Need some miscers opinions. Apologies if it’s long

About a year and a half ago I met and started sleeping with this younger really cute petite latina. We had insane sexual chemistry and would have crazy intimate sex everytime we saw eachother, which obviously made us both develop feelings to a degree. Her much more than me, with her wanting to date me serious and being really attached for a time. But I didn’t want anything which I’m sure hurt her. I had brought her out a couple times and she even met my friends

Well a few months into it she’s using Hinge because she likely wants to find a bf and she matches one of my really close friends. She tells me “hey isn’t this your friend” and I confirm so she unmatched him etc. A few months later after that they match again, with him telling me this time asking if this is the girl I was bringing around a while back. He asks if it would be weird or I’d be upset if he sleeps with her and I say yes tbh, so he respectfully unmatches /blocks and then I basically go off on her saying why is she matching my friend how disrespectful it is blah blah blah.

Another few months later back in maybe Jan her and I have a semi big falling out because of my fault. We haven’t spoken since then. Well I just noticed yesterday her and my supposedly very close friend are following eachother on Instagram. I’m extremely upset, not sure who followed who first but she’s most definitely going to try to sleep with him, or him go after her. It’s not even so much that I’m jealous or feel possessive over her (which I do to a degree) but more I feel betrayed by this friend. We are really close and there’s such a high level of respect, I have never even considered sleeping with or being involved with any girl he’s ever been intimate with or liked. How can I trust him now when we had spoken about it and come to an understanding.

Do I even have a right to be mad? I am very well aware that I don’t own anybody or control what people do. I sound like a little bish but I can’t help how I feel lol. Was thinking of bringing it up to him but I’m not quite sure how. Opinions misc?

CLIFFS:
-OP banging a girl for a while. Both develop somewhat feelings
-OP never commits, girl matches one of OPs best friend on dating app
-OPs close friend and OP discuss it and friend respectfully leaves it alone
-OP and girl have falling out, time passes
-Girl and OPs friend suddenly following eachother on social media most definitely going to try to bang
-OP feels betrayed by his friend and like a jealous lil bish
-What do

Yeah, you should definitely be upset but i also didn't read.

Shut yo bitch azz up

Who cares honestly. You're playing immature games. Either care or don't care about em. You're wasting your time and hers.

Beta situation for you.
1- Crazy sex with a petite latina....no chit.
2- The whole time she was on hinge and showing you.
3- You still stayed and caught feels

Super beta. Are you Anxious Attachment type?

She was only on Hinge because I wouldn’t commit. I was doing the same. I genuinely didn’t care / was still out having my fun. I didn’t even care if she dated or saw other people even when we didn’t talk. It was only now that it’s my very close friend that I’m upset.

Yes I’d consider myself anxious attachment.

I read everyword and i think your a phggt

I am a recovering Anxious. Gotta get control of that. Read the red flags early. If you are suffering through rose colored glasses, all red flags just look like flags. I dated many chicks who jumped to my friends, and this was before social media or cell phones. You had to hear about it or go out and see it. Don't dwell on her, not worth it, she showed her colors.

yeah this sounds real bitchmade on your part. So you had a woman you only wanted to use as a fukpig and you're upset that she's going off with your friend now? You (supposedly) have no attachment to this woman so in what fuking way is it disrespectful on their part to carry on with each other a year and a half later?

This

Yeah id be pissed too

If your friend knows that you didn't want him messing with this girl, and he does it behind your back, he is a bish. you're not overthinking, only the lowest of the lowest males pull weird slimy **** like this

Also, who tf tries to bang the same girl your friend did

Congratulations! Or damn, I’m sorry that happened

lol @ the responses ITT

First off OP, you are a feggit

Now that's out of the way, yea ur friend did you wrong

Brotherhood is a fake narrative and only exists when two parties have something to provide to each other

You got snaked like voidgaze/houstonmiscer

No pics of girl, so I have more of a right to be pissed than you.
You’re acting like a child, which is expected. You’re very immature

Not reading all that


I’m happy for you tho
Or sorry that happened

If you aren't with her any longer then what is the issue? Are you building fences around pussy?

im starting to doubt your chad status. all you do post about females, gymcel and are obviosuly insecure when you shouldnt be.

You sure you’re not just butt-hurt because your friend didn’t listen to you, not necessarily because they’re probably dating?

Well certainly not a noble move by your friend...

But you didn't commit, she's free to do whatever .


How many girls did you sleep with / run thru since her? We can't be hypocritical as men.

You may just be mad she's into some other guy ...friend or not.

As men we can't run thru 8 other girls and then come back and get upset they moved on.

You could have committed and had her....you chose not to...so you have no control over her actions at that point.


I started dating one girl for 8 months and still am , but before her I was dealing with another girl. I never told her about the other one...but she picked up on my behavior and let me go. I can't complain , because I had the chance to commit but ended up liking the other girl better . Life goes on

Hm I think you should get a degree op… to a degree.

OP told his friend not to do something, and he went behind his back and did it anyways

Regardless of the situation, that's not okay

Lots of you are stunted emotionally

Read this a few times then ask your question again?

"Jan, her and I have a semi big falling out because of my fault. We haven’t spoken since then"

It is May, how long is she supposed to be a nun and wait for you to call and apologize?

Like this would be different if it was on a girl you had some multi year commitment with relationship with etc etc etc

But you're taking about a girl that you didn't even give a fk to commit to...ie she's not good enough for you.

Why even bother blocking your friend at some girl you just smashed a few times but never went exclusive with ?

Yes this is it. I’m not bothered or anything by the girl sleeping with other people. I’m sure she’s dated many since we haven’t talked that was entirely fine I’m happy for her

It’s more the betrayal I feel from my friend. I consider this person very close and we discussed it already, and I thought there was a mutual understanding/ respect. Is he just going to try and sleep with every girl I’ve slept with or dated just because enough time passes?

A friend wouldn't tell him not to do something & actually the friend respected his wishes while the OP was still with her. You cannot make people not do something especially when he is no longer with her.

It's emotionally stunted to say a woman is off-limits if she isn't yours.

I still have no idea how it's "disrespectful" to the op

I totally disagree, his friend is a weirdo for that

Like I said , it's a little ridiculous you are trying to block your friend from going after a girl you PASSED on - its not like she was your gf for 5 years.

Let your friend date and fall for her then bang her?

Once you guys separated shes for the street

I never stepped on any of my boys shoes and smashing somebody they smashed because I don't want to be eskimo bros but I can see how other ppl with less integrity would do it

I had no issues getting pussy but I can see if other ppl do they may mess with a girl that was with their friend....not my cup of tea but I can understand