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post 1551206591 05-10-2018, 05:57 AM
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Originally Posted By darkeminence⏩
She actually says she would do the same for me... But that's of course easily said.
People without money always say that crap. They say it because it wont affect them ever.

To me a woman that is greedy over money or has no problem spending my money is a red flag. Regardless who has/makes more a relationship should be a joint effort to get to a certain goal.

She wants you to spend money that you have scraped together over the years but what sacrafice is she willing to make to help get ahead?
post 1551207131 05-10-2018, 06:10 AM
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Obvious trolling.


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post 1551207181 05-10-2018, 06:11 AM
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But Op, you knew all of this chit before you moved in with her, right? So why not figure it out ahead of time instead of just moving in and fuking yourself over in the first place?



Or

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post 1551208861 05-10-2018, 06:44 AM
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what reason did you have to tell her you had 100k and what did you expect to happen?
post 1551209231 05-10-2018, 06:50 AM
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Originally Posted By GravityLee⏩
Cliffs
- shes the better looking one in the relationship
- youre going to get screwed hard srs. Many women deliberately engage in these relationships to gain leverage over their partner in decisions exactly like youre describing
- if she was plain jane 5/10 you wouldnt even have to think twice about this
- who the fuk spends 10-20 grand on fukking furniture in a bf/gf relationship. To me this is a "wow we just got married and wer spending the rest of our lives together" decision
Op is trolling but if not, or just in general, THIS RIGHT HERE!
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Atleast she is blatantly using you.

OP, you are a certified potato.
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post 1551209931 05-10-2018, 07:02 AM
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post 1551209941 05-10-2018, 07:02 AM
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post 1551210001 05-10-2018, 07:03 AM
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post 1551210011 05-10-2018, 07:03 AM
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Originally Posted By darkeminence⏩
So we moved in together recently. Now we need to buy some furniture.

She has no savings, I have around 100k savings. She knows about this (i know i know big mistake).
Now she wants me to spend around 10k on furniture "to get us going". For me that's ok, since that furniture remains mine anyway (I can prove it with the receipts). But in exchange, I expect her to save and pay for the rest of the furniture in the future (also around 10k). She won't do that. She says she will pay anything she has, but she won't make any commitments or any arrangements with me. She totally starts to freak and thinks I don't want to give any of my money and thinks I'm a greedy ****.

All I honestly want is for things to be fair so I wouldn't get screwed if/when our relationship ever becomes doomed in the future. I've read enough horror stories about partners stealing half the other partner's money to be cautious on this front.

TLDR:
- girlfriend has no savings, I have 100k
- we need furniture
- she expects me to pay for it (around 10k)
- she won't make an arrangement where she pays the furniture we need to buy in the future
- we fight ad can't come to an agreement, she thinks i'm a greedy **** and not invested in teh relationship
you are pretty greedy ******* and you shouldnt force her to buy furniture.

just compromise and win at the same time...if shes chit with money...make her buy the groceries, and pay for utilities. If she dont know how to save...just make her live paycheck to paycheck.

you own the furniture if you end up splitting and she cant claim her groceries back.
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post 1551210161 05-10-2018, 07:06 AM
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Nothing in her savings is a big red flag.

You dun' fukked up moving in with her. She is going to be the type that expects you to pay for all her chit because you have money. I seen this a fukk ton of times. My mom does it with my stepfather too. It's annoying to witness.

I am so glad my wife is really conservative with money. She had a fukk ton in her savings account when I met her even though she was a senior in college. She also paid for college while going so she didnt have any student loans.
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post 1551210521 05-10-2018, 07:12 AM
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wut's wrong with the furniture u got?
post 1551210551 05-10-2018, 07:12 AM
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Originally Posted By devin45k⏩
Nothing in her savings is a big red flag.
This....coupled with her entitlement to OP's money.

I'm curious, OP: Did you guys have a discussion around finances before moving in? It sounds to me like she's assumed you guys are operating as a married couple with shared finances, when you're under a very different impression.

In other words, she's using the furniture as an engagement ring.
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post 1551210631 05-10-2018, 07:14 AM
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where are you living that you need to spend 20k for furniture?
post 1551210731 05-10-2018, 07:15 AM
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Something isn't adding up here. 29, 100k in savings and you didn't have your own place, and furniture beforehand? So you were both living with your folks and decided it was a good idea to get your first place...Together?
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post 1551210741 05-10-2018, 07:15 AM
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Originally Posted By redraider86⏩
This....coupled with her entitlement to OP's money.

I'm curious, OP: Did you guys have a discussion around finances before moving in? It sounds to me like she's assumed you guys are operating as a married couple with shared finances, when you're under a very different impression.

In other words, she's using the furniture as an engagement ring.
Exactly...she is basically using the move in as a "we are basically married" excuse because she got OP to live with her. People with a sense of entitlement love to use their partners money and this is how they reason it.
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post 1551210971 05-10-2018, 07:21 AM
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Originally Posted By badbl00d⏩
Something isn't adding up here. 29, 100k in savings and you didn't have your own place, and furniture beforehand? So you were both living with your folks and decided it was a good idea to get your first place...Together?
The furniture is for phucking all the miscers who got roll breaded in this thread
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Guess this is the last time you tell a GF about how much money you have saved up hahaha. You fuked up by moving in with her in the first place brah.
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$10k on furniture? Mmmm, you guys check out Ikea, Craigslist, Costco? lol

Damn, idk OP, might as well kick her out now.
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Originally Posted By darkeminence⏩
So we moved in together recently.

She has no savings, I have around 100k savings. She knows about this (i know i know big mistake).
Now she wants me to spend around 10k on furniture "to get us going".For me that's ok, since that furniture remains mine anyway (I can prove it with the receipts).
I suggest you look up the thousands of cases where men were chucked out of the homes they own and given restraining orders from said property (and the ex) because the relationship broke down and the womans lawyer sought to get you out of the picture to make it favourable in divorce proceedings.

Then come back and tell me how receipts will help you keep furniture when the long dick of the law can exclude you from the damn house.
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Originally Posted By RyanT7⏩
The furniture is for phucking all the miscers who got roll breaded in this thread
I agree, no way this is legit.
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You need to buy her an expensive bed and matress with high quality springs for all the times she'll be having Chad and Tyrone over.
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10k on furniture? Chit son, I could buy all the required furniture in the living room, bedroom, plus a guest room, plus the appliances in the kitchen for 10k.
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Originally Posted By soaponarope1⏩
Yeah, spending ~10% of your liquid net worth on furniture because someone else said you have to is a great idea.

Here's another one, since it is your money, spend what you want to buying the furniture you want, or spend nothing and live with what you have.
Mostly that. Agree you could be trolling.

I may have spent that much on furniture in my entire life - maybe.

Her saying what the budget should be spending your money is BS. You telling her to pick up the next $10K is BS too.

On that traditional broke old lady time...sitting in my living room right now.

- couch and 2 chairs from FB Marketplace $250
- TV/entertainment stand from FB Marketplace $150
- 3 end tables and a coffee table from various places $95 total
- 3 lamps w/shades from various places $110 total
- large rug $130 from Wayfair
- 2 free art prints give to me by the couch and chairs people, an antique photo and plaque $10 total

Already had a standing lamp, TV and entry table.

Under $750. Shopping around a lot is a PITA, but I have more time than money.
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It's very simple, OP. If she isn't chipping in, it's your furniture. Test it.

Start picking out the most offensively masculine and yet utterly tasteless chit you can find. Get a replica of the Iron Throne and put it right in front of the television. Not even a good one, like a plastic one that everybody can see is cheap as fuark. See if she respects your boundaries and understands that you're paying her way. If she objects and freaks out when you tell her it's your money and your decision, calmly advise her to GTFO of your place.
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Why would you even tell her you have 100k saved up? Was that to convince her to move in, if so you're an idiot.
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Why don't you have any furniture yet ? Is it the first time that you're living alone ?

Don't move in together unless you're planning to get married or are already married.

Do not pay for all of it : It should be 50/50 if she has a job and earns money then she should pay.

Cliffs :

-You're already behaving like a spineless *******, this will not end well.
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How the fuk are you spending 20k on furniture, what could you possibly be buying. You can fully furnish a place from Westelm, not cheap stuff, for like 10k or less.
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OP sounds like you need to do some Windows 10 re installs to get your mind right.
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