Science is finding that women struggle more than men when it comes to staying faithful in relationships.

“Even when your marriage is good, you still miss that rush of feeling so excited you can’t eat or sleep when you’re having such an intense time emotionally and sexually with a new person. That’s what I kept going after, and what I couldn’t say no to.”

That’s how Annika*, 45, from Melbourne, describes her experiences with cheating, and she’s far from alone. According to a growing body of research, many women in long-term relationships are sexually adventurous and have secret lovers.

The view that it’s mostly men who cheat because their partners lose interest in sex is outdated. Science says that it’s actually women who struggle more with monogamy because they get bored in the bedroom. Women crave sexual variety and while some stifle their desire, others will be unfaithful.

Wednesday Martin, an anthropologist and author of “Untrue,” refers to this new research as “the great correction.” Martin interviewed dozens of sociologists, sex researchers and anthropologists for her book on female infidelity and says the sad, sorry picture painted of the female libido is grossly wrong. It is alive and kicking — and eager to be satisfied.

“The new research is correcting false notions that women have lesser libidos, that women are more naturally monogamous and that it’s easier for women to partner for life,” explains Martin. “Women don’t like sex less [than men] — but they do get bored of sexual sameness.”

While males may have higher levels of spontaneous desire, women take the lead for responsive or triggered desire.

“Spontaneous desire is when you suddenly think, ‘It would be nice to have sex.’ It comes over you like hunger or thirst,” says Martin. “Responsive or triggered desire occurs when something suggests the idea of sex to you — you’re watching or reading something, or a partner initiates a sexual encounter — and you get turned on. For that type of desire, women’s libidos are every bit as strong as men’s. We’ve internalized this idea that men are the randier sex and that’s untrue.”

The reasons women cheat

Martin says the myth that women cheat for emotional reasons while men cheat for sexual reasons is also being overturned. She cites research by Missouri State University on a group of women who used the Ashley Madison website specifically to cheat.


“[This research] explodes several of our most dearly held notions about female infidelity: that women cheat only when they are unhappy in their marriages; that unlike men, they seek emotional connection, not sexual gratification; and that women just ‘stumble’ into affairs,” says Martin.

“The women studied went on the site, created a profile, vetted candidates, met them in person and ‘auditioned’ them. This was a very intentional process. They wanted to find partners for sex. They reported being in sexless or orgasm-less marriages and they simply wanted what they couldn’t get at home. But most were otherwise happily partnered or married, and these affairs were a way for them to remain in their primary relationships. So, there goes the myth that women who cheat are unhappily married.”

Another critical piece of research from Dr. Marta Meana at the University of Nevada found that “institutionalization” in a long-term partnership dampens women’s sexual desire more than men’s. Men who have regular sex with their partners are more satisfied sexually and with their relationship, but it’s not the same for the women, she says.

“Now sex researchers are entertaining the possibility that women simply need variety and novelty of sexual experience more than men do,” Martin says.
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It’s a notion women like Gabriella*, 28, from Sydney, have been aware of for some time. “I’ve had lots of affairs since my first long-term relationship when I was at university,” Gabriella says. “I love sex and I get bored easily, but men take [an affair] as an affront to their masculinity. They all think they should be ‘enough’ for me and when I try and discuss ways of keeping the interest alive, they treat me as if I’m not ‘normal.’ What should ‘normal’ be — a woman who lies back and puts up with boring sex just for the sake of it? That’s the story women have been sold and it’s just wrong.”

Further exploding the myth that women are made for monogamy is the work of biopsychologist Meredith Chivers at Queen’s University, Canada. Chivers and her team invited men and women to watch porn while they had monitors on their bodies to measure their physical response and blood flow, which showed their sexual arousal. Straight men were mostly turned on by images of heterosexual sex and women having sex with women, but the heterosexual women had a more varied “arousal menu.”

“Women’s bodies responded to men having sex with men, women having sex with women, men and women having sex and images of an erection. We traditionally think men get turned on by everything and the truth is that a woman’s body responds to more sexual stimuli,” says Martin.

Looking after lust and libido

So, does the unleashed female libido always lead to infidelity? It doesn’t have to, says Martin. Not if women can talk frankly to their partner about their desire for sexual variety and adventure. She says this can avoid the inevitable boredom that besets many long-term relationships.

“Women start providing service sex. ‘He wants it, I really don’t but I will get it over with.’ Then women get into the cycle of thinking, ‘I guess I don’t really like sex.’ It’s actually that they’re not liking sex with the partner they’ve been with for many years,” she explains.


A simple thing couples can do is start a new, exciting activity together, such as learning how to kayak or dance together. “Couples get a rush of the neurochemicals and hormones similar to when we experience puppy love. So, you can get that feeling of excitement without going outside your relationship,” she explains.

“Imagine how much better relationships would be if couples understood that when a woman starts to feel sexually bored, this didn’t have to mean the end. Think of the marriages and relationships that could be improved if women could discuss their desire for sexual adventure and work with their partner to find solutions that bring them closer together.”

https://nypost.com/2022/08/23/women-...men-heres-why/

Not sure about this, it's well known that Aussie women are the biggest sloots out there

Please respect women

Not sure about this, it's well known that Brazilian women are the biggest sloots out there

Not sure about this, it's well known that African women are the biggest sloots out there

Not sure about this, it's well known that Haitian women are the biggest sloots out there

I understand women hurt you. but you don't get tired of this bull****? Dunno what's worse you or johnydeep spamming fat women threads... jesus seek therapy and look inward on why two women left you at the alter. ded fkn srs

Didn't read but in general men have more discipline so it's probably true

The fact is that humans of both genders have these constant desires and it's always a struggle to fight that temptation

Not sure about this, it's well known that Spainiard women are the biggest sloots out there

Because you were afraid. Fear causes people to behave properly

Another critical piece of research from Dr. Marta Meana at the University of Nevada found that “institutionalization” in a long-term partnership dampens women’s sexual desire more than men’s. Men who have regular sex with their partners are more satisfied sexually and with their relationship, but it’s not the same for the women, she says.

“Now sex researchers are entertaining the possibility that women simply need variety and novelty of sexual experience more than men do,” Martin says.
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Yeah, thats bull****. As always, they are talking about men in general, and the average men as we know, is lucky to even have one woman to have sex with. Of course they will be content with one woman only when they could barely get one in the first place. When you reach a certain level or tier of men, the type of men that do have options to have sex with many different beautiful women, they are hardly ever monogamous. Average men know its a pointless endeavor to try to have sex with multiple different women, let alone attractive women, so they dont even entertain that idea.



Ultimately, you can always reverse engineer your way into understanding human behaviour. Going back to the basics of sex and reproduction, and the differences between men and women, you will understand why women are the more selective gender and men arent, women are about quality over quantity, but men are the opposite, men are quantity over quality, thats why men can cheat on their perfectly fine looking girlfriends and wives, its simply because they can. What are these biological differences between genders? The way our sexual organs work, for example:

-Women only ovulate once per month, which means women can get pregnant only on these few days of the month. Men dont, we are fertile 24/7/365

-Women are fertile until their late 30's early 40s, and then they become 100% infertile. Men dont have this problem, we can still be fertile even up to our 70's, yes there is a decline but never a 100% infertility.

-Women can only get pregnant by one man at the same time, and once they get pregnant, they have to carry his child inside of them for 9 months, and then basically live glued to the child for the next few years, men arent like that, we dont carry **** inside of us, we dont have to breastfeed, we have to get our asses out for work/resources/other females, etc. So a woman can get pregnant by just one man per year, while the same man can in theory impregnate hundreds of women in the same year





For these reasons and others, its why women are more selective and hypergamous, while men are more polyamorous. Thats why a man with options is hardly ever content just ****ing the same woman for the rest of his life, it goes against our biology, we have the instincts of spreading our seed with as many female specimens as we can, and in theory, if society, culture, and our own resources allowed it, men would be perfectly fine impregnating as many women as they could afford to, assuming they got along with each other and they didnt suffer socially. This happens in many religions and cultures, contemporary western world isnt a thing you see often but in some religions like the mormons for example, this is what they do. Its not just a weird middle east thing, it happens in other areas and it has happened in many different eras trough mankind history.

Obviously we have been indocrinated to follow a monogamous intersexual dynamic, because thats what works the most for society in general, thats what brings the most overall order, organization, productivity, etc, its good for society, but whats good for society doesnt necessarily means its whats good for nature. Nature wants people to be discriminatory, nature wants the top tier men to impregnate the most women they can, nature wants women to ignore the manlets or mediocre men and only let the high quality men impregnate them, thats natural selection.




tl;dr: the article is bull****, yes both genders like sex with different people, but men need variety much more than women do, and the people that cheat the most in this earth is the men that have many options to cheat with, aka the attractive/successful men.

This part was interesting seems women will get turned on by anything lol

Further exploding the myth that women are made for monogamy is the work of biopsychologist Meredith Chivers at Queen’s University, Canada. Chivers and her team invited men and women to watch porn while they had monitors on their bodies to measure their physical response and blood flow, which showed their sexual arousal. Straight men were mostly turned on by images of heterosexual sex and women having sex with women, but the heterosexual women had a more varied “arousal menu.”

“Women’s bodies responded to men having sex with men, women having sex with women, men and women having sex and images of an erection. We traditionally think men get turned on by everything and the truth is that a woman’s body responds to more sexual stimuli,” says Martin.

tldr

sloot's gonna sloot

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Peterson nailed it here. Basically they look to "tame" a monster.

When they've achieved taming the guy their work is done and now bored they'll seek out more excitement.

of course not

Not your mom right

Boredom is the number one reason, boredom comes from them comparing their lives to Instagram and their female peers who might have more exciting lives and they want that too. Women are the number one consumers so by nature they will look at others relationships and get lured and pissed off if they are not getting what the other girl is getting. So they file for divorce or cheat.

It makes sense, obviously. When men are sexually satiated they are complacent and docile. When men are abstaining women can smell it (maybe literally...) and seek to bring that man down. With the power of her pussy she can bring a man to heel.

It reminds me of this, too:

Cliffs?

not reading all that incel crap

But op will never know as hes still a virgin at 45.