I know everyone on here has bugged me to move out for years.

I've been in this toxic relationship with my estranged husband as he's a Narcissist and I'm Borderline, but I've known him since age 15 and he takes care of me in a lot of ways as he's 10 years older, so it's hard to leave him. But I need to grow up and learn how to live on my own. I went from my parent's house to his house for marriage.

I really resisted as it's so quiet in my suburban neighborhood and it's nice to live in a house as right now I'm looking out to a gorgeously landscaped backyard. Now I'm moving downtown so I'll be surrounded by a lot of people. I hope I will have quiet neighbors. There is a pool and a fitness room so I will get the chance to meet new people!

What's good is I'm SO lonely in this house plus I get negative comments from my ex whenever he comes downstairs to the kitchen (I have the downstairs and husband and daughter have the upstairs) so my depression and self esteem were bad. Hence Deer Diary threads on here.

Now when I'm lonely there is literally a cocktail bar across the street and others within walking distance, as well as coffee shops. My friends all want to meet me as this is the coolest downtown but so hard to find parking.

Lord help me to try to figure out how to change a light bulb on my own lol.

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