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People who have kids in their 30s
have you considered the timeline?
let's say you are a high value man and you wait until your 30s to get into a serious relationship.
let's say you meet someone when you're 33 and decide to marry them after 2 years. you're now 35.
let's say you decide to have a kid after one year, and you finally get your girl pregnant. you're now 36.
pregnancy takes 9 months. you're now ~37.
by the time your kid leaves for college, you're 55.
by the time your kid graduates college, you're 59 (probably retired).
by the time your kid hits 30, you'll be 67.
by the time your kid has grandkids, you'll probably be 70.
is this reasonable? won't you be old by the time your kid is done with college and has kids?
let's say you are a high value man and you wait until your 30s to get into a serious relationship.
let's say you meet someone when you're 33 and decide to marry them after 2 years. you're now 35.
let's say you decide to have a kid after one year, and you finally get your girl pregnant. you're now 36.
pregnancy takes 9 months. you're now ~37.
by the time your kid leaves for college, you're 55.
by the time your kid graduates college, you're 59 (probably retired).
by the time your kid hits 30, you'll be 67.
by the time your kid has grandkids, you'll probably be 70.
is this reasonable? won't you be old by the time your kid is done with college and has kids?
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Whats your point? My job is to raise a kid until adulthood, im not gonna be around forever regardless
I feel sorry for kids that lose their parents at like 10 years old and chit, thats rough.
But if your'e a fully grown adult and you then lose your parent, you had your time with them and they did their job
I feel sorry for kids that lose their parents at like 10 years old and chit, thats rough.
But if your'e a fully grown adult and you then lose your parent, you had your time with them and they did their job
08-31-2022, 09:57 AM
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So?
My father was in his late 30s
And his bro actually had a kid around 50~
My father was in his late 30s
And his bro actually had a kid around 50~
08-31-2022, 09:58 AM
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If you looked after yourself you'll look and feel 50 when you're 70
08-31-2022, 10:00 AM
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This is almost exactly my timeline.
My choice was to have kids with all the time in the world, or have kids early and not have all the time in the world to be with them and raise them properly.
I chose option A. Of course I understood the downside. I may never have grandkids.
But the downside for option B was worse....which is what I believe most of society chooses. Have kids and not be around enough to raise them properly because you are at work for at least 8 hours a day or not have the finances to give you the time to do whatever you want with them.
Everything in life is a choice. Every choice has Pros and Cons.
My choice was to have kids with all the time in the world, or have kids early and not have all the time in the world to be with them and raise them properly.
I chose option A. Of course I understood the downside. I may never have grandkids.
But the downside for option B was worse....which is what I believe most of society chooses. Have kids and not be around enough to raise them properly because you are at work for at least 8 hours a day or not have the finances to give you the time to do whatever you want with them.
Everything in life is a choice. Every choice has Pros and Cons.
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Imagine wasting your 20’s being a parent
08-31-2022, 10:06 AM
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
i'm 35 myself. i'm looking towards a later timeline as well. i've taken great care of myself to the point where i feel no different from when i was 25.This is almost exactly my timeline.
My choice was to have kids with all the time in the world, or have kids early and not have all the time in the world to be with them and raise them properly.
I chose option A. Of course I understood the downside. I may never have grandkids.
But the downside for option B was worse....which is what I believe most of society chooses. Have kids and not be around enough to raise them properly because you are at work for at least 8 hours a day or not have the finances to give you the time to do whatever you want with them.
Everything in life is a choice. Every choice has Pros and Cons.
My choice was to have kids with all the time in the world, or have kids early and not have all the time in the world to be with them and raise them properly.
I chose option A. Of course I understood the downside. I may never have grandkids.
But the downside for option B was worse....which is what I believe most of society chooses. Have kids and not be around enough to raise them properly because you are at work for at least 8 hours a day or not have the finances to give you the time to do whatever you want with them.
Everything in life is a choice. Every choice has Pros and Cons.
i think i aged very well, but it's unclear how long that lasts for once testosterone drops and whatnot.
as far as having time, i can understand that. i'm at a point in my career where i have plenty of free time, and on top of that i work from home.. so now is the right time for kids. i just feel like i'm late to the game and will be an old parent.
08-31-2022, 10:08 AM
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my son came when i was 43, i am now 58, best thing i ever did
if you are in good shape physically its win win , money sorted, house sorted, career sorted and so much life experience to pass on
if you are in good shape physically its win win , money sorted, house sorted, career sorted and so much life experience to pass on
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Not sure what the problem is? A HVM would have a high enough net worth to still to do everything, while still raising a loving family.
08-31-2022, 10:10 AM
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
Likewise here. I got divorced at age 29, and what a disaster it would've been if I had kids with my first wife. Besides I have a lot more energy, strength, physical ability than my parents did at my current age. And they're thriving in their mid to late 70s.This is almost exactly my timeline.
My choice was to have kids with all the time in the world, or have kids early and not have all the time in the world to be with them and raise them properly.
I chose option A. Of course I understood the downside. I may never have grandkids.
But the downside for option B was worse....which is what I believe most of society chooses. Have kids and not be around enough to raise them properly because you are at work for at least 8 hours a day or not have the finances to give you the time to do whatever you want with them.
Everything in life is a choice. Every choice has Pros and Cons.
My choice was to have kids with all the time in the world, or have kids early and not have all the time in the world to be with them and raise them properly.
I chose option A. Of course I understood the downside. I may never have grandkids.
But the downside for option B was worse....which is what I believe most of society chooses. Have kids and not be around enough to raise them properly because you are at work for at least 8 hours a day or not have the finances to give you the time to do whatever you want with them.
Everything in life is a choice. Every choice has Pros and Cons.
Yeah Buddyyy! Light weight! Light weight baby!!!!
08-31-2022, 10:11 AM
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Originally Posted By AncientYouth⏩
in hindsight my decision to wait wasn't a bad one; i was making $60k when i graduated college and had over $150k of debt.. now at 35 i make $150k minimum and have less than $25k of debt. the girl i'm dating pulls in close to $100k so if it works out we'd be pulling in $250k together.. much more stable environment to raise a childmy son came when i was 43, i am now 58, best thing i ever did
if you are in good shape physically its win win , money sorted, house sorted, career sorted and so much life experience to pass on
if you are in good shape physically its win win , money sorted, house sorted, career sorted and so much life experience to pass on
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That sounds like a great timeline
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Who cares. World is circling the drain anyway. Pump out as many kids as you can to ensure your bloodline survives the pending shortage of resources.
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Originally Posted By Muscle2021⏩
yea it sounds like the timeline of someone who delayed as much as possible right? the alternative would have been to marry in early 20s and pop out kids then, but by then your kids are out of the house by 45..That sounds like a great timeline
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Originally Posted By Insidermane⏩
So you're just going to chuck them out at 18 with no care if you're around to see them be a successful adult and have children. Or be around for your grandkids?Whats your point?My job is to raise a kid until adulthood, im not gonna be around forever regardless
I feel sorry for kids that lose their parents at like 10 years old and chit, thats rough.
But if your'e a fully grown adult and you then lose your parent, you had your time with them and they did their job
I feel sorry for kids that lose their parents at like 10 years old and chit, thats rough.
But if your'e a fully grown adult and you then lose your parent, you had your time with them and they did their job
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Wife and I were in on the "no kids crew" before it was a trend. Then we had a talk and said we don't want to be 40 when we finally decided to have our first. He was born when we were 35, he'll be 7 this fall. Youngest is 4. As long as you're mentally prepared to be a good parent, they do keep you feeling young. In hindsight it migh've made more sense to be a few years younger but wouldn't change anything. And now that we're around other parents, I do see a few that are a bit older like us. It's not as uncommon as you think.
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Originally Posted By Basiliskboy⏩
Imagine wasting most of your 40s still being a parent. 40s is prime living time.Imagine wasting your 20’s being a parent
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Originally Posted By Insidermane⏩
Sorry your 40s sucked.No its not lol, youth is a luxury to have
You'd rather be young and broke than rich and decrepit
You spend your youth maximizing every opportunity you can, and you can't do that when you have a fukin child to take care of
You'd rather be young and broke than rich and decrepit
You spend your youth maximizing every opportunity you can, and you can't do that when you have a fukin child to take care of
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Honestly its probably best to checkout right when they grad HS. After that will turn into ungrateful little chits who never visit or call you anyway. Might as well out on the high note.
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Everyone forgetting TRT exists, and research being done to halt/reverse aging. Maybe in the future your 70s = 40s
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Originally Posted By 2020Wellness⏩
Imagine being a parent at all..Imagine wasting most of your 40s still being a parent. 40s is prime living time.
You have to be a complete fukin psychopath to think that bringing a kid into this world is a good idea.
Before 2012, maybe, but now?! Just fuking el oh el
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I gotta wait till they invent sex robots with artifical wombs.
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Originally Posted By 2020Wellness⏩
40s prime living time? Lol! After 30 is literally the perfect time to have kids. You have the money and you’re too old to do the chit you did in your 20sImagine wasting most of your 40s still being a parent. 40s is prime living time.
You’re gonna goto a rave in your 40s while your kids are in college? Just lol
Also having that young energy around you for sure increases your lifespan
I’d rather be 50 shopping for colleges with my son than 50 with everyone out the house bored out of my mind.
Imagine being retired while your son is in his early 20s no real responsibility or wife to take up his time. Just enjoying life
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Originally Posted By heiltrump2024⏩
Good perspective.i'm 35 myself. i'm looking towards a later timeline as well. i've taken great care of myself to the point where i feel no different from when i was 25.
i think i aged very well, but it's unclear how long that lasts for once testosterone drops and whatnot.
as far as having time, i can understand that. i'm at a point in my career where i have plenty of free time, and on top of that i work from home.. so now is the right time for kids. i just feel like i'm late to the game and will be an old parent.
i think i aged very well, but it's unclear how long that lasts for once testosterone drops and whatnot.
as far as having time, i can understand that. i'm at a point in my career where i have plenty of free time, and on top of that i work from home.. so now is the right time for kids. i just feel like i'm late to the game and will be an old parent.
At around 40, i started noticing a big change in the way my body responded to things. Flexibility went down and stiffness stuck around a little longer. I couldnt eat as loosely as I did in my 20s and 30's and still stay respectably lean.
So I had to kick it into higher gear and change the dynamics of my workouts. Its all a give and a take.
As far as where you are in life....sounds like you are in a good place.
The million dollar question however is have you found a woman you are willing to have kids with? That was a variable that was uncompromising for me. I was open to never being married or having kids if i never met the right girl. That variable has no timeline. You either do or you dont.
Most people force it. And thats why you see a bunch of heart feelings and unhappy people running arounnd this world.
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Originally Posted By heiltrump2024⏩
This is great! The goal for me was to have enough going on that if someone said "i need you to do XYZ" I could say "no man, sorry.....Im spending time with my kids at that time"in hindsight my decision to wait wasn't a bad one; i was making $60k when i graduated college and had over $150k of debt.. now at 35 i make $150k minimum and have less than $25k of debt. the girl i'm dating pulls in close to $100k so if it works out we'd be pulling in $250k together.. much more stable environment to raise a child
I have done it. And it feels great.
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
Goals man mirinThis is great! The goal for me was to have enough going on that if someone said "i need you to do XYZ" I could say "no man, sorry.....Im spending time with my kids at that time"
I have done it. And it feels great.
I have done it. And it feels great.
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Originally Posted By 2020Wellness⏩
Are you low key saying your life sucked while raising your kid?Sorry your 40s sucked.
Im serious here. Im mid 40's and I cant wait for when my kids wake up so we can do things together.
I had a great time in my 20's.....travelled the world......transitioned from a boy to a man in the business world, learned a lot, partied a lot, made a lot of great connections with people
I can see it being flipped around (kids in 20 and partying in 40's) and id be happy for that person too!
But saying whatever era you spent raising your kids "sucked" ........that sucks bro
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