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09-06-2022, 07:49 PM
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At what point do you settle? Is my list too strict?
A few days ago someone made a thread about a list of qualities that makes someone wife material
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
09-06-2022, 07:50 PM
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
If you're too old to care about look, she will not have the body count you desireA few days ago someone made a thread about a list of qualities that makes someone wife material
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I'm not in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I'm not in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
09-06-2022, 07:56 PM
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
Might have to move to Mecca. Low body count, no threesomes in the past, no tats, etc don't necessarily say anything about character or substance. Also good luck finding a chick with a good career and earning potential who's also "traditional." (Depending how you define that).A few days ago someone made a thread about a list of qualities that makes someone wife material
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
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You don't need to compromise. You just need to begin looking in different places.
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
You can pretty much scratch the highkighted ones because no females exist with those qualities..A few days ago someone made a thread about a list of qualities that makes someone wife material
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
-no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
-supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
-kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
-no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
-supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
-kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
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Originally Posted By crupiea⏩
Pretty much…thought I had one, but nope.You can pretty much scratch the highkighted ones because no females exist with those qualities..
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Originally Posted By crupiea⏩
Sorry but that's not true. Maybe you've have some bad luck but there are good women out there.You can pretty much scratch the highkighted ones because no females exist with those qualities..
OP, I wouldn't cross anything off your list.
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09-06-2022, 08:39 PM
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Originally Posted By kimm4⏩
Agreed. And OP a lot of the things you mention are interrelated - depending on your own morals and values.Sorry but that's not true. Maybe you've have some bad luck but there are good women out there.
OP, I wouldn't cross anything off your list.
OP, I wouldn't cross anything off your list.
The long and short of it is I never ever support 'settling'. The day you 'settle' is the day you set your future divorce date. You cope by thinking some things on that list aren't possible, so you settle. You then meet a woman years later who...actually makes you laugh. Who actually seems supportive, huh? Etc.
Do NOT 'settle'.
09-06-2022, 08:41 PM
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Originally Posted By LogicalLifts⏩
oof,Agreed. And OP a lot of the things you mention are interrelated - depending on your own morals and values.
The long and short of it is I never ever support 'settling'.The day you 'settle' is the day you set your future divorce date.You cope by thinking some things on that list aren't possible, so you settle. You then meet a woman years later who...actually makes you laugh. Who actually seems supportive, huh? Etc.
Do NOT 'settle'.
The long and short of it is I never ever support 'settling'.The day you 'settle' is the day you set your future divorce date.You cope by thinking some things on that list aren't possible, so you settle. You then meet a woman years later who...actually makes you laugh. Who actually seems supportive, huh? Etc.
Do NOT 'settle'.
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
I think you can compromise on both of these. It shouldn't be up to the woman to support herself - that's what a husband is for. Being fun is nice, but a woman who has all the other moral qualities you want will be a joy to be around whether she is "fun" or not.- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- fun to be around
- fun to be around
I know plenty of men with wives that have all of those qualities (minus career). I've been married for 15 years to such a woman. You're probably not going to find her on Tinder or at the bar. All the great married couples of whom I am aware consist of a wife and husband who are both completely devoted to the Lord. When you have a man who is devoted to Christ and a woman who is devoted to Christ, they have little problem being devoted to each other.
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lol how do you ever expect to know if she had a threesome on a drunken college night in the past? you think people are just gonna be an open book like that? you gonna ask on the 2nd date "hey you seem cool and all but have you ever had a threesome?"
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09-06-2022, 09:06 PM
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just go high body count and past threesomes
atleast she will have good sex skills
atleast she will have good sex skills
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If she's even half of those things she wouldn't be single past 20, trust me
The acceptable body count is 0
Would you use a pre-used condom; of course you wouldn't
The acceptable body count is 0
Would you use a pre-used condom; of course you wouldn't
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
Probably need to compromise on tats. As long as it’s not an infestation of them dealing with one or two you may need to be open to.A few days ago someone made a thread about a list of qualities that makes someone wife material
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
I don’t like them either but would let it slide if other things were met.
Also probably need to compromise on career. Most attractive girls don’t have strong careers. Accept the fact she likely had men paying her way in the past for a lot of it.
I’d even say compromise on family oriented if need be. That’s not always in her control if her family isn’t worth it.
Also don’t know what you mean by traditional. Don’t need to full blown compromise to some lefty extremist but at the very least you need to accept women will lean more liberal on certain issues. It’s a sliding scale type of thing. Doubtful you’ll find anyone whose ok locked away in the kitchen without any say in the relationship. You already said you want her to have a career though, so that right there doesn’t align properly in your own criteria.
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Originally Posted By blissful88⏩
Depends. Who used it before me? No homoIf she's even half of those things she wouldn't be single past 20, trust me
The acceptable body count is 0
Would you use a pre-used condom; of course you wouldn't
The acceptable body count is 0
Would you use a pre-used condom; of course you wouldn't
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It's possible, albeit difficult, to find women like this between the ages of 22-25. If you're not appealing to that age demographic, I've got some bad news...
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
Most of these are possible. If I was going to remove any it would be tattoos (like maybe a big tramp stamp is a deal breaker but a couple of small ones who cares). No past promiscuity basically means low body count, and you have to ask yourself how low. I'm also of the belief that if a woman hasn't explored sexually a bit she's going to be a terrible sexual partner, but that's just from my experience.A few days ago someone made a thread about a list of qualities that makes someone wife material
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
We all age and we won't retain our looks forever. Looks wise, I don't think I'm in my prime anymore.
I posted in that thread and this was my list:
- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentive, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
Which of these should I compromise on and at point do you think you should settle?
Your outlook means you should probably be looking into religious communities or other very sheltered places where the families support these types of ideals. Try Christian Mingle or something like that.
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Its 2022, just lol at holding out for a virgin. You're lucky if you get anyone with just a 2 digit count
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Originally Posted By blissful88⏩
Massive incel vibes. Or an Islamist.If she's even half of those things she wouldn't be single past 20, trust me
The acceptable body count is 0
Would you use a pre-used condom; of course you wouldn't
The acceptable body count is 0
Would you use a pre-used condom; of course you wouldn't
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Uh I don’t know **** like this makes me head hurt
Are you a female converting to being a boyo?
We don’t really do the whole long list of perfect qualities for perfect mate thing
We kind of just see a girl and give it a thumbs up or thumbs down, then kind of keep doing that as she does things you notice besides her tits and ass.
I dunno lotta female vibes in here.
Are you a female converting to being a boyo?
We don’t really do the whole long list of perfect qualities for perfect mate thing
We kind of just see a girl and give it a thumbs up or thumbs down, then kind of keep doing that as she does things you notice besides her tits and ass.
I dunno lotta female vibes in here.
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Originally Posted By Duckliver⏩
ThisUh I don’t know **** like this makes me head hurt
Are you a female converting to being a boyo?
We don’t really do the whole long list of perfect qualities for perfect mate thing
We kind of just see a girl and give it a thumbs up or thumbs down, then kind of keep doing that as she does things you notice besides her tits and ass.
I dunno lotta female vibes in here.
Are you a female converting to being a boyo?
We don’t really do the whole long list of perfect qualities for perfect mate thing
We kind of just see a girl and give it a thumbs up or thumbs down, then kind of keep doing that as she does things you notice besides her tits and ass.
I dunno lotta female vibes in here.
Also, career to support herself and family oriented can oppose one another, especially if you want a traditional woman.
If you want a traditional woman, that goes along with being a traditional man, which means having a career that can sustain a family while your wife stays home supporting you and the kids there. If both of you have demanding careers and equally contribute to income, where is she supposed to find the time to do traditional wife/ mother things?
Sure there's babysitting and nannies, but that's not traditional, that's modern.
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i think you can compromise on the no tats, as long as it isn't chit that is over the top. what do you mean by "traditional"? I think you can have some leeway on that as well. alot of people are going to have emotional baggage regardless and you wont know that until you are deeper into a relationship.
I think the bigger question would be is if she is taking steps to resolve that, whether she acknowledges it, has made peace with it somewhat. As long as it isn't something that completely inhibits the ability to have a healthy relationship.
the rest I think are perfectly reasonable and you don't have to compromise on. i think you can have a career and be family oriented. as long as she isn't one of those "I'm an independent woman, I don't need no man, climbing the top of the executive ladder" type of women.
I think the bigger question would be is if she is taking steps to resolve that, whether she acknowledges it, has made peace with it somewhat. As long as it isn't something that completely inhibits the ability to have a healthy relationship.
the rest I think are perfectly reasonable and you don't have to compromise on. i think you can have a career and be family oriented. as long as she isn't one of those "I'm an independent woman, I don't need no man, climbing the top of the executive ladder" type of women.
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- low body count
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentative, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
My wife is all of that except she's argumentative and she's kinda boring to be around.
- no past promiscuity like threesomes
- no personality disorders like BPD
- no tats
- none smoker and no drugs
- loyal
- traditional
- supportive and teamwork mentality
- family oriented
- similar morals and values as me
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
- kind, patient, understanding, not argumentative, not entitled, and no emotional baggage
- fun to be around
My wife is all of that except she's argumentative and she's kinda boring to be around.
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- traditional
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
Pick one. These two are literally in opposition of each other for fukks sake...
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
Pick one. These two are literally in opposition of each other for fukks sake...
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Originally Posted By 78novacaine⏩
Yeah man your list is kinda contradictory. You want a professional who can support herself with a great career but is also traditional and family oriented?- traditional
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
Pick one. These two are literally in opposition of each other for fukks sake...
- has a career/makes enough to support herself
Pick one. These two are literally in opposition of each other for fukks sake...
That doesn’t make any fuking sense. You want that you need to be a high value man who makes enough to support a family on his income alone.
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I think you'll have to go find a chick at church to get most of those boxes ticked OP
I think you'll have to go find a chick at church to get most of those boxes ticked OP
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