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Thread: Thoughts on your gf/wife earning more than you? (Srs)

post 1626196443 12-21-2020, 10:47 AM
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Originally Posted By Ownster8932⏩
Why the **** would I care? That just means more money for the both of us?

I don't derive my sense of masculinity from how much $ I make and would feel zero sense of insecurity at her making more. I find it perplexing that people would want their sig other to make less than them just to stroke their own ego.
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post 1626196593 12-21-2020, 10:49 AM
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Originally Posted By sr7914⏩
He doesn't know what he's talking about. My wife and I both do fairly well I would say. She surpassed me last year in earnings when I was having a chit year and not getting as big of bonuses. You have no idea how much of a weight was lifted for me that she was able to pick up the slack and we didn't have to tighten up expenses. Teamwork makes the dream work.
I am not talking about having an off year. I’m talking about lifelong trends and speaking in generalities obviously. Your wife could be an exception. It doesn’t invalidate what I said.
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Not a flex.. just facts...

I make 6 figures and my wife makes more than I do.. and I couldnt give less fks to be honest. We live very comfortably and get to experience life from a very different view than a lot of people.. and for that I am thankfull


When I was single one of the boxes that needed to be checked (among 1,000's) for me to even consider seriously dating was she needed to have a career.. not just a job!!

Not into being Capt'n Save-a-Hoe...

Not trying to support some bish who managed to swallow enough dick to get a free boob job but couldn't manage to find a better job than a waitress at Hooters..

And what can I say... I got extremely lucky
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I work in commercial real estate and earn about $120K...unless i move up to an executive position, my pay is likely topped out.

My wife just graduated grad school as a Psychiatric NP and has been interviewing for positions that start at $120K a year. She'll likely be out earning me very, very soon...and I'm perfectly okay with that.

It'll allow me a chance to focus on my own career and not have to worry about taking risks as much in order to advance.
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Originally Posted By 1slo5oh⏩
Not a flex.. just facts...

I make 6 figures and my wife make more than I do.. and I couldnt give less fks to be honest. We live very comfortably and get to experience life from a very different view than a lot of people.. and for that I am thankfull


When I was single one of the boxes that needed to be checked (among 1,000's) for me to even consider seriously dating was she needed to have a career.. not just a job!!

Not into being Capt'n Save-a-Hoe...

Not trying to support some bish who managed to swallow enough dick to get a free boob job but couldn't manage to find a better job than a waitress at Hooters..

And what can I say... I got extremely lucky
Same here brother. Feels damn good. Most of the misc disagrees with this thought process
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Originally Posted By Astyanax⏩
Because no matter what BS women tell you about how they dont care, the vast majority will not respect a man if they see themselves as more successful than he is. For a traditional relationship to be successful, the man needs to be the leader and a woman won't accept your leadership if she's better than you.

Listen to Patrice Oneal on this topic.

When a King marries a woman, she becomes the Queen. If a Queen marries a guy, he doesn't become the King, he's the prince consort.
Yes let’s listen to the obese fat **** who has only stuck his dick in 5 out of 10 ghetto trash



There is some truth that as a woman earns more she expects more, which creates a paradox because her dating value itself doesn’t increase with income. That said there are other ways to achieve that. If you can’t dominate in income you can in personality, physicality, looks, etc.


Get a girl who is a programmer, scientist, etc - they generally aren’t feminine but can still be attractive and don’t need to be dominated financially in a relationship.



But back to the original point - if there’s higher divorce risk who cares? Financially you’ll be ok. Compared to a stay at home mom who you will pay support to for the rest of your years
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Oh he was squandering alright. Toward the end he was spending thousands of dollars A DAY on partying, alcohol, drugs, hookers, stripclubs, motels, restaurants, shopping etc. His behavior was very extreme and very destructive. And money enabled that.
After reading a couple of your posts in this thread its not hard to understand why he was doing that.

Personally I don't see an issue with an s/o making more as long as both are gainfully employed.
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Unless she doesn't think less of you for it or will ultimately and keep holding it against you and will ultimately break up with you because of it, it is not a problem that your girlfriend earns more than you. If you truly are bothered by it maybe step it up with your career ambitions. Also if people talk trash about your girlfriend earning more than you and your girlfriend still loves you and regards you just fine regardless listen to your girlfriend and eff the opinion of those who clown you for it.
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Would be nice on paper for sure. I'm used to and like our arrangement.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Blaming the victim - nice.
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My mistake was choosing him in the first place, not understanding or ignoring the red flags, and falling into a codependent role to maintain the relationship.
You're only a victim of yourself in this instance. You weren't in the wrong place wrong time, etc... but instead actively decided to engage in a relationship with an idiot. This isn't a women's forum, you're not going to get our sympathy for the whole 'blaming the victim' charade.
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marriage is a financial contract

there's no reason for a man to marry a loser who makes less than him
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Different strokes for different folks.

Got a gf who recently got engaged. (Everyone else joked asking if he had to use her card to buy the ring). She makes all the $ - he lives in her house and is a tradie with really flexible hours contributes where he can. She absolutely loves this arrangement. (They've been together for a good 6 years now). She specifically told me "That's why I chose him". She's a control freak and loves it when he is on her time. Vacation when & where she wants & plans it for him. He just basically tags along and dicks her up. She 10000% doesn't mind having a 'home maker'.

I've dated people who made less than me and have dated ones that made more. I don't think the salary matters as much to me as the person's intellect and drive. The biggest turn off is complacency for me.
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Anecdotal evidence but if you have a career (rather than just a job) it won't matter who makes more. You're there to support eachother. If you're too insecure about that then you got trust issues or you're attracting the wrong person if you feel you need the "power" in the relationship by earning more.
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Originally Posted By Kev1972⏩
It would be great until she starts telling you this pussy is not going to lick itself.
Not sure why that would be a problem...
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Originally Posted By atgbrahsrs⏩
I dated a Chinese chick that made....
LOLXTRAFUUKINGLOUD...

I take it you are a "Whyy Guy" aka a white guy. You are basically a millionaire to a slant-eyed woman who is desperate to dilute her gene pool. Just lol ....ever wonder why Asia is the worlds brothel for degenerate/ugly/poor white guys?

Ever wonder why every uggo white guy who has never had any interest from women can still get a asian woman (thankfully they all look the same so it doesnt really matter which one is yours).
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Almost all my GF's have made more money than me. Step up your dink games fellas
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Originally Posted By hackerwacker⏩
Almost all my GF's have made more money than me. Step up your dink games fellas
Did you ever think its maybe because you don't make a lot of cash?
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Originally Posted By Frank
Did you ever think its maybe because you don't make a lot of cash?
I'm well aware my dink game is stronger than my cash game
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Originally Posted By hackerwacker⏩
I'm well aware my dink game is stronger than my cash game
lmao, fair.
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Originally Posted By Ownster8932⏩
Why the **** would I care? That just means more money for the both of us?

I don't derive my sense of masculinity from how much $ I make and would feel zero sense of insecurity at her making more. I find it perplexing that people would want their sig other to make less than them just to stroke their own ego.
Yeah, if you want to hold down your partner so you feel better about yourself, you have issues. Same as the people who want their SO's to stay fat so they don't leave.
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It wouldn't bother me at all. I'd be happy for her if she got a raise or promotion and made more than me. The only way I could see it being a problem is if her making more than me was a problem for her
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I can’t even fathom the people who don’t want more household income.

The only thing I can think of is that maybe you have separate bank accounts and the money is not also yours with the set up that you have?

I don’t know. My wife and I have had intertwined finances for two decades, so the more money one of us makes, the more money both of us make.

My wife makes about $75k more than I make. And I couldn’t be happier about that. I just can’t imagine wanting less money bc of pride... or something?
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Originally Posted By DrewDarden⏩
I can’t even fathom the people who don’t want more household income.

The only thing I can think of is that maybe you have separate bank accounts and the money is not also yours with the set up that you have?

I don’t know. My wife and I have had intertwined finances for two decades, so the more money one of us makes, the more money both of us make.

My wife makes about $75k more than I make. And I couldn’t be happier about that. I just can’t imagine wanting less money bc of pride... or something?
Too many insecure miscers who define themselves solely by money and thus are useless to a chick who has it
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Originally Posted By DrewDarden⏩
I can’t even fathom the people who don’t want more household income.

The only thing I can think of is that maybe you have separate bank accounts and the money is not also yours with the set up that you have?

I don’t know. My wife and I have had intertwined finances for two decades, so the more money one of us makes, the more money both of us make.

My wife makes about $75k more than I make. And I couldn’t be happier about that. I just can’t imagine wanting less money bc of pride... or something?
Our scenario is unique I guess. I make good money, enough to support a family comfortably. I would say 99% of women would never be able to out earn me. But my work schedule isn't flexible. So I need my wife to be at home with the kids, to avoid daycare. But there are times when I get long stretches off, especially during the summer. So we became accustomed to almost having a teacher-like schedule in the summer, doing lots of camping and sightseeing. If my wife was to get a high paying job, she would likely go back to full time and 2 or 3 weeks vacation for the year. I'd be spending a good part of the summer with the kids by myself, or just working more myself and putting them in daycare.

So while I'd be happy with a higher family income, I'm not prepared to trade any part of our lifestyle for it. The wife is taking part time secretarial type work at local schools and I'm cool with that.
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Originally Posted By Astyanax⏩
Because no matter what BS women tell you about how they dont care, the vast majority will not respect a man if they see themselves as more successful than he is. For a traditional relationship to be successful, the man needs to be the leader and a woman won't accept your leadership if she's better than you.
The man making more financially - on it's self - doesn't mean he makes a good leader.

A dude can be a good leader and steer his family's ship even if he doesn't make a lot of money. Leadership is a trait that needs to be cultivated in men by their own fathers and honed, ready to be used when they assume leadership of the household. It has little to do with the $$ figure.

A good example on the misc is carsalesbrah. He claims to be making a lot of money - whether true or not - his personality reeks of beta and being un-masculine, hence his reoccurring issues with LTRs.
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Originally Posted By Frank
So while I'd be happy with a higher family income, I'm not prepared to trade any part of our lifestyle for it. The wife is taking part time secretarial type work at local schools and I'm cool with that.
I don’t think that’s the same thing as not wanting to have your wife make more money than you.

I would say that if I made my income plus my wife’s at the thing that I love to do (I’m a teacher), then I would tell her that she could stay home and take care of things here. But I don’t really think she would want to do that. She loves what she does, too. She would probably spend less time doing it though.

In other words, I can’t find anything wrong with what you’re saying. But there’s more than one way to skin a cat and make everybody happy.
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
That depends on how narrowly you define victim. If you define victim as limited to physical assault, no I’m not a victim.

If you define victim broader to include psychological manipulation, lying, fraud, intimidation, threats, cheating, stealing, extortion etc then yes I am a victim.

And emotional/psychological manipulation or abuse can be even worse than physical abuse because it’s more insidious. You don’t know it’s happening while you’re in it.

Everyone thinks it can’t happen to them but it can happen to anyone if the person targeting you is intelligent enough and sociopathic enough. Probably only the highest level of intelligent/sociopathic people are immune, like Putin maybe. Anyone else can be vulnerable in some area of their life. And if your opponent is intelligent enough they will know how to target you and manipulate you.
It depends on nothing. I've been screwed spectacularly in a couple relationships where the other person had obvious mental issues that I ignored, and in neither of them do I blame the other person. I should have left as soon as I noticed but I didn't, makes me an idiot rather than a victim of anything.

If you don't know when someone is trying to manipulate you then you need to pay better attention to the world around you. It's your fault for getting manipulated, not the other person, they're just doing what they do.

Lastly, there is an on/off switch for empathy and feelings. Next time you find yourself in an argument or having problems in a relationship, turn them off and you can think about it rationally. It really helps when you have to do something unpleasant.
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Not only would I not mind that, I would be very hesitant to marry a woman who earned a lot less than me

Needs to at least earn about the same
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