It won't make me happy

Its just something that I want to get, that I haven't gotten in like forever. If I ever do get laid or get a gf, there will be other things in life that I'd desire, this is just something I want to get and not lose (i.e maintain)

LOL 30min train... most people live further than that (assuming you're from syd)

If you're going clubbing to find a quality girl, its extremely unlikely you'll find one. That's not to say that all girls who club are gangas. Sometimes, you'll find a girl who is just out with her friends and wants to have a good time.

I was probably 22 the first time i went clubbing, its not really my thing but IMO, its a good experience to be in that social situation whether you like it or not. I'd say go, but don't get caught up in the hype.

I can fake confidence in everyday life and when I usually go to the city, but sometimes I feel down, deep down

Its hard to be fulfilled/inner confidence/pride when you can get laid in the first place
Nah im from melb. A 30 minute train is very far from the city. All the action is in the city, all the suburbs are filled with old people and its just boring as fuk, since there isn't much young people (most of them are in the city)

Yeah I suppose I could give it a try one day. It just feels limited for me to find quality girls after I graduate

I know the feeling.

People will often say 'oh things will work out'. I don't really believe that anymore - and it's probably also true that not everyone is going to make it. However, you're still 20. Srsly, try some new things to meet girls - don't do it just to get laid. Try to make friends. Quality girls are found through social circles.

You'll also have to be a bit more flexible about what you want though. Stop sticking to only particular races. Sure, we all have preferences, but you shouldn't be too picky. I was like that when I was 20, and missed so many opportunities.

Seriously, go out and make friends. If you're a nerd, or you hang our with anti-social nerds, drop them. Not completely, but make friends with more outgoing people. These are the mistakes I made lol...

Yeah, I try to make friends with people who can introduce me to other people. Do you hang out or go out a lot? If so, how much does it take a toll on your wallet?

I agree....Life is what you make of it, and defining your happiness by what you lack will make you miserable and mostly likely repel your chances of being happy with your life and finding a women who is happy with you.

So I have to somehow be happy with life, in order to enter the upward spiral of happiness? But how can you get to that stage if you don't have happiness?

I don't got out too often. I'm 25 now so I'm over the whole clubbing scene (if that's what you mean by going out). But I've always worked so money isn't too much of a problem. But yeah, it can take a big toll. You just need to pace yourself. You don't have to go out every weekend, but if you did, don't do things that require money every day.

I was fairly FA in the past, not as bad now, but it helps if you become less FA when younger. In your mid 20s, everything is more difficult.

from the way you have posted in this thread there is little you can offer to a decent girl to make her feel more complete in life. you will make her miserable unless you change the way you view things in life.

also relationships take effort. you don't just get one and never lose it. there is a reason most marriages don't work. and people are in unhappy relationships.

are you actually happy with yourself as a person?

All I can offer is loyalty and perhaps love and fullfillment

I know they take effort, and I've done some research and am willing to do more and to experiment too, in order to do what it takes to ensure that my relationship stays for as long as possible

What do you mean by happy with myself? I would say I suppose so; my life isn't optimal, but it isn't too bad entirely.

Have you tried tinder? I want to experience young love but I'm too old now. Feels terrible. My life is over LMFAO!!!

first rule is you cant be beta cuz when chad steals your girl you are going to get super depressed and become even more beta thus having no girl again

You need to derive your happiness from other areas of your life that you can control, and not focus on not having women. You can go through life being depressed you don't have a Porsche, girlfriend, boat ect... , or you can be happy with what is good in your life.

A woman won't complete me. You can think of me wanting a woman as just another thing that I want to get in life. I've got other desires and more important things to want in life

DON'T PHUCK WITH OP...not you :'(

Like what? You honestly seem obsessed with finding a gf more than anything else right now, and ironically that's what's preventing you from getting one. Focus on more important things like career, money, personality, health, social circle,...etc.

Also sorry to break it to you but East Asian women are more superficial than ever. Fob girls in the US and in East Asia all view money as the #1 factor, with height being a close second. Go there but only after you focus on yourself first.

lmao josh i'd be totally down to take you to a club one of these days dead srs

Welcome to the club ,OP

Idk brah, I have the same problem I dont know how to cope anymore what would give me the happiness a GF would give me.

I have no opportunities to meet girls, so I spent most of my time online.

Age: 22

Cope. I'm Indian, and I got multiple job offers to teach in Korea. Found a nice one on the east coast right on the beach.

I have some friends who have just lost their 3 yr old - stand up tall brah, don't have regrets about something so small - it's just one moment in your (hopefully) long and healthy life

[QUOTE=joshewwah;1459221233]I'd find a way to make sure that it lasts indefinitely

More often than not it doesn't. We're just playing life on hard mode. We just do what we can with what we've got. You're gonna make it.

[QUOTE=PeeInYoCelltech post_id=1459394003]Like what? You honestly seem obsessed with finding a gf more than anything else right now, and ironically that's what's preventing you from getting one. Focus on more important things like career, money, personality, health, social circle,...etc.

Also sorry to break it to you but East Asian women are more superficial than ever. Fob girls in the US and in East Asia all view money as the #1 factor, with height being a close second. Go there but only after you focus on yourself first.[/QUOTE]The thing is, by the time I establish my career and money, I'd be in my 30s and the only women available are used up women, single mothers, etc. I would rather be alone than settle for that

[QUOTE=wooosh3 post_id=1459402333]lmao josh i'd be totally down to take you to a club one of these days dead srs[/QUOTE]Thanks man, but I would not go since I don't want to risk my identity


[QUOTE=Ryan94LOZ post_id=1459402783]Welcome to the club ,OP[/QUOTE]:/


[QUOTE=boredFA post_id=1459404343]Idk brah, I have the same problem I dont know how to cope anymore what would give me the happiness a GF would give me.

I have no opportunities to meet girls, so I spent most of my time online.[/QUOTE]Fuark, you got any more coping techniques?


[QUOTE=sarodr44 post_id=1459406223]Cope. I'm Indian, and I got multiple job offers to teach in Korea. Found a nice one on the east coast right on the beach.[/QUOTE]That gives me hope a bit. Have you gotten laid yet in Korea?


[QUOTE=Rdubbb post_id=1459407033]I have some friends who have just lost their 3 yr old - stand up tall brah, don't have regrets about something so small - it's just one moment in your (hopefully) long and healthy life[/QUOTE]Yeah you are right, I should do things and fail than not do anything and have regret my whole life


[QUOTE=someguy58;1459505953][QUOTE=joshewwah post_id=1459221233]I'd find a way to make sure that it lasts indefinitely

More often than not it doesn't. We're just playing life on hard mode. We just do what we can with what we've got. You're gonna make it.[/QUOTE]Then I suppose that would be one of my ultimate missions in life, to find a way to do the impossible


[QUOTE=OPGenesis post_id=1459506293][youtube]https://www.youtube.com/embed/D9JCwkx558o[/youtube][/QUOTE]Will watch later

once you're 20+ the tour is over

OP I share these feels brah.

People say life doesn't suck single, and they are right... when being single is a choice. When you are single because you can't get a girlfriend then yeah of course that sucks.

I have close to zero social circle atm. No way of meeting women organically. My only option is cold approach.

In all honesty when you really think about it, the solution is to face the fear/embarrassment of cold approach. There's no other way. I think about the feels of not having a gf and I think about the feels of being rejected by say 100 women but finding one I really like who says yes. Would it not be worth it then? Probably, but even knowing that it is still so hard to face our fears and destroy our self-image of ourselves.

Fear is the greatest limiter of human potential.

feels brah

maybe complain on reddit about being Fa and you can get a date like me

going to see this girl tommorow

literally the first time ever doing something like that for me

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Holy fuk... you are so 20 it's not even funny.



You only want a gf to make up for your lack of belief in yourself. You ain't gonna be happy until you sort that out.