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post 1544573081 02-22-2018, 11:59 AM
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Please ask for help...

A lot of chit gets talked online, etc. but if you’re seriously depressed or down, please talk to someone or ask for help.

A 17-year-old kid from our gym took his life a month after accepting a full ride scholarship to play defensive end at Colorado State University. No one saw it coming, never saw the kid without a smile on his face and his parents were just great, supportive people...you just never know.

So many have the world at their finger tips and make a permanent decision on a temporary feeling.

If you’re down, just please ask for help.
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post 1544573161 02-22-2018, 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted By bobbydigitaloa⏩
A lot of chit gets talked online, etc. but if you’re seriously depressed or down, please talk to someone of ask for help.

A 17-year-old kid from our gym took his life a month after accepting a full ride scholarship to play defensive end at Colorado State University. No one saw it coming, never saw the kid without a smile on his face and his parents were just great, supportive people...you just never know.

So many have the world at their finger tips and make a permanent decision on a temporary feeling.

If you’re down, just please ask for help.
Amen, bro.
post 1544573391 02-22-2018, 12:02 PM
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What op said, and please don't turn to alcohol either
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Originally Posted By tvr123⏩
What op said, andplease don't turn to alcohol either
too late for me I guess
post 1544574031 02-22-2018, 12:07 PM
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Originally Posted By tvr123⏩
What op said, and please don't turn to alcohol either
This...it will just be a temporary fix
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post 1544574111 02-22-2018, 12:08 PM
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Originally Posted By bobbydigitaloa⏩
A lot of chit gets talked online, etc. but if you’re seriously depressed or down, please talk to someone or ask for help.

A 17-year-old kid from our gym took his life a month after accepting a full ride scholarship to play defensive end at Colorado State University. No one saw it coming, never saw the kid without a smile on his face and his parents were just great, supportive people...you just never know.

So many have the world at their finger tips and make a permanent decision on a temporary feeling.

If you’re down, just please ask for help.
Awfuk

Teenage years are so difficult. I sometimes think we should take middle school and throw out any attempt at teaching them school things and instead teach emotional and moral skills, how to deal with others in society, and mental and physical health. Not sure it would fix anything, though, since human frontal lobes aren't done developing under early 20s, and thus teenagers often act impulsively and harm themselves/others.
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post 1544574151 02-22-2018, 12:08 PM
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post 1544574181 02-22-2018, 12:08 PM
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If anyone is feeling down, feel free to PM me & we can discuss this together!

But for real, If you're depressed or whatever It's not good to keep it to yourself! even if you think you're strong enough and don't need anyone's help and so on, It really HELPS to talk about it!
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post 1544574381 02-22-2018, 12:10 PM
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To any depressed brahs reading this i was pretty depressed and suicidal but realised when you snap out of that state of mind you will see life can be very fun and enjoyable if you try
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Don't be afraid to post in this thread either:https://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showt...hp?t=174721631

No one has to go through it alone. There are people that will listen and talk through it. I, among others, have been there. It's a dark path. But you get to come back, you honestly do. You are so much more powerful than all of your issues put together.

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To any depressed brahs reading this i was pretty depressed and suicidal but realised when you snap out of that state of mind you will see life can be very fun and enjoyable if you try
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post 1544574591 02-22-2018, 12:12 PM
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post 1544575111 02-22-2018, 12:16 PM
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Originally Posted By shesprints⏩
Awfuk

Teenage years are so difficult. I sometimes think we should take middle school and throw out any attempt at teaching them school things and instead teach emotional and moral skills, how to deal with others in society, and mental and physical health. Not sure it would fix anything, though, since human frontal lobes aren't done developing under early 20s, and thus teenagers often act impulsively and harm themselves/others.
Wholeheartedly disagree. I learned more in middle school curriculum wise as opposed to high school. School things should be taught in middle school and real life skills should be taught in high school.
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Originally Posted By SerbianSickKant⏩
To any depressed brahs reading this i was pretty depressed and suicidal but realised when you snap out of that state of mind you will see life can be very fun and enjoyable if you try
Mirin hard dude. Way to turn it around and get into a better headspace - not that easy to shake it off when you're down, so props.
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post 1544575231 02-22-2018, 12:18 PM
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One of the guys in our hunting group who was a great kid (25) just ended his life. Same thing as OP. not only left us sad, mad...but so confused as to why? Never saw it comin.
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post 1544576591 02-22-2018, 12:30 PM
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I know I am going to get negged for this but I will post it anyway.

I always wondered about suicide, especially among the chronically depressed. If someone actually takes their own lives, they must have endured pure agony for a long time. So maybe to them death is better than living in misery. Yeah 17 is pretty young so it probably doesn't apply to what I am saying but if he was 27 and had been severely depressed for 10+ years, I don't think it fair to assume that he made a bad decision. Just a decision that they felt was right.

People will point out how it will negatively affect the ones around them - like family and friends but I think that is also a bad way of looking at things. Wouldn't it be selfish to have someone around even though all they want to do is die. It is definitely a complicated issue that no one really thinks about.
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Originally Posted By shesprints⏩
Awfuk

Teenage years are so difficult. I sometimes think we should take middle school and throw out any attempt at teaching them school things and instead teach emotional and moral skills, how to deal with others in society, and mental and physical health. Not sure it would fix anything, though, since human frontal lobes aren't done developing under early 20s, and thus teenagers often act impulsively and harm themselves/others.
Yes, my niece is 16 and the stuff she battles just guts me.

We have our numbers to all of the high school kids that train with us just an outlet. What seems to happen at time is they might be more willing to open up to us instead of their parents for whatever reason.

All of these loses are tragic but this kid was really one that lit hard; so sad.
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maybe he gave up right after watching you deadlift big weight
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Originally Posted By RICHSTRONG⏩
One of the guys in our hunting group who was a great kid (25) just ended his life. Same thing as OP. not only left us sad, mad...but so confused as to why? Never saw it comin.
The ripple left behind is so awful. His dad had gotten a job in CO, sold their home and moved there to get established so they could stay in CO for the 4 years he would be in school.

So many moving parts to these things and it’s like wtf do you do? Turn to robot mode so you can just get by until you’re able to wrap your mind around how to deal with the loss? I have no idea...

Sorry to hear about your loss, man.
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There’s always a way out, no matter how tough the life gets. It’s sad.
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Its always the same
At my fathers funeral everyone saying 'he always seemed so happy...'
Only the family knew the secret of his depression and that was only after the first failed suicide attempt


Take a good look at my face
You'll see my smile looks out of place
If you look closer its easy to trace
The tracks of my tears
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To cover this hurt with a show of gladness

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Originally Posted By bobbydigitaloa⏩
The ripple left behind is so awful. His dad had gotten a job in CO, sold their home and moved there to get established so they could stay in CO for the 4 years he would be in school.

So many moving parts to these things and it’s like wtf do you do? Turn to robot mode so you can just get by until you’re able to wrap your mind around how to deal with the loss? I have no idea...

Sorry to hear about your loss, man.
As someone who has lost an Uncle to suicide, my mother and cousin to brain cancer I can answer that. Yes, you become a robot until you can process the situation. You become numb to everything and just feel empty inside. It's gut wrenching almost. You feel so distant from people and emotionally detached. You want to cry at the thought of them no longer being, you want to smile/laugh at the memories you formed with them and you want to scream and yell in frustration. It truly numbs you to the core.
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Originally Posted By Meralus⏩
As someone who has lost an Uncle to suicide, my mother and cousin to brain cancer I can answer that. Yes, you become a robot until you can process the situation. You become numb to everything and just feel empty inside. It's gut wrenching almost. You feel so distant from people and emotionally detached. You want to cry at the thought of them no longer being, you want to smile/laugh at the memories you formed with them and you want to scream and yell in frustration. It truly numbs you to the core.
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I knew this chick. Came from a rich family, went to one of the most expensive high schools in the state, track star. Got a full ride to an Ivy university. Sent every member a gift in mail and then jumped off the top deck of the parking lot. I don’t know how people can do it and what drives them to do it.
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Originally Posted By bobbydigitaloa⏩
The ripple left behind is so awful. His dad had gotten a job in CO, sold their home and moved there to get established so they could stay in CO for the 4 years he would be in school.

So many moving parts to these things and it’s like wtf do you do? Turn to robot mode so you can just get by until you’re able to wrap your mind around how to deal with the loss? I have no idea...

Sorry to hear about your loss, man.
Originally Posted By melDorado⏩
Its always the same
At my fathers funeral everyone saying 'he always seemed so happy...'
Only the family knew the secret of his depression and that was only after the first failed suicide attempt


Take a good look at my face
You'll see my smile looks out of place
If you look closer its easy to trace
The tracks of my tears
...
Now if I appear to be carefree
It's only to camouflage my sadness
And honey to shield my pride I try
To cover this hurt with a show of gladness

Smokey and the Miracles
Originally Posted By Meralus⏩
As someone who has lost an Uncle to suicide, my mother and cousin to brain cancer I can answer that. Yes, you become a robot until you can process the situation. You become numb to everything and just feel empty inside. It's gut wrenching almost. You feel so distant from people and emotionally detached. You want to cry at the thought of them no longer being, you want to smile/laugh at the memories you formed with them and you want to scream and yell in frustration. It truly numbs you to the core.
Anymore, i don't even try to process these things. Other than 'this is life' BS. Christ, you'll go crazy trying to understand why good people die or take their lives and yet scum still gets to walk and take up oxygen. To all the above, who lost someone...just know we are all in the same 'WTF' fraternity to which we'll never get the answers. One main reason i believe in the afterlife is hoping that when we kick it, we may get those answers. Until then, we just (using Misc's favorite term) COPE.
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Originally Posted By Meralus⏩
As someone who has lost an Uncle to suicide, my mother and cousin to brain cancer I can answer that. Yes, you become a robot until you can process the situation. You become numb to everything and just feel empty inside. It's gut wrenching almost. You feel so distant from people and emotionally detached. You want to cry at the thought of them no longer being, you want to smile/laugh at the memories you formed with them and you want to scream and yell in frustration. It truly numbs you to the core.
Fuk...that's tough to read. I'm sorry, dude.
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Middle school days...We had a computer class that everyone had to take. The teacher was awesome, you would never know he would take his life. Obviously the story got around the school. A couple years later I had a coworker chick that invited me to a party. It was only like 10 people there, having beers BS’ing around. 5 chicks, 5 guys. This one kid was pretty cool. Next day at work the chick told me that he found his father hanging in the basement, then said the last name, and that was my computer teacher. I had a frozen face the whole day.
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