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post 1705114811 08-16-2024, 11:43 AM
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Help me stay strong, stick to the plan.

As the misc knows, i m about 2 weeks post being dumped today. It has been two weeks of NC from her. I tried to reach out to her a few times last week and I got nothing. This chick was smoking hot, probably the hottest chick i've dated, had 20k+ followers, etc. None the less I got dumped and alot of it was my fault.

Since then, i reached out to a few chicks I knew from last year. I've met up with two of them. There was a white chick and I banged her last weekend, she pretty much has a perfect body. I've gone on a couple other dates with this smoking hot latina, seeing her again tomorrow night, this will technically be our third date. She is playing the good girl card on me. We made out last week, so this week I am going to have to make more moves (grab her tits, rub her puss, try to bang etc). I really don't even care that much if I don't bang this latina, but if i dont try she ll just think i m a bitch.

My point is, I still miss my x, I have made 0 contact with her the past week. I know if I reach out to her, and she ignores me, i ll just feel worse. I put the ball in her court i guess, and I shouldn't reach out. Please reinforce this to me misc. I do miss her, she was beautiful AF and so fun to be around. She was the best.

Another thing making this hard for me is that I am staying off of dating apps until at least sept 1. I know if I go on there, i ll get a bunch of new sloots to talk to, and that will help me move on. But I did date my x for quite some time and feel like I should stay off the apps until at least sept, do you agree? I know if I were on the apps, meeting new sloots, i d move on faster. I mean whats the difference really, i m still reaching out to sloots I know so am i truly healing? I'm just rebounding another way without apps...

Other than that, i ve been focusing on reading and meditation it really helps. Keep on the lookout misc, i will post updates about my date tomorrow night. If I don't at least stick my finger in her tomorrow night and she doesnt fiddle the old jimmy, I m going to let her go to avoid friend zone. She is for sure playing the good girl card on me, I feel like she really likes me, and is waiting a few dates before she shows the real sloot side..
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post 1705114921 08-16-2024, 11:46 AM
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just call your ex and cry to her

better than crying to a gay bodybuilding forum anyway
post 1705115101 08-16-2024, 11:52 AM
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Something I have noticed is the most attractive people are always the most insecure. My brother literally has women swooning when he walks by, and he used to be the biggest and softest crybaby. He's come to me crying after getting dumped or cheated on multiple times. Problem seems to be that no matter how good you look, your mouth will still get you in trouble if you're an autist.

OP, you are doing too much, take a step back. Try this, every decision you make moving forward, before you do it, stop, and ask is this what a self secure man would do? You'll find that you're overthinking things and are going about life with your heart on your sleeve.
When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.
post 1705115351 08-16-2024, 11:57 AM
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have you tried jacking off?

works most of the time, every time
post 1705117291 08-16-2024, 12:43 PM
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Originally Posted By nothingshocking⏩
just call your ex and cry to her

better than crying to a gay bodybuilding forum anyway
This helps me to rethink it to some degree
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post 1705118301 08-16-2024, 01:09 PM
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Originally Posted By Godfrd824⏩
Something I have noticed is the most attractive people are always the most insecure. My brother literally has women swooning when he walks by, and he used to be the biggest and softest crybaby. He's come to me crying after getting dumped or cheated on multiple times. Problem seems to be that no matter how good you look, your mouth will still get you in trouble if you're an autist.

OP, you are doing too much, take a step back. Try this, every decision you make moving forward, before you do it, stop, and ask is this what a self secure man would do? You'll find that you're overthinking things and are going about life with your heart on your sleeve.
Big part of my meditation. Envision that higher version of myself and making better decisions/higher quality characteristics
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post 1705118371 08-16-2024, 01:11 PM
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Lol, if you were a woman I was "dating" and smashing and I knew you were fooling around with someone else I would never speak with you again.
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post 1705118571 08-16-2024, 01:17 PM
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Originally Posted By johnvee73⏩
Lol, if you were a woman I was "dating" and smashing and I knew you were fooling around with someone else I would never speak with you again.
The girl I smashed last weekend was a hookup. I still message her every couple days but i m not pursuing her. The Latina I m going after a bit more. Hope this makes sense. Johnv , don’t reach out to my x, right ? Thoughts ?
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Keep us posted, and don't forget to hashtag #SlootLife
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Originally Posted By Legendsneverdie⏩
The girl I smashed last weekend was a hookup. I still message her every couple days but i m not pursuing her. The Latina I m going after a bit more. Hope this makes sense. Johnv , don’t reach out to my x, right ? Thoughts ?
Anytime I broke up with someone once I found out they were fooling around with someone else I no longer gave them the time of day. Shes likely been smashing someone else.
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post 1705119031 08-16-2024, 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted By johnvee73⏩
Anytime I broke up with someone once I found out they were fooling around with someone else I no longer gave them the time of day.
I did it to help me move on if anything. Didn’t really help as much as I hoped.
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post 1705119111 08-16-2024, 01:38 PM
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Imagine having a great hairline and still being this beta

What a waste
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Originally Posted By Legendsneverdie⏩
As the misc knows, i m about 2 weeks post being dumped today. Other than that, i ve been focusing on reading and meditation it really helps(and other self-fulfilling tasks or activities).
Well...I read your story....didn't read responses.

Coming from an old fossil, if I were asked, I'd say:never succumb to allowing any women to have an emotional stranglehold on one's daily quality of life. (related to RTLB #21)

But, that's just me.

Good luck on your path.

Respectfully.

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You sound needy as hell

That won’t keep any female around
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Originally Posted By AshWar⏩
Imagine having a great hairline and still being this beta

What a waste
We all get wrecked from time to time. Even those of us with solid hair lines. Just having a rough day today brother. Tell me to stay strong and don’t text my x. Focus on the new future Pune
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Originally Posted By Legendsneverdie⏩
We all get wrecked from time to time. Even those of us with solid hair lines. Just having a rough day today brother. Tell me to stay strong and don’t text my x. Focus on the new future Pune
You’re 37 man

Your great grandfather got his foot blown off in a trench when he was half your age. Sack up

Spoiler!
post 1705119691 08-16-2024, 01:55 PM
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Originally Posted By Wayne
Well...I read your story....didn't read responses.

Coming from an old fossil, if I were asked, I'd say:never succumb to allowing any women to have an emotional stranglehold on one's daily quality of life. (related to RTLB #21)

But, that's just me.

Good luck on your path.

Respectfully.

Carry on.
Solid quote. Reread it several times an envisioned it. Not where I want to be. Just a rough day but I ll bounce out of it. Going to read, do yard work, hit gym, and meditate later I ll feel better.
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Originally Posted By SirFapsAIot⏩
have you tried jacking off?

works most of the time, every time
This is probably bad advice. Makes you feel like a cuk within an hour
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Originally Posted By Legendsneverdie⏩
Solid quote. Reread it several times an envisioned it. Not where I want to be. Just a rough day but I ll bounce out of it. Going to read, do yard work, hit gym, and meditate later I ll feel better.
That's good to hear.

Remember:
You are the man, you are the catalyst to attract a woman you may desire. A woman who understands her role in a relationship, having unwavering femininity, loyalty and understandsreciprocity.
In today's world, that's your biggest challenge.

But, that's just me.

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Originally Posted By AshWar⏩
You’re 37 man

Your great grandfather got his foot blown off in a trench when he was half your age. Sack up

Spoiler!
Thanks man. Sacking up is what I need to do
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Originally Posted By Legendsneverdie⏩
]This chick was smoking hot, probably the hottest chick i've dated, had 20k+ followers, etc.]
This is super cring
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you already said you put the ball in her court...so let her hit it back if she wants to. Doing anything else is desperate and pathetic.

Get on the dating apps whenever you're ready. Don't hold off for her benefit, she dumped you. Everything that happens after is not her business and not her problem unless you're trying to game her mom/sister or something. Similarly, however she feels about you is not your problem.
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Originally Posted By Zackad⏩
you already said you put the ball in her court...so let her hit it back if she wants to. Doing anything else is desperate and pathetic.

Get on the dating apps whenever you're ready. Don't hold off for her benefit, she dumped you. Everything that happens after is not her business and not her problem unless you're trying to game her mom/sister or something. Similarly, however she feels about you is not your problem.
Ok Ty for saying exactly what I needed to hear. I actually wrote a text out to her and read it a few times then deleted it before I sent it. I did this to imagine how it would look and how I would feel if she didn’t respond. It looked desperate you are right. It needs to be her if there is ever further communication. I ve already made my self look desperate enough trying to get her back last week. Even if I do message her and she gives me a response. It don’t mean chit. Still have an upward point to prove to her. Not going to work unless she comes to me and says she misses me or some chit

Even though I m not on the dating apps now, isn’t it still weak for me to be dating on my old rooster? What would you do if you were dumped by a chick you fell hard after dating just under a yearish. Go back on apps in 2 weeks? Simp your old rooster?
Originally Posted By GaryRidgway⏩
This is super cring
Why so? My point was she’s probably living in a simp haven.
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Please tell me that you are trolling to wind up miscers because I mean there is no way that you can be 37 and whining about some sloot like you are a bitch...JFL
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Originally Posted By GaryRidgway⏩
This is super cring
Oh shvt....for some reason that "20K+" followers comment escaped me.
Especially, noting her proclaimedhotnessfactor.

For me, generally speaking, that's a huge red flag and I'd move on.
I'd let her lead someone else on and crucify his emotional well being and she'll just find another taker.

End of story.

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Originally Posted By Legendsneverdie⏩
Ok Ty for saying exactly what I needed to hear. I actually wrote a text out to her and read it a few times then deleted it before I sent it. I did this to imagine how it would look and how I would feel if she didn’t respond. It looked desperate you are right. It needs to be her if there is ever further communication. I ve already made my self look desperate enough trying to get her back last week. Even if I do message her and she gives me a response. It don’t mean chit. Still have an upward point to prove to her. Not going to work unless she comes to me and says she misses me or some chit

Even though I m not on the dating apps now, isn’t it still weak for me to be dating on my old rooster? What would you do if you were dumped by a chick you fell hard after dating just under a yearish. Go back on apps in 2 weeks? Simp your old rooster?
Writing out the messages you want to send in like a notes app, rather than sending it, is a good alternative to get your feelings out without looking like a lame. And will be good to revisit for self reflection shortly after to see if you actually felt that way or were just in your feelings.

I wouldn't say its weak to hit up your old roster, assuming your roster isn't a bunch of exes lol. I personally don't date for a couple months after a relationship anymore, unless it falls in my lap. Kind of a personal decision, can't tell you how to handle that. only you can. But if you want to, I wouldn't hold back on her account. And strange is usually more fun/exciting than past hookups. of course exceptions exist.
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Originally Posted By Zackad⏩
Writing out the messages you want to send in like a notes app, rather than sending it, is a good alternative to get your feelings out without looking like a lame. And will be good to revisit for self reflection shortly after to see if you actually felt that way or were just in your feelings.

I wouldn't say its weak to hit up your old roster, assuming your roster isn't a bunch of exes lol. I personally don't date for a couple months after a relationship anymore, unless it falls in my lap. Kind of a personal decision, can't tell you how to handle that. only you can. But if you want to, I wouldn't hold back on her account. And strange is usually more fun/exciting than past hookups. of course exceptions exist.
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Originally Posted By Zackad⏩
Writing out the messages you want to send in like a notes app, rather than sending it, is a good alternative to get your feelings out without looking like a lame. And will be good to revisit for self reflection shortly after to see if you actually felt that way or were just in your feelings.

I wouldn't say its weak to hit up your old roster, assuming your roster isn't a bunch of exes lol. I personally don't date for a couple months after a relationship anymore, unless it falls in my lap. Kind of a personal decision, can't tell you how to handle that. only you can. But if you want to, I wouldn't hold back on her account. And strange is usually more fun/exciting than past hookups. of course exceptions exist.
Thanks brah. So glad I didn’t hit her up. I would have looked and felt like such a weak bitch.


Ty everyone too for talking me out of it
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Ignore her brah, find some other chicks to mess around with

I watch mates take years to get over this chit and they can't understand why I can move on in an afternoon

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