I have some knowledge of family law. The problem with this bloke's circumstances is that, there is zero intention to take responsibility on his part, and every right to push some blame onto the other person in question: specifically, the woman who has borne his child. The fact of the matter is, if you are responsible in part for the birth of a child, you have to be held responsible for subsequent future events *in regards* to that child. He could have taken steps to ensure that the woman in question didn't get pregnant. Unfortunately, due to his own poor thinking/planning, he is in this situation.

In regards to him "never seeing his child again", that is a matter of hearsay. Keep in mind, this is not a court report; merely some article. It may as well be a 'he said, she said' dialogue. The fact of the matter is, he was instrumental in the birth of a child. Hence, logic dictates that he should have culpability regarding the life of that child. Don't be emotional; be objective. There are consequences for every action, and this is but one of such.

In the same way that anyone would criticise a woman for not taking precautions regarding birth control (and later, complaining about raising a child), so should this man be given the same treatment. Be objective, folks.

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/par...80d998d7b848cf

I MET a girl on ******** in 2010 and we started chatting. I’m in NSW — she’s about 250kms away — I drove to see her one weekend, a couple of months later.

We went out on the Saturday night. She had keys to a friend’s place, who lived in the city, so we ended up back there.

I’d consumed a lot of alcohol. I actually wish I’d been done for DUI. I know I shouldn’t have driven, I wish I’d been pulled over for that.

I got up around lunchtime the following day and said, “Right I need to head home.”

I messaged her a few times but didn’t hear anything. I presumed she wasn’t interested in me.

Around 12 weeks later she sent me a message. I was at work. “We need to talk urgently,” she wrote.

I sat at my desk reading the words, my heart started fluttering and I just knew what she was going to say.

I went out of the office at lunchtime to call her. She picked up straight away.

“I’m pregnant,” she said.

“Right. How do you know it’s mine?” I asked.

“I don’t know it’s yours,” she replied.

“So, you didn’t know you were pregnant after four weeks or eight weeks but now at 12 weeks you decide to tell me?”

I felt like she’d planned it.

“You need to have a serious think about what you’re doing,” I said. “Think about the ramifications for both of us, long term.”

She hung up.

I didn’t hear anything from her until nine months after my son was born.

A man knocked at the door serving a court order for DNA for child support.

I was sitting at home watching TV with my then partner of nearly two years. She’d relocated to move in with me. We were happy.

I’d mentioned the phone call after my one-night stand and she’d shrugged it off saying, “What kind of woman would do that?”

This guy asked my name and said he was here to serve a court order.

I couldn’t believe it. “This lady is a complete fool …” I started to say.

He cut me off, “If you don’t sign, we’ll seize your assets.”

I signed.

My then partner and I sat on the couch stunned for about five hours. We couldn’t even find the words to talk.

I did the DNA test just before Christmas and had to stew on the results until January 20. The DNA cost me $2,000 plus I paid a lawyer, which cost around $5,000.

The Child Support Agency (CSA) then backdated the child support to the birth of my son. Just like that I was $12,000 out of pocket.

I was left reeling, worried sick, thinking, “How am I going to pay my mortgage and bills plus this?” It was an absolute nightmare.

In the end, I had to rent my place out.
My partner and I moved in with my parents.

I was struggling at work and ended up resigning. Life has been a complete disaster since. Actually, that’s an understatement. My mental health is in a bad way. I have no idea how it will hold up for the next 12 years while I have to pay this.

Why am I paying 100 per cent child support? I haven’t seen him once. A lawyer for the family court charges around $500 per hour. I don’t have that financial capacity. I’m left going round in circles thinking, “Why would somebody do this? What do I owe her?”

The government needs to recognise the impact this is having on men’s lives.
My partner packed up and left last year. Our split was amicable. We tried to make it work for four or five years but I had no money to be able to do anything.

We went from having our own place to living back with my parents and having no money at all.

The percentage of second relationships that fail because of child support issues dragging from previous relationships is huge.

I’m not surprised so many men give up. There’s something seriously wrong with this outdated system. It doesn’t work in modern society where many relationships don’t last. Let alone my situation. How is this right?
It’s affected my health. Sometimes I wonder if I might have PTSD. I’ve always been a fitness fanatic so thankfully I have that as a buffer. I exercise a lot and practise yoga, I don’t drink alcohol at all. I do everything I can to try to keep my mental health as strong as possible.

What about the poor blokes who don’t have that? Or don’t have parental support themselves?
There are over 20 men every week suiciding — and the government doesn’t think this is a national emergency? You’ve got to be kidding.
The CSA is costing people their houses, their jobs, their lives. It’s a complete farce.

I’ve given up.
I pay my child support and I hope one day my son comes looking for me.
I’ve lost all hope — in politics, in the system, in life.

I am married and want children. If my wife and I get conceive a child and then she goes out a cheats and I want a divorce I would end up screwed. I would most likely end up paying a massive amount of child support to a woman who cheated on me. How is that fair?
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soon to be vasectomy crew

Shouldn't have cheated, drunk drove, and took the chance of knocking up a random.

Lol at him.

Sucks for the kid though.

What does the fact that she cheated on you have to do with your obligation to continue supporting your children? Who should do that in your absence?

The only one I feel bad for is the kid.

Jesus man this thread cements why the legal system scares the **** out of me. I definitely would have never signed a damn thing when a random stranger comes to my door asking for my signature. I would definitely be giving him the contact information of my lawyer. Fuuuucckkk thaaaaat.

Always pull out crew.
With the same girl for 8 years crew.
Still haven't proposed crew.

The only one I feel bad for is the kid.

I should. But in the world today, she would likely end up with the child themajority of the timeand I would end up having to pay her for it.

I should. But in the world today, she would likely end up with the child the majority of the time and I would end up having to pay her for it.

Makes me feel lucky that I have two kids(different moms) and was forced to pay support on neither.

That's a bit premature, as there is no reason to assume that the mother is a deadbeat from the story.

One thing that we can all agree on is that any child is better off without a childish, irresponsible moron like the one in the story as a father.

Not true at all.

No you wouldn't. All you do is petition the court for a DNA test. It's a simple as that. If I'm not mistaken there is only been very few instances of men actually having to support children that were not biologically theirs and there was always some sort of extenuating circumstance in those cases.

Makes me feel lucky that I have two kids(different moms) and was forced to pay support on neither.

You're a shining example, *******bro.

So dumb that women can abort a child without the mans consent, but men cannot even have a "financial abortion" if they don't want the kid.

Securing her future with ~800 dollars a month? Gtfo. Also, she didn't know who the father was and it wasn't until she had the courts issue paternity tests did she find him.

still think rawdogging is cool misc?

I mean really his one fatal flaw was giving her his full name. Ofc he should've used a condom and not blow inside her, that goes without saying. But giving that rawdogged blown inside ONS sloot your full name is full retard status.

All of this right here.



If you fellas want to have a seat I will tell you my story. It's quick.

My sons mother used me to have a son, took about a week and a half for her to get pregnant.
She gave me the option to leave, sign papers but I would never see him ever.
I said no, fuk that......doesn't matter the reasons you used me, lets do it.
She stayed at home, i worked full time to pay the bills till he was 4-5?
She started seeing someone so it was a mutual move out of her house.
My son is 9 and I don't give a fuk what any misc'er thinks about my situation, my sons pretty fuking awesome and would not trade it for the world of the feelings and emotions involved with him and watching him grow up. Yeah, not the best environment but hes smart, and understands......


The guy in OP's story just sounds like a typical miscer, "h-hello, u-umm can I p-put penis in vagina with no rubber m'lady?" And expect nothing would ever happen.
I knew it was possible to get my sons mother prego, just didn't know she only wanted a child out of our relationship.

Drunk driving and cheating? bleh, sumbish is getting a symbolic sense of karma, sadly this child is paying more than the guy is.

You some sort of cuck bruh?

Having someone else raising YOUR son?

Brah many of these women see a child or two as a way for them to retire early. I know a pharmacist that makes 100k a year. He smashed a girl and got her pregnant... she had the baby and now he pays $40 000 a year to her for child support. She doesnt work anywhere just relaxes and sloots around. He barely sees the child.

Often times its better to fap then to stick your dick in random especially if you are a successful male....that 15-20 minutes of pleasure could literally turn your whole life upside down.