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post 1693325993 11-13-2023, 06:31 PM
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Social skills are mostly genetics, right?

Social skills are one of the most underrated aspects of job performance and life satisfaction.

There are a ton a books out there about how to be more social or make friends but none of them really work, right?

I'm saying that because everyone I've known who was well liked and popular just "knew" what to do. They didn't read books they just knew.

Also, have you ever seen someone become socially skilled later in life? Seems like late teens is the cutoff for breaking out of your shell or not. I've never met anyone who was socially awkward in college who later went on to become the life of the party. If those skills could be learned people would do it.
post 1693326433 11-13-2023, 06:38 PM
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Your problem op is simply that you have a small dick. srs.
post 1693326493 11-13-2023, 06:39 PM
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Originally Posted By suave2000⏩
Your problem op is simply that you have a small dick. srs.
That's simply can't be true, those Tinder girls would never lie...right?
post 1693327413 11-13-2023, 07:03 PM
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It's like any other skill. Some of it's talent and some of it's practice.
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post 1693327783 11-13-2023, 07:15 PM
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Yes, they even did long term studies on babies, documenting their crying patterns. Babies who cried a lot and demanded lots of attention ended up being outgoing, social people.

Babies who were quiet, slept a lot, and didn't cry much were most often meek and introverted.
post 1693328393 11-13-2023, 07:29 PM
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I think it’s a mix. Genetics’ definitely play into it but I believe it can be vastly improved. Even kids who naturally “got it” usually has earlier experiences with it, bigger families, sports early in age, sociable parents, etc

I was pretty introverted & socially awkward but did tons of work on it in my late teens. Books, videos, sometimes even courses/seminars srs. Also surrounded myself with social people & pushed my comfort zone a LOT. Have ultimately become socially savvy, very comfortable with pretty much anyone, great in sales roles etc.

Most of my immediate family aren’t too great at social situations. Brother / sister / parents all pretty reserved and slightly awkward.
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Plenty of social aspects are the environment you're in and expectations, influence from friends and others you're surrounded by. People are adaptable. A shy person can become the exact opposite when they're repeatedly in an environment where they can't be. A lot is what path people follow, whether they stay in a comfort zone or not. Of course social skills are well beyond introvert/extrovert and a lot beyond that is learned through experience.
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post 1693328533 11-13-2023, 07:32 PM
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genetics have a role to play in everything, but for those kinds of skills you have to go through experiences that bring them out and hone them.

No matter what type of genetics you have if you sit in a room for the first 18 years of your live alone everyday you aren't going to have good social skills.

It's probably gonna be tough to build them in your 20's if you didn't have the proper socializing and experience as a kid/teen
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Originally Posted By JackyChin⏩
That's simply can't be true, those Tinder girls would never lie...right?
I'm just messing with you buddy
post 1693328803 11-13-2023, 07:40 PM
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they can be learned by almost anyone, even miscers
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Social skills are the same as any other skills; the sum of natural talent and practiced development.
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post 1693329403 11-13-2023, 07:57 PM
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OP the real world is not that hard to figure out if you lose your preconceived assumptions about a person when you first meet them.

Some people are shy some are out going some are always smiling some never smile and makes them always look angry or sad when in reality that's just their persona.

I have been asked more times than I can count if I'm angry or sad because I seldom smile. I never have. Maybe it has to do with a life long battle with depression but the truth is. I'm very rarely sad in public and I'm never angry but that's the impression people get.

Once you actually take the time to get to know someone 9 times out of 10 you will discover what you thought going in is not the reality if the situation.
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post 1693330103 11-13-2023, 08:10 PM
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