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post 1694881273 12-14-2023, 08:35 PM
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I wish things worked out between me and my daughters mother ...

But she just wasn't willing to put the effort in.

It's been a decade.

And the thought is still there.
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post 1694881323 12-14-2023, 08:36 PM
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Sometimes it doesn’t work out my ******

That’s life
post 1694881343 12-14-2023, 08:37 PM
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Originally Posted By GooBaaa⏩
Sometimes it doesn’t work out my ******

That’s life
I know.


Still kind of wish we could have been a family tho : /
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post 1694881373 12-14-2023, 08:38 PM
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It's okay brah

You have your daughter now
post 1694881413 12-14-2023, 08:38 PM
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Originally Posted By GarfieldTheCat⏩
You said it yourself, she wasn't willing to put in the effort. It sucks, but there's no sense in beating yourself up over a decision someone made on behalf of you a decade ago now (I assume your ex iniated the divorce based on your description).
Never married.

Were together for eight years.
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post 1694881433 12-14-2023, 08:38 PM
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post 1694881453 12-14-2023, 08:39 PM
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Ordinarily, I'd talk chit to you, OP, but the feels are real. You can only control yourself tho. Don't blame yourself.I mean blame yourself for your chitty politics, but don't blame yourself for this. Just do the best you can. No ragrets. Life throws you dicks sometimes, but it's how you take them that determines what a homo you are.

I'm sure things worked out with Tyrone and your daughter's mother too tho gnomesaiyan? ayyyyyy
post 1694881633 12-14-2023, 08:43 PM
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It was just your turn OP, it was just your turn
post 1694881893 12-14-2023, 08:49 PM
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Originally Posted By israelmustgo⏩
Ordinarily, I'd talk chit to you, OP, but the feels are real. You can only control yourself tho. Don't blame yourself.I mean blame yourself for your chitty politics, but don't blame yourself for this. Just do the best you can. No ragrets. Life throws you dicks sometimes, but it's how you take them that determines what a homo you are.

I'm sure things worked out with Tyrone and your daughter's mother too tho gnomesaiyan? ayyyyyy
You bang your WoW internet gf yet?
Originally Posted By infinityplus1⏩
It was just your turn OP, it was just your turn
Facts.
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post 1694881933 12-14-2023, 08:49 PM
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No ragrets
post 1694881993 12-14-2023, 08:51 PM
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She prob just didn't want to be with a pussy liberal "man" lmao
post 1694882053 12-14-2023, 08:53 PM
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Originally Posted By Yxyx⏩
She prob just didn't want to be with a pussy liberal "man" lmao
She liked it.
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post 1694882073 12-14-2023, 08:54 PM
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Once you move on, she will want you back.
Be happy while you're living, for you're a long time dead.

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post 1694882183 12-14-2023, 08:56 PM
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Originally Posted By GarfieldTheCat⏩
What does still letting it rustle you 10 years after the fact doing for your life?
A part of my soul died when that chapter of my life ended.
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post 1694882283 12-14-2023, 08:58 PM
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The reality is, if it didn't work out, it was 100% your fault. Either you fuked up by not leading and maintaining the relationship like you should have as the man, or you fuked up by choosing the wrong person to have a relationship and kids with.

Learn from your past mistakes so you won't repeat them in the future.
When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.
post 1694882323 12-14-2023, 08:59 PM
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Originally Posted By OPGenesis⏩
But she just wasn't willing to put the effort in.

It's been a decade.

And the thought is still there.
I know the feeling bro.

Went through a similar scenario.

All.you can do is let go and focus on your child.
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post 1694882353 12-14-2023, 09:00 PM
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
The reality is, if it didn't work out, it was 100% your fault. Either you fuked up by not leading and maintaining the relationship like you should have as the man, or you fuked up by choosing the wrong person to have a relationship and kids with.

Learn from your past mistakes so you won't repeat them in the future.
Sure, buckethead lol
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post 1694882413 12-14-2023, 09:04 PM
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Originally Posted By OPGenesis⏩
Sure, buckethead lol
I do not know what a buckethead is.
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post 1694882443 12-14-2023, 09:05 PM
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
I do not know what a buckethead is.
Based on your completely stupid comment I'd guess a bucket head is you.
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post 1694882463 12-14-2023, 09:06 PM
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It sucks when things don’t work out with the other parent.

The worst is when the other parent badmouths you to the child and tries to turn the child against you. I’ve been fighting that one for years and it finally got better 2 years ago.

It’s awful then when you never find anyone better than your ex.
post 1694882533 12-14-2023, 09:08 PM
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I bet your wallet wishes it worked out too. How much is that CS per month bruh?
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post 1694882563 12-14-2023, 09:08 PM
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Originally Posted By DustinTheHuss⏩
It sucks when things don’t work out with the other parent.

The worst is when the other parent badmouths you to the child and tries to turn the child against you. I’ve been fighting that one for years and it finally got better 2 years ago.

It’s awful then when you never find anyone better than your ex.
A lot of that happened.

Sucks.
Originally Posted By Weezy32⏩
I bet your wallet wishes it worked out too. How much is that CS per month bruh?
Lmao.

She never took me for no damn child support, boi.

We had other agreements in place.
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post 1694882573 12-14-2023, 09:09 PM
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Originally Posted By DustinTheHuss⏩
It sucks when things don’t work out with the other parent.

The worst is when the other parent badmouths you to the child and tries to turn the child against you. I’ve been fighting that one for years and it finally got better 2 years ago.

It’s awful then when you never find anyone better than your ex.
Any parent who poisons or potentially damages their child's brain and development by dumping negative b.s about the other on them is not a good move.

I don't get it either. Imagine hating your ex more than you love your child. I can't grasp that type of thinking.
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post 1694882593 12-14-2023, 09:09 PM
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
Based on your completely stupid comment I'd guess a bucket head is you.
I like you well enough. But you need some someone to tell you a few inconvenient truths as well. You're in the position in life that you're in 100% because of your own fuk ups. You have no one to blame but yourself. Remember that. It's tough to have to start over at 40 when a bit of self restraint would have saved you a whole bunch of heart ache 10-15 years ago.
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
Any parent who poisons or potentially damages their child's brain and development by dumping negative b.s about the other on them is not a good move.

I don't get it either. Imagine hating your ex more than you love your child. I can't grasp that type of thinking.
It’s called parental alienation in the courts and judges tell divorced parents that they cannot badmouth the other parent, but who is there to enforce it?

I never badmouthed my ex to her but it was tempting….
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
I like you well enough. But you need some someone to tell you a few inconvenient truths as well. You're in the position in life that you're in 100% because of your own fuk ups. You have no one to blame but yourself. Remember that. It's tough to have to start over at 40 when a bit of self restraint would have saved you a whole bunch of heart ache 10-15 years ago.
I have no issues with you either bro but the thing is how can you say that without knowing the facts about his relationship? Maybe it was his fault but then again maybe it was hers or perhaps it was a little of both their fault or there is even the possibility that outside influences caused it.

I'm just saying for you to say that without knowing is a bit unfair.
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
I have no issues with you either bro but the thing is how can you say that without knowing the facts about his relationship? Maybe it was his fault but then again maybe it was hers or perhaps it was a little of both their fault or there is even the possibility that outside influences caused it.

I'm just saying for you to say that without knowing is a bit unfair.
It's really simple. The man chooses the woman, not the other way around. The man runs the household, not the other way around. You see where this is going?
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post 1694882893 12-14-2023, 09:18 PM
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Originally Posted By latverian41⏩
I have no issues with you either bro but the thing is how can you say that without knowing the facts about his relationship? Maybe it was his fault but then again maybe it was hers or perhaps it was a little of both their fault or there is even the possibility that outside influences caused it.

I'm just saying for you to say that without knowing is a bit unfair.
Relationships are a two way street. You can’t ever fully control another human being.

You just have to have faith things work out for the best.

The only thing you have some control over in this life is yourself.

Maybe.

I personally don’t believe in any freewill anymore.
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post 1694883053 12-14-2023, 09:23 PM
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
It's really simple. The man chooses the woman, not the other way around. The man runs the household, not the other way around. You see where this is going?
That doesn’t happen in the feminist world we live in. I certainly don’t know any men IRL who “run the household” other than Middle Eastern and Indian men. Then once the feminists tell the woman she’s oppressed on the playground she gets divorce ideas.
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I am moved.

Sorry for your misfortunes.



I have an excellent life, all things considered. Whenever I find myself wishing things had worked out differently, or that I had done something differently, I remember that changing anything would change everything. There are aspects to my life right now that, if my past was different, I would never have, or even know to pursue. I wouldn't trade them to right any "wrong" or correct any "misfortune". Then I realize that there are so many mundane things in my life, like the french press I use, or my electric tooth brush, or the way the sun hits my apartment balcony before work in the morning. I have a fondness for all of those things too. And then I remember that of these things that I am fond of, I don't really know what I'd be getting in return. I don't actually know what my life would be like if things went differently. In feelings of regret or wishing we could change the past, we just assume that if that one thing worked, everything else magically would as well and everything would be perfect. That's probably what you're doing too. The truth is, you don't know if remaining with your ex for one more year would have resulted in all of you getting hit by a bus and killed. You don't know ****. All you know is that there are little things in your life that make your eyes smile and by regretting something, you are mentally giving up something real for something completely unknown. You don't know what your life would be like if things worked out. You don't know what other misfortune could have hit you later down that chain of events. All you can do is work on creating things in your life right now to act as these wards against these emotions. Create things right now that you would not trade for this illusory bargain and regret disappears.
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