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Male friendships are build through shared experience, and the easiest way to do that is just to spend time around people. Mere exposure.

People have chit on work friends ITT, but that's mere exposure right there. People have chit on drinking friends ITT, but that's mere exposure too. Hobby friends… how often do they talk to you outside of those hobbies, brahs.

As I head towards 30, I'm frankly starting to think it's about consistency and having low expectations.

WRT male friendships, the guy I'm jealous of is my dad. He's 62, still lives 10 miles from where he was born, still hangs out with the class of 1980 football team and keeps tabs on EVERYONE from his old high school. They're legit friends for life, but it's because they've spent their whole lives together.

They grew up in a town of phucking 5000 with no internet and 3 channels on TV. They all stayed local after high school or college, all got jobs in the area, all bought homes in the area, most met women from the area (they are STILL phucking around with other classmates at Social Security age). It's like Shared Experience: The Life. Nowadays in this century, I think our communities are frankly too transient to build relationships like that.

The friends I grew up with I still see them sometimes at places in the city.
We pretend we do not know each other, do not say hi.

And this seems rather normal.

Once you’re not going to the same school/university/job ppl just drop friendships that last 10 or 20 years for a new one.

I had to rep god boy. Total truth here. This is about all that counts really.



I like Muay Thai. Go to the Gym 3x a week. You will make friends.

Even if you go to a gym people are on their phones and you can barely use the equipment because it's too busy. It doesn't work in 2024.

Almost everyone is on their phones.

Yeah i know. Anywhere i go people are on their screens. There's no connection at all with people like there used to be.

But how do I get a social life now?
Girls don’t want guys without a social life.

1. Join bjj club
2. Make friends
3. Have dinner parties
4. Profits

OP has no friends but gets a dopamine rush every time this thread is bumped.

Maybe this next post is my ticket to finding friends, he hopes.

Most couples, and especially dates, meet online these days. You don't need a social life, just an attractive online presence.

You have to do almost all socializing online now. Dating, finding friends, getting jobs, stream video games/podcasts/streaming etc. I have no idea how things are functioning like this. I just wanna go out and talk to folks but it's next to impossible now.

No im just trying to improve myself.
I have lost like 70 pounds of weight the past year for example.

That's respectable.

I can't even visit my family hardly because they are always on their phones or screens. I just don't get how no matter where you go it's like this now.