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post 1705176761 08-18-2024, 12:11 AM
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Has anyone noticed this concept when you know someone is abusing or dominating you...

But you do nothing to fight back?

For example I was once talking to a psychologist and he said something to bolster my ego and open up more, and I could tell exactly what he was doing as he was doing it in the moment, but i couldn't help but be manipulated and talk more sh*t and divulge more info than I ever will to another person.

In more extreme cases this manifests as a victim (girl, boy, or grown women) freezing when she's getting raped and not fighting back and letting it happen and not understanding why.

Does anybody know what I mean and how to stop this from happening?
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post 1705178631 08-18-2024, 02:08 AM
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Originally Posted By Silence2⏩
Yes I know exactly what you mean.
If you are the real SS, what are your favourite books?
Originally Posted By MidAugust⏩
for a guy who's supposedly 6'2" 220lbs of solid muscle, you sure do get bullied a lot
When this happens to someone, it doesn't matter how big they are. I think it's somebody who knows they have power over you and they do things, 'under the implication' that things will go wrong if you don't comply and there's nothing you can do about it. This happened to that big black gorilla looking dude who played the tyrant in friday 2 - (
). Some jew twink grabbed his package like he was his b*tch and he just froze.

I've watched rape victims say the same thing when they get raped by someone they trust - they just freeze.
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post 1705178721 08-18-2024, 02:18 AM
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post 1705179011 08-18-2024, 02:48 AM
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Originally Posted By MidAugust⏩
so at a job and ur manager fked with u?

yea tours over for wagie sheep
No, I said it was aa psychologist doing it to me - he was manipulating me and it worked even though I was fully aware of what was going on.
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post 1705179051 08-18-2024, 02:50 AM
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Originally Posted By Silence2⏩
Stillness Speaks by Eckhart Tolle
What are you thoughts on books in general? Do you think that they give you great and original ideas? Apparently you love to read according to misccord
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post 1705179161 08-18-2024, 02:58 AM
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post 1705179311 08-18-2024, 03:05 AM
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
But you do nothing to fight back?

For example I was once talking to a psychologist and he said something to bolster my ego and open up more, and I could tell exactly what he was doing as he was doing it in the moment, but i couldn't help but be manipulated and talk more sh*t and divulge more info than I ever will to another person.

In more extreme cases this manifests as a victim (girl, boy, or grown women) freezing when she's getting raped and not fighting back and letting it happen and not understanding why.

Does anybody know what I mean and how to stop this from happening?
I can't understand a word you're saying brah. You raped someone?
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Originally Posted By Silence2⏩
No I never read books.

That was the last book I read and it was over a decade ago.

I used to love reading and read a lot of books when I was younger but I lost interest in it. I have realized the truth is not in books. Books are just random people’s opinions and stories and fantasies. I have no further interest in it.
So you are the real SS.
Originally Posted By swordplay76⏩
I can't understand a word you're saying brah. You raped someone?
I don't have it in my to lie to a girl to make her sleep with me, let alone rape her - the only times I've been laid is when the girl couldn't help herself due to my dashing good looks and musculature.
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post 1705179411 08-18-2024, 03:09 AM
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post 1705179771 08-18-2024, 03:31 AM
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Originally Posted By Silence2⏩
No he is saying people react to attacks by more powerful people with surrender due to survival instinct.
I've seen multiple news reports of women getting raped and not even fighting back - they just freeze.
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
But you do nothing to fight back?

For example I was once talking to a psychologist and he said something to bolster my ego and open up more, and I could tell exactly what he was doing as he was doing it in the moment, but i couldn't help but be manipulated and talk more sh*t and divulge more info than I ever will to another person.

In more extreme cases this manifests as a victim (girl, boy, or grown women) freezing when she's getting raped and not fighting back and letting it happen and not understanding why.

Does anybody know what I mean and how to stop this from happening?
Of course he was trying to get you to open up, that's his damn job, and that's why you're paying him.

And the reason why you gave in to his manipulation was because you WANTED TO OPEN UP AND TALK... Why else would you have paid money to be his patient?


In this scenario, I'm not even sure if the word "manipulation" is appropriate, I think the word "encouragement" is more fitting, he was just giving you encouragement to open up and start talking because he could tell you wanted to talk but just needed some coaxing.... I mean, obviously, because, again, why else would you be paying him if you didn't want to talk?
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I know yeah i feel everyone is always against me srs

I just want a good time srs
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Originally Posted By buwbs⏩
I know yeah i feel everyone is always against me srs

I just want a good time srs
* m8 her sausage chops look bang reyt srs
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Originally Posted By Silence2⏩
I used to trust psychologists but I don’t anymore. When I was being abused I saw a counselor weekly for two years and he did nothing.

He was literally the only person I could talk to and that could have helped me stop the abuse. Instead he did nothing and just gave me basic self care advice like yoga and meditation and journaling etc. Which was BS because I needed a restraining order not a yoga class.
They're just random people tbh - who tf studies psychology anyway except people whose life is a mess.

I saw Candace Owens reporting on Freud and his compatriots, stating they were a bunch of homosexual kiddie diddlers.
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don't think i've ever been abused or dominated by anyone, so no..
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
They're just random people tbh - who tf studies psychology anyway except people whose life is a mess.

I saw Candace Owens reporting on Freud and his compatriots, stating they were a bunch of homosexual kiddie diddlers.
this thread and your other thread above it (women and BPD) are you talking about psychology
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
this thread and your other thread above it (women and BPD) are you talking about psychology
I studied biological science at uni. Psychology and understanding how the mind works is just a past-time for me.
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Fight flight freeze fawn

Are the 4 reactions to conflict. Seems like you chose fawn

If your in a situation like this again where you know your being manipulated and don't know what to do, the best thing is to just shut your trap while you figure out what to do
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Originally Posted By SaviorSelfJT⏩
Fight flight freeze fawn

Are the 4 reactions to conflict. Seems like you chose fawn

If your in a situation like this again where you know your being manipulated and don't know what to do, the best thing is to just shut your trap while you figure out what to do
That's the point - you know what's going on and you can't control it.
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Lol, the OP wasn't evactly what I was expecting.

But seriously, I've reached a point in life where there is no person who can have power over me without direct consent. As soon as anybody tries childishh abusive nonsense, I get up and walk away and never speak to them again. Had to do this to a best friend earlier this year, and it was a great decision. Feels like a massive weight has been lifted.
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
That's the point - you know what's going on and you can't control it.
You don't have to control it. Just stop talking. The room should be like this

"So why don't you tell me more about your childhood hood?"
"..."
"Well?"
"..."
"Why aren't you saying anything?"
"..."
Then get up and leave

You can do the same thing for other conflicts
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