstop, don't be surprised if you're the only one sucking your dink SRS
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I can't even find anyone to talk to can't get past the marriage, netflix or social media convos like what do you even talk to them about in this day and age? Everyone is on their phones anyways looking at sm srs

Legit have no idea how people meet people nowadays (since 2015 tbh)
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I can't even find anyone to talk to can't get past the marriage, netflix or social media convos like what do you even talk to them about in this day and age? Everyone is on their phones anyways looking at sm srs

Legit have no idea how people meet people nowadays (since 2015 tbh)
Really isnt that hard to meet people...social events....social sports....church group...work crew...expand...

like i said before and what the **** up there said, social circles and poocy are the same. You have to put in work. Not just sit around and hope people come talk to you.
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post 1660281283 04-26-2022, 07:26 AM
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Lol i think its more that these dudes don't make any moves/are too scared to make a move or pursue.
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Originally Posted By DesiredUser****⏩
I think most guys don't get girls because of a lack of effort for one reason or 20. I've gotten a lot of pussy in my time but it has usually required lots of "work". If you don't put yourself out there and start chatting them up nonstop, don't be surprised if you're the only one sucking your dink SRS
Yeah I'm gonna start going out this summer. I just gotta lose this bloat, it's the only thing holding me back imo. My confidence just isn't there with a moonface.
post 1660285273 04-26-2022, 08:52 AM
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Originally Posted By twovalvekid⏩
Really isnt that hard to meet people...social events....social sports....church group...work crew...expand...

like i said before and what the **** up there said, social circles and poocy are the same. You have to put in work. Not just sit around and hope people come talk to you.
Bro I'm out talking with people all day but it never goes beyond the awkward small talk stuff

Sure I can talk video games or mlb with someone but that doesn't turn into anything else
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There's definitely a correlation between hanging out with women when in your teens and being able to be comfortable around women later. If you don't learn proper social skills with all types of people you're likely going to have issues.

I lived with a bunch of girls in university in a mixed house for a couple of years and it made me totally bulletproof around them as an adult.
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Race, Height, Looks, Baldness and income are probably the top 5 reasons for men being incels in the US in 2022.
Other reasons may have mattered more 20 or 30 years ago, but those are the top 5.
It's just a different world out there. Even a 10/10 6'3" eight figure per year salary blonde haired blue eyed gigachad with 8 pack abs and a 9" dink can still be instantly rejected and dumped if a woman finds out that he's uncircumcised for instance.
This guy would be the top 1/1000th of 1% in Europe, but he'd still get rejected by most women in the US.
That's how crazy and unrealistic and delusional the average 5'3.7" 171 lbs tatted up, 100 bodycount average single mom American woman is in 2022.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
Bro I'm out talking with people all day but it never goes beyond the awkward small talk stuff

Sure I can talk video games or mlb with someone but that doesn't turn into anything else
So obvious the answer is to give up? Going a "talking" to people isnt what im talking about. Go do "things" that purposefully surround you with people and develop lasting relationships. Like i said above, go do social sports for example. Go join a kickball/softball/other sport league that's co ed. Develop the friendships yourself and surround yourself with people.

If you cant do any of that, i would suggest going to a therapist srs.
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Originally Posted By twovalvekid⏩
So obvious the answer is to give up? Going a "talking" to people isnt what im talking about. Go do "things" that purposefully surround you with people and develop lasting relationships. Like i said above, go do social sports for example. Go join a kickball/softball/other sport league that's co ed. Develop the friendships yourself and surround yourself with people.

If you cant do any of that, i would suggest going to a therapist srs.
I played sports with randoms and NBA and college players for years man. Never made friends. Sure I had people at the gym to talk to back then but I'm in a different stage of life now. I'm not in my early 20s anymore. I played basketball and baseball for 18 years
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Originally Posted By MikeLowrrrey⏩
Yeah I'm gonna start going out this summer. I just gotta lose this bloat, it's the only thing holding me back imo. My confidence just isn't there with a moonface.
Pretend you're skinny.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I played sports with randoms and NBA and college players for years man. Never made friends. Sure I had people at the gym to talk to back then but I'm in a different stage of life now. I'm not in my early 20s anymore. I played basketball and baseball for 18 years
Im not talking about crap like that. Specifically social sports that get you around mixed company regularly and then have after game activities to go meet and greet. Not talking sweating it out with the Bros at the gym in the all male B ball league. Get out of your damn comfort zone and grow a little bruh.

But if you want to be obtuse about it, continue to be a FA master, and bitch on the misc, be my guest.
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Incels need an infrastructure to meet girls. If they wait too long, it becomes 100x harder as they get into a rut and their social skills/self esteem deteriorate.

When I was younger I was constantly on the hunt with my friends but damn that chit seems so tiring now. Pretty much every day and weekend, texting, messaging, myspace, dating sites, going out to cold approach. It was a constant hustle. Glad I got a girl though so I don't have to worry about it anymore but if we broke up, I know I'll have to put in some serious effort
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Originally Posted By 8eggs⏩
Nah, women are right, 80% of men are ugly worthless dregs on society.
80% of women have BPD, eat hot chip, and lie
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Originally Posted By twovalvekid⏩
Im not talking about crap like that. Specifically social sports that get you around mixed company regularly and then have after game activities to go meet and greet. Not talking sweating it out with the Bros at the gym in the all male B ball league. Get out of your damn comfort zone and grow a little bruh.

But if you want to be obtuse about it, continue to be a FA master, and bitch on the misc, be my guest.
I wouldn't connect with anyone that's why I'm fa in the first place

I can small talk and joke around about random chit all day but it never turns into anything more

I've been socializing and cracking jokes all day today but it never networks beyond this

And it only works at the moment because I've known my only two coworkers for years so sometimes we just talk a lot. Most of the time we barely say chit though cuz we're all fa and bored lmao there's just no sense of community anymore
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If half the incel population became trannies then we could have our own self contained dating group
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wow

really it’s that easy?

incel never talk to women at all?


OP needs a Nobel prize


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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I wouldn't connect with anyone that's why I'm fa in the first place

I can small talk and joke around about random chit all day but it never turns into anything more

I've been socializing and cracking jokes all day today but it never networks beyond this

And it only works at the moment because I've known my only two coworkers for years so sometimes we just talk a lot. Most of the time we barely say chit though cuz we're all fa and bored lmao there's just no sense of community anymore
Can you talk about anything other than gaming?

Pick any girl.

Ask her about herself. Trust me its her favorite topic.

You don't even have to listen, just nod, smile, and every now and then repeat her last sentence back to her as if she said something profound.

Profit.
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Originally Posted By WoofieNugget⏩
There's definitely a correlation between hanging out with women when in your teens and being able to be comfortable around women later. If you don't learn proper social skills with all types of people you're likely going to have issues.

I lived with a bunch of girls in university in a mixed house for a couple of years and it made me totally bulletproof around them as an adult.
Most men still can't seem to approach a woman in public though. Being around women in your teens helps a lot, but it's really about getting out of your comfort and talking to strangers. Only then can you excel getting laid much more than the average joe.
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
Pretend you're skinny.
I can't do it. Would be nice. Luckily I'm tall, so if I can lose another 30lbs or so the bloat won't be so bad. I was 285 at one point, absolutely massive. Half ass worked out and got down to 275. Right now I hover around 255. I just need to stay consistent.
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Originally Posted By bfdehewdbyywhn⏩
wow

really it’s that easy?

incel never talk to women at all?


OP needs a Nobel prize

Guys like this sorry motherphukka need to moneymaxx, surgerymaxx or looksmatch. See there are options even for the aesthetically handicapped.
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Originally Posted By userO1ROTHKVUIA⏩
I see most people putting it down to guys being too short, too ugly etc, the main thing stopping them is not actually coming into contact with girls in a social or even a work setting.

A guy who wants to meet girls needs a couple or more guy friends to go out with and mingle and meet girls. Or work or study with them, or be part of a bigger mixed social group.

I’m a pretty decent looking guy I’ve been told and people were always surprised J didn’t have a gf and I was always frustrated but the problem was I work in construction with no women and my socialising evaporated after school and most people went off to uni. If you don’t talk to girls you won’t get any simple.

Incels need to get off the Xbox and out there.
If you live in the US mingling is really hard.

There's very few places to meet people on a regular basis. To "mingle" you have to have a regular place where people see each other and WHERE IS THAT?

The only healthy place I can think of is the gym.

However, the standard places are bars that are local to your area.

People used to meet in church or high school, but now I don't think that's real.

All of the online stuff creates an opportunity to meet people BUT I think that's gross as you can't get a vibe from the person online. Also, you are judging them by a picture, which is not good info. I have been turned on by girl I have seen at work, the gym, etc who I wouldn't care about if I saw their picture. IN real life, they are giving off some kind of "full picture" vibe that I like, so the online stuff is like 10% of what makes people attractive.

So, "getting out there is" people at work, gym, local bar, and MAYBE meetup groups which they have in my city.

Random getting out there would be online dating.

The term "incel" is pretty grim. The real term involves getting rejected and ignored but that's not the case if you really have no women around to reject you.

So, guy that don't have places to mingle are not really incels, they are something else that I don't know the term for.
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Mingle with girls? Lmao fk that.
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I used to think miscers were joking about being incel. Just talk like a normal friendly well adjusted adult and read for cues that let you know she is interested. (Is she being extra nice? Is she fumbling over her words? Did she give you something for free? Is she practically begging for you to make a move?) If you get the slightest hint that she is interested ask for her number in a non-generic way. She will admire the fact that a guy actually talked to her and got her digits in real life rather than some pathetic dating app. Women crave something spontaneous and "real" just like we do.

For example, getting some fast food, girl that took my order and is giving me my food is cute. We go through the motions and she hands me my food. She says, "Is there anything else I can get you." I see the opening and say, "Yeah, your number." She blushes and says, "Are you serious." And I say, "Yeah of course." She writes down her number on a receipt. Just like that I had a new girl.

See how that works? Women will ACTIVELY GIVE YOU OPPORTUNITIES if you are decent looking. So OPEN YOUR EYES AND EARS and when you see one HAVE THE BALLS TO ACT ON IT IMMEDIATELY WITHOUT HESITATION.

If girls never give you the opportunity or if your self-confidence is too low to act on one then you have personal stuff to work on before pursuing women. Getting yourself in a good place looks and mentality wise is the first step.
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