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03-16-2024, 05:10 AM
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How do you get a social life from scratch in 2024?

Srs how?
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03-16-2024, 05:21 AM
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Srs how?
You meet people through work, activities, and referrals from other friends.

What do you do for a living and what hobbies do you have?

If this is a typical miscer then hobbies would be porn, video games, netflix and if so, you're destined to be alone forever.
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03-16-2024, 05:22 AM
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gonna be tough of youre past junior high

best i can think of is find really niche hobbies and do them. may take a couple years, hell took me 2+ for a couple of mine but its possible, then we all moved away now im back to square one fml

sloots can accomplish it in a month. dudes it takes years.
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03-16-2024, 05:32 AM
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mostly hobbies when I was younger, Car clubs/car meets, dirtbike track, fishing tournaments, bike nights, church events, etc.

Now older, most of my new friends come from my kids, their friends/classmates parents. Most have been pretty cool, different phase of life.
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03-16-2024, 05:35 AM
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You meet people through work, activities, and referrals from other friends.

What do you do for a living and what hobbies do you have?

If this is a typical miscer then hobbies would be porn, video games, netflix and if so, you're destined to be alone forever.
Im a salesguy in person sales most customers are older tho.
No hobbies really I rarely game anymore, netflix a lot tho.
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03-16-2024, 06:02 AM
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mostly hobbies when I was younger, Car clubs/car meets, dirtbike track, fishing tournaments, bike nights, church events, etc
I have a lot of pastor friends. There's a handful of churches I go to and get their texts on events. I don't go to church for the social aspect of it but that is a byproduct.

Last month was biking on the pinellas trail and there was a group of people with a sign that said 'stop in for prayer'. Happened to be a church that just moved in to a building backing up to the trail. Everyone was cool and seemed like genuine believers. Had the pastor and another lady text me their name/number (I don't bring my cell phone with me when I bike).

Visited their church and got a couple other people added to my phone. Went out to dinner on a Friday at Cody' Steakhouse with the pastor and two others. Invited the mid to late 20 something waitress to church the Sunday after next Sunday which was in 9 days. That was last week and waitress showed. Got her #. She said she would like to join a bicycle ministry which my idea was to put a sign on the back of the church advertising the event and the time and bike down the trail and talk with whoever wants to talk and then get lunch somewhere. It has to be co-ed because a group of 10 dudes won't be approachable.

But the social aspect is not why I visit churches. I'm devout about my faith and genuinely enjoy the company of other who are running the race on the same path. To me everything else pales in comparison to being known by God with the promise of eternal life.

And no, I'm not Ron.
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03-16-2024, 06:04 AM
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You meet people through work, activities, and referrals from other friends.

What do you do for a living and what hobbies do you have?

If this is a typical miscer then hobbies would be porn, video games, netflix and if so, you're destined to be alone forever.


The problem is, some of us simply don't want to make people from their jobs their good personal friends. It's part of the "not chitting where you eat" concept.

But yeah, that makes it a lot harder. Because I've found that the overwhelming majority of friendships people form as adults come from their jobs.
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03-16-2024, 06:06 AM
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The problem is, some of us simply don't want to make people from their jobs their good personal friends. It's part of the "not chitting where you eat" concept.

But yeah, that makes it a lot harder. Because I've found that the overwhelming majority of friendships people form as adults come from their jobs.
OP is in sales, so being friends with his clients will make him more money.
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03-16-2024, 06:08 AM
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The problem is, some of us simply don't want to make people from their jobs their good personal friends. It's part of the "not chitting where you eat" concept.

But yeah, that makes it a lot harder. Because I've found that the overwhelming majority of friendships people form as adults come from their jobs.
Yeah, I agree. There's a certain barrier you have to keep, because sometimes friends will fuk you over(thinking you won't have an issue with it, because you're friends).
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03-16-2024, 06:15 AM
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Yeah, I agree. There's a certain barrier you have to keep, because sometimes friends will fuk you over(thinking you won't have an issue with it, because you're friends).
The first rule is 'to have a friend you have to be a friend'. Didn't you make a thread about a 'friend' of yours who was having a spat with his girlfriend and he invited you to his place. He stepped outside momentarily and his disgruntled girlfriend took you into the bedroom. How can you call the other guy a friend?

Proverbs 18:24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: And there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
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03-16-2024, 06:26 AM
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Srs how?
Start lifting, join a health club
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03-16-2024, 06:28 AM
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OP is in sales, so being friends with his clients will make him more money.

lol yeah, I get that. Kinda hard to form genuine friendships with people you ard focused on making sales to, though haha
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03-16-2024, 06:29 AM
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The first rule is 'to have a friend you have to be a friend'. Didn't you make a thread about a 'friend' of yours who was having a spat with his girlfriend and he invited you to his place. He stepped outside momentarily and his disgruntled girlfriend took you into the bedroom. How can you call the other guy a friend?

Proverbs 18:24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: And there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Yeah, I'm not sure I'd call that guy a "friend" in the literal sense. Moreso someone to party with, but I keep a pretty firm barrier with him.
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03-16-2024, 06:35 AM
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lol yeah, I get that. Kinda hard to form genuine friendships with people you ard focused on making sales to, though haha
Not at all if you are genuine, but yeah if your sales persona is different than your true character then you will flounder.
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03-16-2024, 06:58 AM
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I'm wondering the same thing I haven't talked to anyone in like 8 years. Fall 2016 was the last time I actually hung out with anyone.
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03-16-2024, 07:12 AM
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The problem is, some of us simply don't want to make people from their jobs their good personal friends. It's part of the "not chitting where you eat" concept.
This is rubbish. The workplace is perhaps one of THE best environments to develop platonic and romantic relationships, and this is reflected in the statistics.

The “don’t chit where you eat” concept is more applicable to fuking and hooking up with your colleagues.
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03-16-2024, 08:21 AM
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I'm wondering the same thing I haven't talked to anyone in like 8 years. Fall 2016 was the last time I actually hung out with anyone.
Sort of the same for me actually easier to talk to girls then guys.
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03-16-2024, 08:28 AM
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without encroaching on things you do on the daily- go out solo, meet a chick and start hitting it, eventually meet her group of friends and some bros will probably be around that if you get along with you could start tagging along with. As long as you arent some angry incel/cockblock, youll be fine. Just dont over-do it like a fangirl.

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a health club? lmao, no.

You might wanna meet guys in the sauna or interrupting their sets but that doesnt work for straight dudes.
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This is rubbish. The workplace is perhaps one of THE best environments to develop platonic and romantic relationships, and this is reflected in the statistics.

The “don’t chit where you eat” concept is more applicable to fuking and hooking up with your colleagues.


Your reading comprehension is absolute horse chit

and just because you love going for the lowest hanging fruits in your life (making your entire social life based on people from your job, i.e. forced proximity based friendships) doesn't mean everyone else wants to or should do that
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03-16-2024, 08:32 AM
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Sort of the same for me actually easier to talk to girls then guys.
I used to have no issue talking to people about sports, lifting, video games, music, cars, goals etc but i can't talk to anyone anymore. I had just as many female friends as male friends too. When everyone got addicted to their phones and social media I lost contact with everyone.

I truly think smart phones and all these apps have disrupted the social fabric I don't know how else to put it
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03-16-2024, 08:42 AM
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What I did:

Volunteer somewhere, and help organize and set up events

Get a part time job related to a hobby you enjoy

Join a local sports league, like rugby, football, volleyball

Cycling/running clubs

Mountain bike & help build trails

Get a motorcycle


Stay away from meetups, I have only meet weird azz people at those events
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03-16-2024, 08:58 AM
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Not to name names, but just read through the comments and you can tell who has real friends and who likely has no friends.

For the record, a real friend is someone who would bail your ass out of jail. A real friend is someone who if you were out of the country and got robbed, they would get you back to the US. A real friend is someone who isn't afraid to call you on your bull****. A real friend is someone who would stick by your side in a physical altercation even if you were outnumbered. A real friend does all this because he knows if roles were reversed, you would be there in his corner. It goes back to the fundamental principal that to have a friend, you have to be a friend.

On another note, I'm entering all of my business transactions for 2023 into Quick-Books and took me three hours just to do January and February. This thread is a much wanted distraction from the monotony.
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03-16-2024, 09:02 AM
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Never had a job where I wasn't consistently invited out by coworkers and coworkers were shagging eachother. I'm basically mute/autistic. U guys are seriously weird.
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Your reading comprehension is absolute horse chit

and just because you love going for the lowest hanging fruits in your life (making your entire social life based on people from your job, i.e. forced proximity based friendships) doesn't mean everyone else wants to or should do that
I get the impression I make you feel stupid and that really gets under your skin.

For the record, it’s genuinely not my intention. I responded purely because the point you made was flawed and I wanted to elaborate on that.
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just go up and say hi
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You gotta get a hobby…I've heard some of the misc before suggesting Meetup? I've never used it before, but why not…I think it's people in the similar boat just trying to meet people obviously.
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Not sure. I do have a friend group but I never seem to meet new people. If I do it takes years to establish a close connection. I also never see myself or my friend group meeting new people at bars and restaurants.
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I get the impression I make you feel stupid and that really gets under your skin.

For the record, it’s genuinely not my intention. I responded purely because the point you made was flawed and I wanted to elaborate on that.

No, you're just a closed minded fellow who thinks anyone who doesn't think exactly as you do must just be dumb.
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