I dated this woman for a while, I knew she had mild anxiety and/or depression. As things progressed, she expressed a strong desire to become a mom. She confided in me months later that she had become pregnant, and her ex, a doctor moved away to another state and told her at the last minute that she was not coming with. She was heartbroken and says when she went in for a checkup, there was some potential but not proven anomoly with the baby. She didn't think she could handle a sick baby alone and took a pill for an abortion. Apparently the baby came out in the shower and looked like a tiny baby.

We only dated for maybe 7 months, and have been broken up for a little more than a year. After we broke up, we hooked up a couple times last summer, but not since a year ago. This woman has continued to contact me since. In a deep depression last fall, and she said it was because her ex contacted her when he was back in town for his mom's funeral. I told her her mental state didn't make sense from simple verbal contact, but she swore nothing happened between them. I consoled her but nothing else.

She contacted me in the winter and asked me to meet her for a drink as she was having a hard time. She lives 15 min from me so I went. She was depressed and agitated simultaneously. I talked to her but kept my distance. After 45 min, I told her it was nice to see her and got up, she asked if she could drive me to my car, I was parked 1/2 mile away and I said no thanks and walked away with her confused. She contacted me again in April and I told her there was nothing to talk about. Again in June she was in a deep depression saying concerning things, I went to her condo to check on her, and she was way out of it, she is a 200k+ medical professional and doesn't do drugs. I was uncomfortable but she wasn't going to hurt herself, so I left.

I was home alone last Sat night and she texted me on the way home from drinks with a friend saying she was coming over, I was on my way home from the beach, and she was parked in front when I got homr. She threw herself at me but nothing happened. Yesterday, I texted her and explained that her behavior isn't appropriate, and I felt bad for her mental issues but I can't be involved in this and her contacting me disrupted my life. She had a lot to say about how she felt blah blah blah, and I recounted all the strange happenings over the past year. She finally told me that she had slept with her ex when he was in town and it put her in a downward spiral and all she wanted was for things to go back to how they were when we dated.

I told her that I thought she was disgusting and she needed professional help. She said she would get it. I told her to also lose my number, and I have no responsibilities towards her and have moved on with my life, and there would never be a place for her in it. I really felt pitty for her for how she described her abortion, but she is depressed she will likely never be a mother, and killed her unborn baby for some guy and thought it was appropriate to **** him 2 years later and call me to cry about it, and lied to me about it. I'm no pro life activist, but that **** is ****ed up and I told her that. She went off the rails and I blocked her.

Tldr, I am concerned she may do something to herself, but have no intention of speaking with her again.

What do misc?

Didn't read, but run away, this chit never ends well.

It's not your problem to have to rehabilitate somebody.

probably for a few days, then id forget about it and move on like most of life's events

Super fukked up situation, but it's not on you if she ropes. You're not medically obligated to give her anti-depressant penor.

Don't stick your dick in crazy

It's a weird emotional manipulation tactic she's doing. A Ploy for sympathy

If it wasn't you, it'd be someone else

Don't accept the blame of her antics

Nothing shocking

Listen bud

This is too much for morning coffee

May God help you both

As cold as it sounds, this is not your problem, and you are doing the right thing by staying the fuk away from her. It sounds like she’s using you as a crutch to deal with her issues with some other guy anyway. NC is the only right option.

Really only feel bad if my last ex did it as her upbringing kind of brainwashed her into thinking "career woman=good" which is the reason why we separated.

They are all crazy, it's a matter of how bad. I never ****ed her after she went off the deep end last fall. She was fun and a little wild while we dated. Her family came to town in May a year ago and she got weird and we broke up by mid June.

When dating, put yourself first always.

When married, put your wife and self first. You're "combined" now after all.

When you have kids, put your kids first, after that follow the above.

If you do that, you'll realize her negative effect/impact on you, and also realize how void of responsibility you are.

Thanks for all the comments guys. Reps on recharge.

In the end its her choice, you can't put it on you. I had an ex threaten similar **** and it's been 5 or so years now and still no obituary.

I wouldn’t feel bad at all if she did after NC number one but I probably would if I kept taking her bait time after time like you did op and she finally ended up doing it.

Get a restraining order if she shows up again, never look back.

NOTHING good can come out of any of this.

I agree with all the guys above that no contact is the right choice. If I were you I'd still feel bad if she killed herself, not because I think you've done anything wrong, it's just sad to see someone suffer. Whether it's self-inflicted or bad luck, etc., it's still going to affect me to a degree.

Alright I think that's enough misc for today

i hooked up with a high school crush when we were in our late 20's.

one time thing. when she first showed up at my door, I had a panic attack. I couldn't speak. So we went straight into sex. no problems having sex. however, I had just got out of a relationship so I felt disgusted right after I nutted. it was weird.

I kicked her out immediately after the hook-up. she texted me that she was shaking in the parking lot. I didn't respond and went NC.


she killed herself 2 weeks later. not sure if i had something to do with it. but i felt bad for it regardless.

No.

Her family lives here in the summer and goes to Florida in the winter. She moved here from another state a few years ago and has a limited support system in the winter. I thought I wad doing the right thing by checking in. Honestly, nothing has happened between us physically in over a year, and if she was honest last fall, I would have gone nc 10 months ago.

Online dating. You don't know who you met until way down the road sometimes.

She is pretty, fit, does yoga and jogs, drives an accura rdx, has a nice condo, has a great job at a local hospital and outward appearance aside apparently is completely batchit crazy.

I think it's time to delete my apps for a while.

People will do what they want regardless of anything you say or do

she is probably on her way to buy rope right now you heartless meanie.

No hate, but OBVIOUSLY that event had something to do with it.

Most people do not want to get used for sex and then kicked to the curb. The way you made it sound in the story was pretty brutal.

Yeah id feel extremely bad srs. Thats why i suck at breakups, i tend to put the other person's feelings above mine, as stupid as that sounds. Thats why nowadays i fully disclose my intentions with every girl i meet, aka tell her i dont want a relationship and i just want to bust a nut. They are ok with that for a while until they develop feelings and we have the "we gotta part ways" talk, no big damage done because i was clear since day 1 and they see it coming.


Your situation would have me extremely stressed. She seems like a nutcase, and i wonder what kind of life she has gone trough in order to end up like that. Its always something to do with the parents seems like.

At the end of the day, stay on NC. Showing up unnaounced at your place is a big no/no. Cheating, lying, abortion, etc, she seems like a mess. The type of woman that can easily ruin your life.

TL;DR

Years ago I'd have felt terrible about something like that. But a grown ass woman suiciding would be from a hell of a lot more than going NC on her. It could be the cherry on top, but gdamn man there's a giant sundae underneath there.

My sister had a few men threaten to kill themselves over it. One was severe and they baker acted him for a month lol. She was the heartbreaker of all of my siblings. I told her to be flattered by it. But she was shook by it. Man this topic brings back memories of her past stalkers.

None of my exes did it or threatened to. If anything some of them wanted to kill me because I hit it and quit it! Lol had to be the gorgeous sumo man bun and my big dink.

I’d feel bad if I ruined anyone so bad they’d kill themselves though yeah.

I would feel bad the way I feel bad whenever someone close dies, but I wouldn't feel guilty.

1-player game, my guy

never martyr your happiness for some dumb, broken bitch