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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
So "pretend to be someone else" as opposed to actually becoming someone else. Great, then women can like you for the person you're pretending to be, not the "real you".No, that's how you interpreted what i said. Emulate people that consider successful ... or ... continue cope'ing. It's not a magically concept.
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Originally Posted By InstantLoser⏩
Strong cope. You're not even listening to what I'm saying.So "pretend to be someone else" as opposed to actually becoming someone else. Great, then women can like you for the person you're pretending to be, not the "real you".
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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
Does this contradict your initial post?I actually listen intently to what most people are sayingIFit is obviously something more than small talk bullchit. And then give my thoughts. If it is something I think might offend them I'll ask them, "Do you want to know what I honestly think?"
HOWEVER
Most people want validation to their belief structure and not something that disagrees with it. So while I might be paying attention and really trying to help them ...they are the ones not actually paying attention. That might seem confusing. I'm basically saying reality isn't congruent with their beliefs ... they're in a bubble ... and what your saying will most likely bounce right back and not resonate with them at all.
HOWEVER
Most people want validation to their belief structure and not something that disagrees with it. So while I might be paying attention and really trying to help them ...they are the ones not actually paying attention. That might seem confusing. I'm basically saying reality isn't congruent with their beliefs ... they're in a bubble ... and what your saying will most likely bounce right back and not resonate with them at all.
You said nobody cares.
Now you are saying if you are engaging with someone you do care.
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Originally Posted By Nicklol⏩
They are too outwardly focused for all the answers, therefore they don't have any answers, and don't have the willpower or insight to help.why dont they care though?
I sympathize with every other fa... why dont these other ppl have a heart like me?
I sympathize with every other fa... why dont these other ppl have a heart like me?
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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
Wtf are you saying then. I'm pretty sure I understood you.Strong cope. You're not even listening to what I'm saying.
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10/10 OP.. what was your thought process in coming up with this solid conclusion? It hit all the right notes.
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Good points in OP. The problem with a lot of FAs is that they are too comfortable with their self-loathing, defeatist attitude. They're too happy and comfortable moping around since being depressing and fishing for sympathy is more rewarding than going outside and trying to fix what is ailing them.
Like that quote in Rocky Balboa, if you know what you're worth then go get what you're worth, but you gotta be willing to take the hits.
Like that quote in Rocky Balboa, if you know what you're worth then go get what you're worth, but you gotta be willing to take the hits.
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
I don't see a contradiction.Does this contradict your initial post?
You said nobody cares.
Now you are saying if you are engaging with someone you do care.
You said nobody cares.
Now you are saying if you are engaging with someone you do care.
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Originally Posted By InstantLoser⏩
He's saying change your name from Instantcreepy*******losertoallfemalespecies to InstantWinner.Wtf are you saying then. I'm pretty sure I understood you.
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Originally Posted By Jimagine88⏩
What's in a name?He's saying change your name from Instantcreepy*******losertoallfemalespecies to InstantWinner.
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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
??I don't see a contradiction.
Initial post you say nobody cares.
A few post down, you say you do care when engaging people.
I care too.
So that makes 2 of us at least and I'm sure there are others that care about other people's predicaments as well.
2 people+ =\= nobody.
My rule is to find and build relationships with people that DO care. It's way more gratifying to have a bond with 5 people that care vs 50 cucks.
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Originally Posted By InstantLoser⏩
Want to be a top body builder ... Then find someone that is/was the best like Arnie and model them.Wtf are you saying then. I'm pretty sure I understood you.
Want to be a successful businessman ... Find someone that already is and model them.
Want lots of women ... Find someone that gets lots of women and model them.
Is there not a large part of you that is a model of your parents? I don't know anyone that just woke up one day and was magically who they wanted to be.
You're not static.
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Good post. I've come to realize this on my own life. I totally agree with everything you've said. It's weird that I too enjoy talking with strangers more than family/closer friends. It shouldn't be that way but it is.
Thing is, if you try and break that cycle of focusing on yourself, it still doesn't benefit you in any way. People will be themselves and will only care about themselves. It's the nature of mankind. It'd be cool to find some really genuine people, but are they way they are, and I don't blame them one bit for it. That's why some relationships can be really tough, because it doesn't ever feel genuine.
Thing is, if you try and break that cycle of focusing on yourself, it still doesn't benefit you in any way. People will be themselves and will only care about themselves. It's the nature of mankind. It'd be cool to find some really genuine people, but are they way they are, and I don't blame them one bit for it. That's why some relationships can be really tough, because it doesn't ever feel genuine.
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
In my wizardry i gave an out for the rule breakers...??
Initial post you say nobody cares.
A few post down, you say you do care when engaging people.
I care too.
So that makes 2 of us at least and I'm sure there are others that care about other people's predicaments as well.
2 people+ =\= nobody.
My rule is to find and build relationships with people that DO care. It's way more gratifying to have a bond with 5 people that care vs 50 cucks.
Initial post you say nobody cares.
A few post down, you say you do care when engaging people.
I care too.
So that makes 2 of us at least and I'm sure there are others that care about other people's predicaments as well.
2 people+ =\= nobody.
My rule is to find and build relationships with people that DO care. It's way more gratifying to have a bond with 5 people that care vs 50 cucks.
...that's the rule NOT the exception.
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Originally Posted By Jimagine88⏩
That would be a start. Good eye.He's saying change your name from Instantcreepy*******losertoallfemalespecies to InstantWinner.
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Pretty good OP.
This hits on something I hate about FAs when it comes to girls which I'll explain via a story: I remember once when I was a young teen I was going into a new school, and it was raining as I was going in. I, for some idiotic reason, let myself get soaked and acted like I didn't care, because I thought that my lack of caring about being wet would look cool and because I reasoned that girls like guys who look and act cool. At best, I probably looked like an idiot who didn't know that wetness is uncomfortable and that it's good to stay dry. At worst, nobody even noticed and I made my day more uncomfortable for no reason. There was no benefit to my sacrificing of comfort, I had just imagined that there would be.
This is how many FAs continually act when it comes to girls, wherein they'll sacrifice their own pleasure and comfort for an accrual of imagined benefits. They'll not hit on a girl they like, or they'll act all lonery when they're out, or they'll not talk to people, or they'll wallow in pity at no-gf rather than fixing it, and then they'll revel in the pain that results from their lack of action. They think that living out their life with lots of wallowing self-sacrifice somehow adds up points on a sort of Universe-Fairness-Scoreboard, and with enough self-sacrifice, you'll eventually get your rewards and will catch up with everyone else in terms of life progress.
That's not how it works. Nobody notices your self-sacrifice. Nobody cares. You get no points. You're doing yourself out of pleasure.
If you're wallowing in pity because kissless virgin, be aware that your descendants would be far more proud to know that you fixed it by - for example - banging the cheapest nastiest hooker in the most vulgar fashion possible, rather than wallowing in pity on your own until you're old and pitiful. Fix your problems yourself, don't expect people to notice your suffering and to fix them for you. Nobody gives a sh*t, and even your best, most well-meaning friends, will be happy for you to stay exactly how you are forever.
This hits on something I hate about FAs when it comes to girls which I'll explain via a story: I remember once when I was a young teen I was going into a new school, and it was raining as I was going in. I, for some idiotic reason, let myself get soaked and acted like I didn't care, because I thought that my lack of caring about being wet would look cool and because I reasoned that girls like guys who look and act cool. At best, I probably looked like an idiot who didn't know that wetness is uncomfortable and that it's good to stay dry. At worst, nobody even noticed and I made my day more uncomfortable for no reason. There was no benefit to my sacrificing of comfort, I had just imagined that there would be.
This is how many FAs continually act when it comes to girls, wherein they'll sacrifice their own pleasure and comfort for an accrual of imagined benefits. They'll not hit on a girl they like, or they'll act all lonery when they're out, or they'll not talk to people, or they'll wallow in pity at no-gf rather than fixing it, and then they'll revel in the pain that results from their lack of action. They think that living out their life with lots of wallowing self-sacrifice somehow adds up points on a sort of Universe-Fairness-Scoreboard, and with enough self-sacrifice, you'll eventually get your rewards and will catch up with everyone else in terms of life progress.
That's not how it works. Nobody notices your self-sacrifice. Nobody cares. You get no points. You're doing yourself out of pleasure.
If you're wallowing in pity because kissless virgin, be aware that your descendants would be far more proud to know that you fixed it by - for example - banging the cheapest nastiest hooker in the most vulgar fashion possible, rather than wallowing in pity on your own until you're old and pitiful. Fix your problems yourself, don't expect people to notice your suffering and to fix them for you. Nobody gives a sh*t, and even your best, most well-meaning friends, will be happy for you to stay exactly how you are forever.
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Originally Posted By InstantLoser⏩
A lot.What's in a name?
Anything you say and do gives insight and perceptions about your inner dialogue.
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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
this is chitty advice. It's all useless motivation/self help nonsense.Want to be a top body builder ... Then find someone that is/was the best like Arnie and model them.
Want to be a successful businessman ... Find someone that already is and model them.
Want lots of women ... Find someone that gets lots of women and model them.
Is there not a large part of you that is a model of your parents? I don't know anyone that just woke up one day and was magically who they wanted to be.
You're not static.
Want to be a successful businessman ... Find someone that already is and model them.
Want lots of women ... Find someone that gets lots of women and model them.
Is there not a large part of you that is a model of your parents? I don't know anyone that just woke up one day and was magically who they wanted to be.
You're not static.
You're not at your idol's level. Your body can't take the load that Arnold puts.
You want to emulate someone who is one step ahead of you, who has been in your shoes previously.
The steps that take a company from $1 million to $100 million is different than the steps that take it from $100 million to $1 billion
You're not Kobe Bryant (or Nate Robinson if you want someone with an average physique). An average chump would be better off modelling himself after a high school basketball star or college D2/D3 player
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Originally Posted By HateyouOP⏩
Very good post.Pretty good OP.
This hits on something I hate about FAs when it comes to girls which I'll explain via a story: I remember once when I was a young teen I was going into a new school, and it was raining as I was going in. I, for some idiotic reason, let myself get soaked and acted like I didn't care, because I thought that my lack of caring about being wet would look cool and because I reasoned that girls like guys who look and act cool. At best, I probably looked like an idiot who didn't know that wetness is uncomfortable and that it's good to stay dry. At worst, nobody even noticed and I made my day more uncomfortable for no reason. There was no benefit to my sacrificing of comfort, I had just imagined that there would be.
This is how many FAs continually act when it comes to girls, wherein they'll sacrifice their own pleasure and comfort for an accrual of imagined benefits. They'll not hit on a girl they like, or they'll act all lonery when they're out, or they'll not talk to people, or they'll wallow in pity at no-gf rather than fixing it, and then they'll revel in the pain that results from their lack of action.They think that living out their life with lots of wallowing self-sacrifice somehow adds up points on a sort of Universe-Fairness-Scoreboard, and with enough self-sacrifice, you'll eventually get your rewards and will catch up with everyone else in terms of life progress.
That's not how it works. Nobody notices your self-sacrifice. Nobody cares. You get no points. You're doing yourself out of pleasure.
If you're wallowing in pity because kissless virgin, be aware that your descendants would be far more proud to know that you fixed it by - for example - banging the cheapest nastiest hooker in the most vulgar fashion possible, rather than wallowing in pity on your own until you're old and pitiful. Fix your problems yourself, don't expect people to notice your suffering and to fix them for you. Nobody gives a sh*t, and even your best, most well-meaning friends, will be happy for you to stay exactly how you are forever.
This hits on something I hate about FAs when it comes to girls which I'll explain via a story: I remember once when I was a young teen I was going into a new school, and it was raining as I was going in. I, for some idiotic reason, let myself get soaked and acted like I didn't care, because I thought that my lack of caring about being wet would look cool and because I reasoned that girls like guys who look and act cool. At best, I probably looked like an idiot who didn't know that wetness is uncomfortable and that it's good to stay dry. At worst, nobody even noticed and I made my day more uncomfortable for no reason. There was no benefit to my sacrificing of comfort, I had just imagined that there would be.
This is how many FAs continually act when it comes to girls, wherein they'll sacrifice their own pleasure and comfort for an accrual of imagined benefits. They'll not hit on a girl they like, or they'll act all lonery when they're out, or they'll not talk to people, or they'll wallow in pity at no-gf rather than fixing it, and then they'll revel in the pain that results from their lack of action.They think that living out their life with lots of wallowing self-sacrifice somehow adds up points on a sort of Universe-Fairness-Scoreboard, and with enough self-sacrifice, you'll eventually get your rewards and will catch up with everyone else in terms of life progress.
That's not how it works. Nobody notices your self-sacrifice. Nobody cares. You get no points. You're doing yourself out of pleasure.
If you're wallowing in pity because kissless virgin, be aware that your descendants would be far more proud to know that you fixed it by - for example - banging the cheapest nastiest hooker in the most vulgar fashion possible, rather than wallowing in pity on your own until you're old and pitiful. Fix your problems yourself, don't expect people to notice your suffering and to fix them for you. Nobody gives a sh*t, and even your best, most well-meaning friends, will be happy for you to stay exactly how you are forever.
I've definitely done the bolded hard.
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FA covers such a wide range of people with different issues that threads like this are just... pretty much useless man.
You may be right that a small percentage of people who call themselves "FA" may be able to resolve their issues using the methods you stated, but others have other issues ranging from anxiety all the way to being sort of socially retarded. I don't mean that as an insult in any way, some people are just not built and wired to interact well with others. Sure they can improve slightly with a lot of effort, but I knew kids throughout school who were not just shy, they had some sort of condition that made them difficult to socialize with (i'm not educated enough about autism and other such conditions to comment more specifically about these various conditions).
Point is you're trying to resolve the issues of a large variety of people who have artificially grouped themselves under this ever encompassing umbrella of "forever alone". It's not a scientific term, just a bunch of internet randos who made up a name to describe a condition which doesn't truly exist.
You may be right that a small percentage of people who call themselves "FA" may be able to resolve their issues using the methods you stated, but others have other issues ranging from anxiety all the way to being sort of socially retarded. I don't mean that as an insult in any way, some people are just not built and wired to interact well with others. Sure they can improve slightly with a lot of effort, but I knew kids throughout school who were not just shy, they had some sort of condition that made them difficult to socialize with (i'm not educated enough about autism and other such conditions to comment more specifically about these various conditions).
Point is you're trying to resolve the issues of a large variety of people who have artificially grouped themselves under this ever encompassing umbrella of "forever alone". It's not a scientific term, just a bunch of internet randos who made up a name to describe a condition which doesn't truly exist.
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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
Ok, maybe he advice was so obvious that I got confused.In my wizardry i gave an out for the rule breakers...
Here's another one. If you are not a lazy sack of shiet than you will be more successful than if you are a lazy sack of shiet.
The problem is stating the obvious doesn't. Get people to change. There are a lot of reasons why people are the way they are.
Essentially you are saying just sack up and push forward correct? Easy to say but everyone walks a different path.
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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
..noust go talk to women...urentire PST is chit....my ckiffs. Just go and talk to a girl in real lifeNOBODY CARES
...that's theruleNOT theexception.
Most people are so wrapped up in their own 9-5 cuckery that they have blinders on and don't see anything else. That's why people who commit suicide get a lot of, "If I had known I would of helped" or, "OMG I'm so shocked" from the people that knew them. Almost nobody cares and nobody is paying attention to anyone but themselves. And really... are those the people that you want caring if you are a FA?
Honestly, it's a big reason why celebrities often become huge fuk-ups ... they know (deep down) most of the people that surround them on a daily basis are just leeches and don't really care except for what they can gain. Same is generally true for true HBBs. It's the reason why people were so friendly for a week after 9/11 and then went back to being a-holes.
Even if you are cool and did do something genuinely interesting and awesome ... you will find:
- A small group that do care because they have their chit together or they are at rock bottom and desperate to be part of anything.
- A small group that doesn't identify with you at all.
- The vast majority that might ask surface level questions or none at all because you put into question the value of their 9-5 cuckery (nobody wants to be reminded that their life is lame)
The other things most FA's do is get to a despair point where they alienate the few people in their lives that somewhat (like care about your health - or in an obligatory way like family) care. You act distant, weird, or ignore them so that they reach out and finally ask, "WTF is wrong" ... just so you can then say, "Nothing! Fuk Off!" It's like a last ditched effort to for a sense of significance. Constantly pushing people away also gives a sense of penance in a fuked up way to prove the paradigm in your head that you are a FA piece of crap.
How do you get out of it? Simply realize the truth and take action...
Most people are so screwed up they don't care, your self-pity hasn't made your life better in anyway, and the only way forward is to be the hero in your own movie... meaning... don't be you (sorry but the you sucks) and start being the person you dreamed of. ACT AS IF / FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT / MOTION CREATES EMOTION ... until you become that hero.
...that's theruleNOT theexception.
Most people are so wrapped up in their own 9-5 cuckery that they have blinders on and don't see anything else. That's why people who commit suicide get a lot of, "If I had known I would of helped" or, "OMG I'm so shocked" from the people that knew them. Almost nobody cares and nobody is paying attention to anyone but themselves. And really... are those the people that you want caring if you are a FA?
Honestly, it's a big reason why celebrities often become huge fuk-ups ... they know (deep down) most of the people that surround them on a daily basis are just leeches and don't really care except for what they can gain. Same is generally true for true HBBs. It's the reason why people were so friendly for a week after 9/11 and then went back to being a-holes.
Even if you are cool and did do something genuinely interesting and awesome ... you will find:
- A small group that do care because they have their chit together or they are at rock bottom and desperate to be part of anything.
- A small group that doesn't identify with you at all.
- The vast majority that might ask surface level questions or none at all because you put into question the value of their 9-5 cuckery (nobody wants to be reminded that their life is lame)
The other things most FA's do is get to a despair point where they alienate the few people in their lives that somewhat (like care about your health - or in an obligatory way like family) care. You act distant, weird, or ignore them so that they reach out and finally ask, "WTF is wrong" ... just so you can then say, "Nothing! Fuk Off!" It's like a last ditched effort to for a sense of significance. Constantly pushing people away also gives a sense of penance in a fuked up way to prove the paradigm in your head that you are a FA piece of crap.
How do you get out of it? Simply realize the truth and take action...
Most people are so screwed up they don't care, your self-pity hasn't made your life better in anyway, and the only way forward is to be the hero in your own movie... meaning... don't be you (sorry but the you sucks) and start being the person you dreamed of. ACT AS IF / FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT / MOTION CREATES EMOTION ... until you become that hero.
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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
Then your insights would be false if you based them on an internet username. I made this name up years ago based on a Lottery commercial talking about "Instant Winners". I figured that most people actually lose, ergo the "Instant Loser" was born.A lot.
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terrible advice. i've had periods where the only thing holding me back from calling it a day was not wanting to upset my family. i wished no one cared so it'd be easy to slip away.
turning around a failure isn't as simple as acting a certain way or following role models. it's about problem solving. figuring out what's causing you to be fa and then finding the courage and resources to start forcing change. some things like genetics and upbringing need years of work. a lot of it is working hard as hell to figure yourself out and then being able enough to take opportunities if they come along. most of it is physiological.
turning around a failure isn't as simple as acting a certain way or following role models. it's about problem solving. figuring out what's causing you to be fa and then finding the courage and resources to start forcing change. some things like genetics and upbringing need years of work. a lot of it is working hard as hell to figure yourself out and then being able enough to take opportunities if they come along. most of it is physiological.
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Originally Posted By AhDo⏩
Good lord at you cope'rs.this is chitty advice. It's all useless motivation/self help nonsense.
You're not at your idol's level. Your body can't take the load that Arnold puts.
You want to emulate someone who is one step ahead of you, who has been in your shoes previously.
You're not Kobe Bryant (or Nate Robinson if you want someone with an average physique). An average chump would be better off modelling himself after a high school basketball star or college D2/D3 player
You're not at your idol's level. Your body can't take the load that Arnold puts.
You want to emulate someone who is one step ahead of you, who has been in your shoes previously.
You're not Kobe Bryant (or Nate Robinson if you want someone with an average physique). An average chump would be better off modelling himself after a high school basketball star or college D2/D3 player
There are hundreds of books written by hundreds of successful people that layout exactly how they went from point A to point B.
I'm not sure how you took what i posted to mean ... take your 120lb coping body into the gym, through 300lbs on the bench, and knock it out. Scratch that... i know exactly how you took it to mean that. Because you have this internal translator that puts a negative/backward spin on everything.
Back to my original post ... stop trying to prove to yourself that you're a piece of chit that can't make progress.
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Originally Posted By InstantLoser⏩
You're clearly stating to me that you focused on "the losers". With the first link the chain is forged...Then your insights would be false if you based them on an internet username. I made this name up years ago based on a Lottery commercial talking about "Instant Winners". I figured that most people actually lose, ergo the "Instant Loser" was born.
One of the things i've been doing lately is correcting myself anytime is use the word "try" on a personal level. Why? Because it implies failure.
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
Only thing i was saying in original post is that very few people care and stop operating on the basis that they do or should. So in a way i guess it's like sack up with my own twist on it.Ok, maybe he advice was so obvious that I got confused.
Here's another one. If you are not a lazy sack of shiet than you will be more successful than if you are a lazy sack of shiet.
The problem is stating the obvious doesn't. Get people to change. There are a lot of reasons why people are the way they are.
Essentially you are saying just sack up and push forward correct? Easy to say but everyone walks a different path.
Here's another one. If you are not a lazy sack of shiet than you will be more successful than if you are a lazy sack of shiet.
The problem is stating the obvious doesn't. Get people to change. There are a lot of reasons why people are the way they are.
Essentially you are saying just sack up and push forward correct? Easy to say but everyone walks a different path.
I'm not trying to be Mother Theresa with this thread. I'm just stating what I've seen in my own struggles with BS mindsets.
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Originally Posted By faxanadu⏩
Let's be real here, your advice is complete chit. "Just don't care about what other people think!" "just emulate your idols!" Don't get angry when people point out flaws in your "advice".Good lord at you cope'rs.
There are hundreds of books written by hundreds of successful people that layout exactly how they went from point A to point B.
I'm not sure how you took what i posted to mean ... take your 120lb coping body into the gym, through 300lbs on the bench, and knock it out. Scratch that... i know exactly how you took it to mean that. Because you have this internal translator that puts a negative/backward spin on everything.
Back to my original post ... stop trying to prove to yourself that you're a piece of chit that can't make progress.
There are hundreds of books written by hundreds of successful people that layout exactly how they went from point A to point B.
I'm not sure how you took what i posted to mean ... take your 120lb coping body into the gym, through 300lbs on the bench, and knock it out. Scratch that... i know exactly how you took it to mean that. Because you have this internal translator that puts a negative/backward spin on everything.
Back to my original post ... stop trying to prove to yourself that you're a piece of chit that can't make progress.
Personal development is not as simple as calories in calories out.
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