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Thread: I stand up for friends wedding then 2 weeks later get bill for purchased suit, wut do

post 1450231483 06-28-2016, 11:48 PM
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Originally Posted By YIAMSOMEBODY⏩
Nah, tell him,"Listen bro, me paying for the suit....not happening. You've got some nerve asking for money when everything we've done for you has been out of, what I thought was respect and love for the friendship. This sh** you're pulling, childish and inconsiderate seeing as how you NEVER mentioned anything like this until now. Matter of fact, I'm going to do it like this.....I'm going to return the suit and I won't be there at the wedding. I have better things to do than be somewhere for someone who is obviously about himself. Lose my number, suit will be to you shortly."

The time is now.
You give terrible advice. Don't know why people keep asking you because that is cringeworthy as phuck. By your suggestions it leaves me doubting if you ever socialize in real life at all.
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Forget the email. Call him and talk to him. Ask him what he is doing with his life and tell him the suit is at your place if he feels inclined to take it back. Sucks to be in your position OP. Post pics for reps.
post 1450232343 06-29-2016, 12:02 AM
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If you're friends with him on ******** just keeping buying **** that cost $500 and post it on your profile
post 1450233153 06-29-2016, 12:13 AM
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Originally Posted By Dirtymanjames⏩
You give terrible advice. Don't know why people keep asking you because that is cringeworthy as phuck. By your suggestions it leaves me doubting if you ever socialize in real life at all.
Jesus, shut the fukc up.....

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post 1450233323 06-29-2016, 12:15 AM
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
I stood up for a friend of mine's wedding 2-3 weeks ago, he got us all suits instead of tuxes. This guy is pretty loaded as a DOJ lawyer and there is no mention of us buying the suits. I understand renting tuxes for wedding, but he gives up the suits to keep.

Today I get an email from him...its a bill for the suit: about 500$.

I never wear suits and this thing will literally sit in my closet. His groomsmen gift? He covered the socks. Srs.

Like is this pretty fuked up or at all typical? I am kind of pissed, this guy has been cheap the whole time I've known him but this seems really low to me.
You cannot charge someone for something they didnt know they were buying.

I would just post the email with the caption, "Would have gotten my own suit" At the same time, I never been in a wedding where I was bankrolled and I never heard of a "grooms gift" so idk. I've always worn all my own suits.
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post 1450233443 06-29-2016, 12:17 AM
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post 1450233523 06-29-2016, 12:19 AM
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What was his wording regarding the suit before the wedding? Did he mention or even allude that you'd be paying for the suit? He sounds like the type who would sue you over this $500, so I would email him and put it in writing IF he never said you would be paying him for the suit previously.
post 1450233613 06-29-2016, 12:20 AM
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Originally Posted By Humungus⏩
What was his wording regarding the suit before the wedding? Did he mention or even allude that you'd be paying for the suit? He sounds like the type who would sue you over this $500, so I would email him and put it in writing IF he never said you would be paying him for the suit previously.
There are always two sides to this story. I refuse to believe the dude purchased suits for all these guys then sent them bills and none of them knew nothing.

Not to mention OP mentioned nothing about the other grooms mans complaining about this chit. Have a feeling OP went along for a ride hoping it was free.
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post 1450233863 06-29-2016, 12:25 AM
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Originally Posted By Lawlstud⏩
There are always two sides to this story. I refuse to believe the dude purchased suits for all these guys then sent them bills and none of them knew nothing.
This is kinda what I'm thinking. Just find it hard to believe the groom would spring a bill on them without even alluding to them paying. Something like "I'll cover the suits now, we'll square it up later."
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Well marriage itself is a major scam and a hustle
seems like this dude is setting up to be successful in it
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post 1450234873 06-29-2016, 12:40 AM
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Originally Posted By Humungus⏩
This is kinda what I'm thinking. Just find it hard to believe the groom would spring a bill on them without even alluding to them paying. Something like "I'll cover the suits now, we'll square it up later."
I don't find it hard to believe. At one point I hadn't seen my friends in a long time and so they called me up inviting me to a BBQ. I say "what should I bring" they say "nothing, _____ has got it covered". At the end of the BBQ we're just sitting chilling and then one of the guys says "OK _____ how much do we owe you?" All the guys apparently knew we were splitting the bill but no one mentioned it to me. I was pissed AF but I payed anyway since I wasn't gonna start an argument over a few $$.
In my culture we generally don't invite people to events we're hosting and then ask them to pay for it afterwards.
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Send him a 500 bill for you appearing at his wedding.
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Weddings are such a crock of **** (srs)
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Originally Posted By YIAMSOMEBODY⏩
Matter of fact, I'm going to do it like this.....I'm going to return the suit and I won't be there at the wedding.
WAT? The wedding was 2 weeks ago.
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Here's the literal email I got from him:

"The suits were $550 each, but we were able to get 20% off the whole order, so they were $440, plus $5 tax for a total of $445. My brother picked up the shirts and ties for you guys, which were $83 a man. The lobster socks and pocket squares were my gift to you (in addition to lifelong friendship and the promise to stand with each of you when your time comes), so don't worry about those.

That shakes out to $528"

Man...
"Hi Jim,

I'd rather keep the $538 than the suit and your "lifelong friendship". Please e-mail me the address to send the suit and shirt back to you.

PS. I'm keeping the lobster socks and framing them alongside this picture.



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post 1450251283 06-29-2016, 05:34 AM
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
This guy is a lawyer and loves to argue, he is going to drop something like 'Well its commonly understood that costs are defrayed throughout all involved' sort of thing.

To those guys says cut out, is this really that big of an offense? I agree its chitty as hel but seems generally socially unaware mixed with being out of touch of normal people's budgets.
Just tell him you weren't prepared to pay for the suit to stand in HIS WEDDING and that you will bring it back to him so he can return it. If he says something like there is a no refund policy then that's his problem.

If he persist then send him a bill for your time (however many hours you spent at the wedding x how much you make)

This dude wouldn't even be a client of mine much less a friend. You can do whatever you want to do however.
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
Before I drop something big, does it at all change anything if perhaps he asked one of the guys and thought that was sufficient for all of us? Or maybe sent an email or something about 'I want you guys to buy suits, tell me if this is a problem?'

God man...500$ thats like a new gun or parts for my motorcycle.
Wtf? iT COMPLETELY changes the situation if an email was sent and you were aware prior. Then the responsibility is on you to either tell him to F off right then and there. If you didn't speak up, it means you were cool with it.
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Lmao, to each his own and if people enjoy weddings then by all means continue with them.

But lol at how selfish people become when it's their "big day." Expect people to travel to opposite ends of the globe (sometimes), pay for accommodations, travel, take time off and still expect a gift (at least $50-100). Half of them only have "appetizers" to eat as well and one shiet, tiny, piece of cake. And this is for the generic guest, not even mentioning the people who have to drop $500+ for clothes they are forced to wear because they have the "honor" of standing in the wedding.

Half of them get divorced within 10 years anyway. No thanks, Geoff.
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Pretty ****ed up. He should have been upfront about the projected expenses rather than just hit you with a bill out of nowhere (esp. with more expensive suits than necessary). I would probably reach out to the other groomsmen that you are close with and see what they think. It seems like this guy is a complete cheapskate and is so cheap he is willing to **** over his own groomsmen (huge red flag). His financial situation may be pretty bad though as he may have years of Law School debt and only a government lawyer job (note that he probably makes only 80K).

I'd dig deeper for a reasonable explanation, and if there are none, just ditch him.
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Originally Posted By vequalsixr⏩
Fukn weddings are disgusting.

I would not consider him a friend and since he is a fancy lawyer, ask him for the agreement that you signed stating your intent on buying the suit. When he can not provide any sort of agreement, you tell him to kick rocks and to call you on his divorce day.

Weddings are such a crock of chit.
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
To expand the situation a bit, there was his bachelor party a few months ago at a house party, where there was like 20 people, the house was like 1k, we get a bill a few weeks later for 75$ each. No talk beforehand of 'lets go in on this'.

I also gave him 200$ for my gift to him. I get some chump socks for my gift. I'm not rich either, I got the money but 500$ is significant.
he's probably charging the suits to you guys because 20 dudes wouldnt chip in and pay for his bachelor party....
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I thought we were friends you cheap fuk. I'll expect a check by next week.
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you do realize that you can give him back the suit and refuse to pay him, right? or you can just throw the suit on his property and leave. anything that would mean not stealing...
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idk bachelor parties are supposed to cost you at least $500 (you spent $75) and tuxes are supposed to be rented and cost you around 100-150.

The way I see it is that you are spending the normal amount of groomsman money and getting a suit.

Cutting ties with him will only get him out of paying for things at your wedding since you said u haven't seen him in a while + since he's married now i doubt he cares.
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Originally Posted By wisdommaster1⏩
he's probably charging the suits to you guys because 20 dudes wouldnt chip in and pay for his bachelor party....
Thats honestly just as scheisty. I guess cheap hang around cheap.
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this sounds like something his wife put him up too
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Originally Posted By jwarrenfit⏩
ehh if hes got money he may not think its a big deal for yall. I am getting married in october on the beach so no suits required but they are buying their shirts/ slacks from me. But thats only like 75 bucks lol nothing compared to 500. i wouldnt do that to my boys think anything over a 100 should be covered
Wha? If you want a special day, coordinated to your taste, you should pay for it. Especially given divorce rates these days.

I can marry a Woman with two witnesses and a few hundo $. No need to drag 100s of people into it and force them to spend money.
Originally Posted By vequalsixr⏩
Fukn weddings are disgusting.

I would not consider him a friend and since he is a fancy lawyer, ask him for the agreement that you signed stating your intent on buying the suit. When he can not provide any sort of agreement, you tell him to kick rocks and to call you on his divorce day.

Weddings are such a crock of chit.
I'd be waiting for the agreement, or tell em to kick rocks. Mail him the suit collect.
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
Wtf? iT COMPLETELY changes the situation if an email was sent and you were aware prior. Then the responsibility is on you to either tell him to F off right then and there. If you didn't speak up, it means you were cool with it.
I just confirmed by going through my email, there wasn't anything I missed. The only thing said was 'I am picking out the suits we are going to wear for the wedding, they are awesome. *blah blah, go get measured, maybe we'll get pocket square etc* I am looking into the discounts we can get if we sign up for things like store credit cards. Bottom line it's a great suit you'll look good.'
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Originally Posted By KMadigan777⏩
I just confirmed by going through my email, there wasn't anything I missed. The only thing said was 'I am picking out the suits we are going to wear for the wedding, they are awesome. *blah blah, go get measured, maybe we'll get pocket square etc* I am looking into the discounts we can get if we sign up for things like store credit cards. Bottom line it's a great suit you'll look good.'
There has to be a way to return it somehow. Call up the store and straight up tell them you don't want the goddamn suit. Anything beats the **** your "friend" is pulling right now.

PS - I dated a chick who does hair. The second there is a wedding involved, she instantly can double her price and still gets non-stop business. The same goes for photographers, caterers, clothes rentals/buying, accommodations, etc.

My friend went to book a room for a hotel. They told him something like 120 dollars for the room and then he stupidly mentioned it was for the wedding and they charged him 250 dollars. (srs) He cancelled, had his gf call back and didn't mention anything about the wedding...back to 120 dollars.

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