Complete waste of time trying to figure out why a woman is NOT attracted to you?

12-24-2022, 02:05 PM

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Complete waste of time trying to figure out why a woman is NOT attracted to you?

I estimate I'm an objective 6.5/10 for white American male standards.

I'm 5'11 (barefoot), athletic build, good facial bone structure, straight white teeth, strong jawline...thick brown hair on my head, even though I have a widow's peak identical to Chris Pratt. Greenish blue-eyed master race.

I am struggling to date even moderately attractive women...women who'd I would have suspected to be either my equal or give or take .5pts on the 10 scale.

Well I just got dumped after 2 months with the girl admitting she was never really attracted to me but she hoped she would become attracted to me.

Here's the thing....I know sometimes attraction isn't something you can always make logical sense of.

I either see women dating Chads or legitimately unaesthetic dudes.

Wtf gives?

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12-24-2022, 02:06 PM

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I'm a 7.5 and only likes asian girls (who have notoriously low standards). Im still struggling. Hypergamy is just out of control these days.

12-24-2022, 02:09 PM

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Maybe it’s your personality

12-24-2022, 02:11 PM

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The guage to measure your appeal is the number of women attracted to you divided by time.

Measuring your appeal based of the reaction of one woman at a moment in time is too small of a sample size to be meaningful.

If you don't regularly get a second look then you're probably ugly and are gonna need to wear nicer clothes and have a fresh haircut to distract women from your ugly face.

12-24-2022, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted By Kabamaro⏩

Maybe it’s your personality

Fair question.

If by my personality you mean that I'm too respectful, outgoing, have a healthy sense of humor, non-autistic tact in intimate or group settings, then Idk maybe I'd have better luck being a downright douchebag.

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12-24-2022, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted By 401Delta⏩

The guage to measure your appeal is the number of women attracted to you divided by time.

Measuring your appeal based of the reaction of one woman at a moment in time is too small of a sample size to be meaningful.

If you don't regularly get a second look then you're probably ugly and are gonna need to wear nicer clothes and have a fresh haircut to distract women from your ugly face.

Yep

This is the formula I used to calculate my ugliness.

"One day I won't be able to lift any more. Not I won't want to lift. I mean physically unable. That day could be decades from now or it could be tomorrow. All I know is that's the day I'll wish I could lift more than ever. The day I'd give anything for one more workout, one more set, or one more cardio session. So go hard and enjoy every workout, every set, every rep. Because one day you will wake up and you will never get it back."
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12-24-2022, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted By 401Delta⏩

The guage to measure your appeal is the number of women attracted to you divided by time.

Measuring your appeal based of the reaction of one woman at a moment in time is too small of a sample size to be meaningful.

If you don't regularly get a second look then you're probably ugly and are gonna need to wear nicer clothes and have a fresh haircut to distract women from your ugly face.

When I put effort into meeting women, I typically have sex with an attractive (6-8/10) at least every few months.
That doesn't translate to meaningful happiness for me though.

I do get second looks from women, but they're never HBB status.

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12-24-2022, 02:16 PM

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Women’s attraction is fluid, no sense in getting yourself worked up over one girl.

also applies to men re attraction to women too.

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12-24-2022, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted By SSM12⏩

Women’s attraction is fluid, no sense in getting yourself worked up over one girl.

also applies to men re attraction to women too.

Exactly. Our sexualities are fluid too. One minute I'm a man loving a tight young blonde and the next I identify as a gay female tranny minority who is asexual.

"One day I won't be able to lift any more. Not I won't want to lift. I mean physically unable. That day could be decades from now or it could be tomorrow. All I know is that's the day I'll wish I could lift more than ever. The day I'd give anything for one more workout, one more set, or one more cardio session. So go hard and enjoy every workout, every set, every rep. Because one day you will wake up and you will never get it back."
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12-24-2022, 02:21 PM

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women make no sense. this guy is porking evelyn while I'm jerking off on Christmas alone.

12-24-2022, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted By SoutheastBeast1⏩

Exactly. Our sexualities are fluid too. One minute I'm a man loving a tight young blonde and the next I identify as a gay female tranny minority who is asexual.

I don’t believe sexuality is fluid at all, but I’d find it hard to argue attraction isn’t.

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12-24-2022, 02:23 PM

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Doesn't feel like a fair trade these days is all.

I look at what I bring to the table and what's offered in return is not a nearly a practical exchange.

UNLESS I just want the occasional ONS.

I'm 34 though, I am trying to start a family before it's truly too late.

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12-24-2022, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted By flexualneeds⏩

Doesn't feel like a fair trade these days is all.

I look at what I bring to the table and what's offered in return is not a nearly a practical exchange.

UNLESS I just want the occasional ONS.

I'm 34 though, I am trying to start a family before it's truly too late.

never is. take the TATEPILL

12-24-2022, 02:35 PM

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You don’t have a good enough job most likely (very srs). Ever since I became an anesthetist and make $300k a year now I can have my pick of women basically (srs). Also growing a beard helped a lot and lifting weights helped a lot too but the biggest one was my job. I get 10x more matches now that I save people’s lives for a living and make bank than when I was just a bachelors in neuroscience applying to schools. Women want someone who can provide for them and protect them. Men want someone they can put a baby in and **** all the time.

Looks, money, status. A great job is 2/3 of those (money and status). Personality matters too so be comfortable with yourself too.

12-24-2022, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted By Kabamaro⏩

Maybe it’s your personality

This was my first thought. Brah is looking at himself like a checklist. Just be chill, carefree, and funny. A 6.5 will become a 9 to a sloot pretty quick if he can make her laugh.

That said, if a sloot isn't into you, who cares? Just forget about her and focus on others

12-24-2022, 02:49 PM

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if a sloot doesn't **** you the 1st or 2nd day you guys hangout she's not attracted at least with western sloots

12-24-2022, 02:51 PM

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[QUOTE=AD117 post_id=1673465493]This was my first thought. Brah is looking at himself like a checklist. Just be chill, carefree, and funny. A 6.5 will become a 9 to a sloot pretty quick if he can make her laugh.

[b]That said, if a sloot isn't into you, who cares? Just forget about her and focus on others[//b][/QUOTE]Appreciated.

As for the checklist thing, my reaction is to go back to the drawing board and do some self reflection.

Isn't this precisely what one should do after rejection? Afterall, we constantly bemoan women who never take time to truly look in the mirror at WHO they are.

[QUOTE=ralphlaurenbrah post_id=1673465003]You don’t have a good enough job most likely (very srs). Ever since I became an anesthetist and make $300k a year now I can have my pick of women basically (srs). Also growing a beard helped a lot and lifting weights helped a lot too but the biggest one was my job. I get 10x more matches now that I save people’s lives for a living and make bank than when I was just a bachelors in neuroscience applying to schools. Women want someone who can provide for them and protect them. Men want someone they can put a baby in and **** all the time.

Looks, money, status. A great job is 2/3 of those (money and status). Personality matters too so be comfortable with yourself too.[/QUOTE]I'm a director at a prestigious institution so that's def not it.

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12-24-2022, 02:53 PM

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Probably. Always good to identify your shortcomings, but asking a sloot why is probably going to just leave you frustrated - they’ll either make no sense with the truth or they’ll lie. If you can figure it out yourself, great, but don’t waste too much emotion on it. Focus on you, your relationships, your career, your goals, etc.

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12-24-2022, 02:56 PM

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My ex girlfriend was more attracted to me when I was easily 30 lbs overweight with a huge gut. I got into insane shape (taught strength training classes and ran marathons). She hardly wanted to touch me at my peak (dead srs). So yes, it is not worth losing any sleep over a girl not finding you attractive.

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12-24-2022, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted By Pats2022SBwin⏩

My ex girlfriend was more attracted to me when I was easily 30 lbs overweight with a huge gut. I got into insane shape (taught strength training classes and ran marathons). She hardly wanted to touch me at my peak (dead srs). So yes, it is not worth losing any sleep over a girl not finding you attractive.

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12-24-2022, 02:58 PM

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never occurred to me that a gal wood not be attracted to me tbh

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12-24-2022, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted By Ratfish⏩

never occurred to me that a gal wood not be attracted to me tbh

this tbh

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12-24-2022, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted By PowerPal⏩

this tbh

must be a Perth Thing™

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12-24-2022, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted By Ratfish⏩

never occurred to me that a gal wood not be attracted to me tbh

this srs.

12-24-2022, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted By flexualneeds⏩

When I put effort into meeting women, I typically have sex with an attractive (6-8/10) at least every few months.
That doesn't translate to meaningful happiness for me though.

I do get second looks from women, but they're never HBB status.

I'm pretty much the same except I get 2nd looks from HBBs (hooter, bartenders, twin peaks girl caliber). Still struggle with 6s+ when it comes to getting laid consistently.

Don't even think about why a woman isn't attracted to you these days. Dating is a joke and should be a side mission. Too many variables and they'll never tell you the truth.
Coulda been anything from an ex to a new Tinder match tingling her vag. Complete waste of time. When it comes to us they seem to go to whichever cock the wind blows them to.

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12-24-2022, 03:28 PM

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It's based on weird chit like pheromones and stuff too. You can't just assume because you meet the checklist that a girl will like you. Sure, being rich, tall, strong, famous, and having a handsome face help. But at the end of the day, there's still a lot of variation.

12-24-2022, 03:34 PM

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Don't waste your time thinking about it and move on bro. It's impssible to get into peoples head and understanding their thought processes every person is a different universe also in general people don't even know why they do or feel certain things themselves.

Some people will be atreacted to you for some reasons some will not.

That's life son.

Instead of thinking too much about it read marcus aurelius meditations srs. Stoicism is the best school of thought for these scenarios.

12-24-2022, 03:34 PM

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People will say it's look, money, or status, but in truth unless you're a model, actor, or legit have millions of disposable dollars, this isn't enough to play 'that game'.

In the case of an average person, it just didn't work out for whatever reason - don't dwell on it, instead use it as an opportunity for growth.

Let me know if you like this advice and I'll give you more.

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12-24-2022, 03:37 PM

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Its like anything else. If you arent succeeding at it, adjust what you are doing.

certainly seems like you arent repulsive looking so thats taken care of. So it must be your approach.

Of course who you are approaching has something to do with it too.

Makes some minor changes and see what happens. Just like how comedians work on jokes. They try them out of smaller audiences first and if they dont work, they adjust it until it gets the reaction they want. Not every joke works so they get rid of the ones that dont work and keep the good ones.

They dont completely change their approach and style, they just tweak the jokes for maximum effect.

Do the same thing, not saying tell jokes all the time but try something small and see if it works. If not, adjust or dump it and try something else.

Whatever you do, dont tell them they are pretty or compliment them nor buy them drinks or take them to fancy places. They get that from every guy and it has the opposite effect on them, it repulses them.

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