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01-13-2019, 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Speak for yourself, not all other women. You do not represent a typical woman.Yeah I understand. And I’m not even looking for a mental connection or chemistry so it doesn’t apply to me.
And I haven’t read the book but don’t you think it’s plausible that the book is conflating lack of mental connection with lack of baseline physical attraction?
Because women use “lack of connection” as a pretext and euphemism for “lack of baseline physical attraction.” They lie to themselves or to their friends or to the guy to spare his feelings.
For example when I turn down second dates, I just politely decline the offer without giving any reason. That way the guy can just drop it and move on. But if he does press for a reason, then my answer to him is a generic “I’m sorry but I just didn’t feel any connection.” Because I’m not going to outright tell him that I was not attracted to him.
So I’m using that term in the post date conversation as a euphemism and social convention to politely turn someone down without making it personal.
And again I haven’t read the book but I think that’s what many women do. So it’s very possible that the book is conflating that and taking “lack of connection/chemistry” literally to mean a mental connection/spark, when it really might just mean something physical.
And I haven’t read the book but don’t you think it’s plausible that the book is conflating lack of mental connection with lack of baseline physical attraction?
Because women use “lack of connection” as a pretext and euphemism for “lack of baseline physical attraction.” They lie to themselves or to their friends or to the guy to spare his feelings.
For example when I turn down second dates, I just politely decline the offer without giving any reason. That way the guy can just drop it and move on. But if he does press for a reason, then my answer to him is a generic “I’m sorry but I just didn’t feel any connection.” Because I’m not going to outright tell him that I was not attracted to him.
So I’m using that term in the post date conversation as a euphemism and social convention to politely turn someone down without making it personal.
And again I haven’t read the book but I think that’s what many women do. So it’s very possible that the book is conflating that and taking “lack of connection/chemistry” literally to mean a mental connection/spark, when it really might just mean something physical.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
A couple girls I really loved I could "feel" them. I mean I knew when they were going to call, I could instantly find them in a crowd, it was like a magnetic feeling, like the needle on a compass.Yeah I understand. And I’m not even looking for a mental connection or chemistry so it doesn’t apply to me.
And I haven’t read the book but don’t you think it’s plausible that the book is conflating lack of mental connection with lack of baseline physical attraction?
Because women use “lack of connection” as a pretext and euphemism for “lack of baseline physical attraction.” They lie to themselves or to their friends or to the guy to spare his feelings.
For example when I turn down second dates, I just politely decline the offer without giving any reason. That way the guy can just drop it and move on. But if he does press for a reason, then my answer to him is a generic “I’m sorry but I just didn’t feel any connection.” Because I’m not going to outright tell him that I was not attracted to him.
So I’m using that term in the post date conversation as a euphemism and social convention to politely turn someone down without making it personal.
And again I haven’t read the book but I think that’s what many women do. So it’s very possible that the book is conflating that and taking “lack of connection/chemistry” literally to mean a mental connection/spark, when it really might just mean something physical.
And I haven’t read the book but don’t you think it’s plausible that the book is conflating lack of mental connection with lack of baseline physical attraction?
Because women use “lack of connection” as a pretext and euphemism for “lack of baseline physical attraction.” They lie to themselves or to their friends or to the guy to spare his feelings.
For example when I turn down second dates, I just politely decline the offer without giving any reason. That way the guy can just drop it and move on. But if he does press for a reason, then my answer to him is a generic “I’m sorry but I just didn’t feel any connection.” Because I’m not going to outright tell him that I was not attracted to him.
So I’m using that term in the post date conversation as a euphemism and social convention to politely turn someone down without making it personal.
And again I haven’t read the book but I think that’s what many women do. So it’s very possible that the book is conflating that and taking “lack of connection/chemistry” literally to mean a mental connection/spark, when it really might just mean something physical.
My gf lives far from me and she frequently worries what I'm doing. I could feel that and intense love feelings mixed with ideas about several important ideas. I mentioned these feelings and she then told me that she was thinking about me a lot and then mentioned the topics I was thinking about.
I believe certain people can feel other people and it's not just about looks.
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01-13-2019, 06:05 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Why are you even dating if you're not looking for that?Yeah I understand. And I’m not even looking for a mental connection or chemistry so it doesn’t apply to me.
And I haven’t read the book but don’t you think it’s plausible that the book is conflating lack of mental connection with lack of baseline physical attraction?
Because women use “lack of connection” as a pretext and euphemism for “lack of baseline physical attraction.” They lie to themselves or to their friends or to the guy to spare his feelings.
For example when I turn down second dates, I just politely decline the offer without giving any reason. That way the guy can just drop it and move on. But if he does press for a reason, then my answer to him is a generic “I’m sorry but I just didn’t feel any connection.” Because I’m not going to outright tell him that I was not attracted to him.
So I’m using that term in the post date conversation as a euphemism and social convention to politely turn someone down without making it personal.
And again I haven’t read the book but I think that’s what many women do. So it’s very possible that the book is conflating that and taking “lack of connection/chemistry” literally to mean a mental connection/spark, when it really might just mean something physical.
And I haven’t read the book but don’t you think it’s plausible that the book is conflating lack of mental connection with lack of baseline physical attraction?
Because women use “lack of connection” as a pretext and euphemism for “lack of baseline physical attraction.” They lie to themselves or to their friends or to the guy to spare his feelings.
For example when I turn down second dates, I just politely decline the offer without giving any reason. That way the guy can just drop it and move on. But if he does press for a reason, then my answer to him is a generic “I’m sorry but I just didn’t feel any connection.” Because I’m not going to outright tell him that I was not attracted to him.
So I’m using that term in the post date conversation as a euphemism and social convention to politely turn someone down without making it personal.
And again I haven’t read the book but I think that’s what many women do. So it’s very possible that the book is conflating that and taking “lack of connection/chemistry” literally to mean a mental connection/spark, when it really might just mean something physical.
01-13-2019, 06:09 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Seems like you got hurt and now you don't fully trust anyone.Yes I’m not saying that chemistry and strong mental/emotional connection and passion don’t exist. I had that with my ex so I know how it feels.
Just saying I’m not holding out for that now. If I happen to find that connection again well great. If not then that’s fine too. I’d be very happy with a guy who is just attractive/cute and nice/normal, even if no chemistry/connection.
Just saying I’m not holding out for that now. If I happen to find that connection again well great. If not then that’s fine too. I’d be very happy with a guy who is just attractive/cute and nice/normal, even if no chemistry/connection.
It's sad but it happens. Older people have more baggage because more things have happened to them.
01-13-2019, 06:12 PM
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01-13-2019, 06:13 PM
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01-13-2019, 06:15 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Doesn't companionship usually involve some kind of connection though?Because I want male companionship and sex.
I’m very lonely for male companionship. Spending time with friends and family doesn’t resolve that loneliness.
Just really enjoy having a man by my side and I really miss that.
I’m very lonely for male companionship. Spending time with friends and family doesn’t resolve that loneliness.
Just really enjoy having a man by my side and I really miss that.
01-13-2019, 06:19 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
For a guy who is attractive/cute/nice/normal, don't you think chemistry/connection can grow over time?Yes I’m not saying that chemistry and strong mental/emotional connection and passion don’t exist. I had that with my ex so I know how it feels.
Just saying I’m not holding out for that now. If I happen to find that connection again well great. If not then that’s fine too. I’d be very happy with a guy who is just attractive/cute and nice/normal, even if no chemistry/connection.
Just saying I’m not holding out for that now. If I happen to find that connection again well great. If not then that’s fine too. I’d be very happy with a guy who is just attractive/cute and nice/normal, even if no chemistry/connection.
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01-13-2019, 06:19 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Why don't you try to find someone who you're compatible with? Dating apps might be your best bet.Because I want male companionship and sex.
I’m very lonely for male companionship. Spending time with friends and family doesn’t resolve that loneliness.
Just really enjoy having a man by my side and I really miss that.
I’m very lonely for male companionship. Spending time with friends and family doesn’t resolve that loneliness.
Just really enjoy having a man by my side and I really miss that.
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01-13-2019, 06:29 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
I can never quite figure out if I agree with you or the complete oppositeYes of course once you start spending a lot of time together you naturally develop a connection and bonding. So eventually with enough time together it turns from affection into love.
01-13-2019, 06:33 PM
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Originally Posted By digitalchi⏩
those all seem like traits of a respectable woman.No drinking
no green leaf
no anal
doesn't swallow
missionary only
no instagram
no ********
The more she post about her personal life the more it makes sense. Im assuming she cooks, reads, watches Greys Anatomy and cares over her plants. This isn't all bad but god damn.
Will she be FA all 2019...time well tell
no green leaf
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The more she post about her personal life the more it makes sense. Im assuming she cooks, reads, watches Greys Anatomy and cares over her plants. This isn't all bad but god damn.
Will she be FA all 2019...time well tell
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You have to have a platinum account to view thread statisticsOmg that list is so cool. Where do you get that??
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01-13-2019, 06:36 PM
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01-13-2019, 06:37 PM
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
My gf called like ten minutes after I posted this and I told her about it.Yes I’m not saying that chemistry and strong mental/emotional connection and passion don’t exist. I had that with my ex so I know how it feels.
Just saying I’m not holding out for that now. If I happen to find that connection again well great. If not then that’s fine too. I’d be very happy with a guy who is just attractive/cute and nice/normal, even if no chemistry/connection.
Just saying I’m not holding out for that now. If I happen to find that connection again well great. If not then that’s fine too. I’d be very happy with a guy who is just attractive/cute and nice/normal, even if no chemistry/connection.
She was like, "what!" and listed all the things that makes a connection possible. I found it adorable.
I can't have sex with people I don't feel good about and have my best interest at heart. In addition, I tend to view everyone as equal, so I can spend time with women and not feel the need to have sex with them, but that's just a friend thing. They are like guys to me.
I can't imagine having sex with my friend.
Anyway, have you actually been with a man you don't feel emotionally connected to for a sexual/fun relationship?
It sounds frustrating to me.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Interesting.Yes I wrote about that above. Don’t have chemistry or sparks or mental/emotional connection with my fwb.
Just enjoy his company and find him attractive and he is cute and nice. Would love to have a relationship with someone like him. No chemistry or passion required.
And then a deeper connection would just kind of happen naturally after spending more time together and bonding from shared experiences.
Just enjoy his company and find him attractive and he is cute and nice. Would love to have a relationship with someone like him. No chemistry or passion required.
And then a deeper connection would just kind of happen naturally after spending more time together and bonding from shared experiences.
That is beyond my capabilities.
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I was out of town for 1 day and there are 7 pages that I can't even read lol.
He wants to get you pregnant and cooks for you. Get him to move to your area and have him be there to cuddle on the couch. Maybe have a baby with him before you get too old.
Do you watch movies and sports on your computer??
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Yeah but what if she ends up being batschit insane?If I’m attracted to them, sure.
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Misc. and gym I suspect.wtf are you doing with your time then?
Also lemme clap them cheeks bby
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Originally Posted By Cass40⏩
I think they are having trouble because they are fit and look for the same. I have a lot of female friends who have remarried over 40. They met him in person though, not with online dating, which sucks. One guy I know met his wife on Plenty of Fish, which is bizarre as that site is horrid.I see this a lot here. Legzz pretty much I think was the same way. All the ones who are divorced here, you, legzz, Katya etc. are so nice and feminine, yet I can't believe that everyone has so much trouble finding a relationship after 40. Well yeah, actually I do, since all my aunts that got divorced, never remarried. I already know for me it would be impossible. If you guys are having trouble, what chance do I have? I think zero.
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
If you would love to have a relationship with someone like your FWB, then why not do it???!! I keep asking this because for one the thread title is wrong, you're not FA if you have an ongoing FWB.Yes I wrote about that above. Don’t have chemistry or sparks or mental/emotional connection with my fwb.
Just enjoy his company and find him attractive and he is cute and nice. Would love to have a relationship with someone like him. No chemistry or passion required.
And then a deeper connection would just kind of happen naturally after spending more time together and bonding from shared experiences.
Just enjoy his company and find him attractive and he is cute and nice. Would love to have a relationship with someone like him. No chemistry or passion required.
And then a deeper connection would just kind of happen naturally after spending more time together and bonding from shared experiences.
He wants to get you pregnant and cooks for you. Get him to move to your area and have him be there to cuddle on the couch. Maybe have a baby with him before you get too old.
Do you watch movies and sports on your computer??
01-14-2019, 12:37 AM
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Same risk as on any dating app tbh.Yeah but what if she ends up being batschit insane?
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i identify as a 44 year old lesbianYeah all the older ladies makes sense but idk what Hogan is doing in there hahaha.
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