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post 1546851571 03-19-2018, 03:40 PM
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Originally Posted By mikieson⏩
why? things happen. life happens. people do lose their sex drive. just a part of life man..i cant afford 50-60$ for a single pill. lol.
Viagra doesn't help libido. It only helps you get an erection if you're already turned on.

I assume you still hit the gym.

Have you had your hormone levels checked?

Have you looked into possible depression?

Has your wife become unattractive in some way?
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post 1546851651 03-19-2018, 03:42 PM
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
This assumes that sex is not pleasurable in its own right...doesnโ€™t it?
Sex is supposed to be pleasurable??! Holy phuck, all this time ...


Apparently some high percentage of women find eating chocolate more pleasurable then sex, or cuddling their kids, or various other things.

Maybe that because 75-80% of them can't come from penetrative sex while 95% of men think they can lol.
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The whole point of marriage is to raise kids. Blows my mind that people get married when they don't plan on having kids.
post 1546852651 03-19-2018, 03:51 PM
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Originally Posted By likeawashboard⏩
The whole point of marriage is to raise kids. Blows my mind that people get married when they don't plan on having kids.
Not everybody wants kids tho
post 1546856811 03-19-2018, 04:44 PM
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Originally Posted By likeawashboard⏩
The whole point of marriage is to raise kids. Blows my mind that people get married when they don't plan on having kids.
lol you can't be serious right?
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post 1546860761 03-19-2018, 05:26 PM
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Originally Posted By CoolKnees⏩
At some point you realize its easier to just jerk off for 5 minutes than have sex.
This.
post 1546887911 03-19-2018, 10:55 PM
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
May I ask how old you are? And is your weight , fitness, life in balance?
46.. Typical American overweight fighting depression. I do bike ride for fun and fitness and to help with depression.
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post 1546888061 03-19-2018, 10:58 PM
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Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
Viagra doesn't help libido. It only helps you get an erection if you're already turned on.

I assume you still hit the gym.

Have you had your hormone levels checked?

Have you looked into possible depression?

Has your wife become unattractive in some way?
I do have depression. I don't workout. The pain in my shoulders down into my triceps is unbearable.i ride bikes. Hormone levels not sure if I've had them checked. Seems I have but can't remember.
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post 1546888101 03-19-2018, 10:59 PM
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Only? I have sex 0 times every 30 years.
post 1546888821 03-19-2018, 11:14 PM
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Just had sex with the gf for the first time in a month.. except I'm the one that hasn't been about it.

1.5 years into the relationship. She's a driven, intelligent, objectively attractive girl. And she she's damn good at lifting.

I've lost a lot of attraction to her and I hope we can fix things. We decided to try an open relationship (lol) and I hooked up with another girl and we ****ed like rabbits. Hoping last night brought some of our chemistry back.
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post 1546888881 03-19-2018, 11:15 PM
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Gets worse with kids... Especially newborns would smash right now, but little dude screeching all through it really kills the mood.
post 1546888981 03-19-2018, 11:18 PM
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post 1546889101 03-19-2018, 11:23 PM
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Is it true if you donโ€™t use it you lose it? Srs question
post 1546889241 03-19-2018, 11:26 PM
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I always wonder if this kind of thing will happen to me if I ever get in a relationship. I'd like to hope that I'd always be in the mood to please my boyfriend/husband's sexual needs, even oral sex.

But I think slowdown is probably normal as the libido may start slowing down as you get older.
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post 1546889751 03-19-2018, 11:37 PM
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Itโ€™s inevitable bro, frequency will decline.

Itโ€™s ones responsibility to keep things interesting. Keep up with appearance dress up/stay in shape, communicate and be receptive... if these 3 things arenโ€™t enough, then you should re-evaluate your current relationship.
post 1546889951 03-19-2018, 11:41 PM
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Originally Posted By mikieson⏩
46.. Typical American overweight fighting depression. I do bike ride for fun and fitness and to help with depression.
Originally Posted By mikieson⏩
I do have depression. I don't workout. The pain in my shoulders down into my triceps is unbearable.i ride bikes. Hormone levels not sure if I've had them checked. Seems I have but can't remember.
Youโ€™re far too young to have accepted the complete death of your sex drive as normal

Are you in treatment for depression or looking to improve your weight /fitness? If not do you have the impetus to start

Both depression and being fat and unfit can be responsible and a decreasing Test or issues with your hormonal profile can be symptomatic rather than causal
post 1546890011 03-19-2018, 11:43 PM
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Originally Posted By SazabiBrah⏩
Is it true if you donโ€™t use it you lose it? Srs question
For women yes, the less fulfilling sex they have, the less they want

For men I donโ€™t believe itโ€™s quite the same triggers

But losing it, isnโ€™t permanent
Originally Posted By BloodFlame91⏩
I always wonder if this kind of thing will happen to me if I ever get in a relationship. I'd like to hope that I'd always be in the mood to please my boyfriend/husband's sexual needs, even oral sex.

But I think slowdown is probably normal as the libido may start slowing down as you get older.
Pretty sure this is a troll account ..but LOLed at โ€œeven oral sexโ€

You wonโ€™t always be in the mood, itโ€™s not always about mood
Originally Posted By ApolloVilla⏩
Itโ€™s inevitable bro, frequency will decline.

Itโ€™s ones responsibility to keep things interesting. Keep up with appearance dress up/stay in shape, communicate and be receptive... if these 3 things arenโ€™t enough, then you should re-evaluate your current relationship.
These are all internal how you treat your partner is equally important
post 1546890131 03-19-2018, 11:47 PM
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Originally Posted By canonhope⏩
This. Also, libido fluctuates for each person and not always on the same schedule.
probably the worst when libidoes dont match up. blue balling and blue ovarying each other sucks
post 1546890841 03-20-2018, 12:05 AM
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In my experience, when the sex dies the relationship is dead. It might not have ended, but it's dead. You just don't always realize it right away.

A friend told me he wentyears. I wouldn't believe it, but he was so embarrassed he was on verge of tears when he told me. He told me that shortly after the divorce began. Felt bad he wouldn't confide that to me while he was struggling in the marraige.
post 1546890991 03-20-2018, 12:11 AM
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Originally Posted By mikieson⏩
I do have depression. I don't workout. The pain in my shoulders down into my triceps is unbearable.i ride bikes. Hormone levels not sure if I've had them checked. Seems I have but can't remember.
you should get yourself a side piece and a little fire in life before its done.
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post 1546894421 03-20-2018, 02:10 AM
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Originally Posted By Syko617⏩
is all about communication brahs.
any time I've communicated lack of sex in my relationship my girlfriend thinks I'm whining, but she "listens".
Originally Posted By leoslayer1⏩
If there is a decrease in frequency in a LTR then 85 to 90% of the time it's the guy's fault.

It's plain and simple.
explain. Shouldn't both me making the effort.
Originally Posted By UglyLoser⏩
It probably is. Dead bedrooms are more common than you think. Most people in a relationship are miserable.
Yup. Only person I've talked to in a long term relationship says he has sex once a week.
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Originally Posted By jafomofo⏩
you should get yourself a side piece and a little fire in life before its done.
I'm all about an open relationship.. but most girls aren't because they get so attached and like to mark their territory.
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post 1546905501 03-20-2018, 07:24 AM
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brb going to Finland in 3 weeks and already have 2 girls lined up. Couldn't imagine being tied down and not ever experiencing new girls/pussy
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Originally Posted By DesiredUser****⏩
brb going to Finland in 3 weeks and already have 2 girls lined up. Couldn't imagine being tied down and not ever experiencing new girls/pussy
seriously dude and being an American, I'm dying to experience girls from other cultures around the world
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Originally Posted By ssilv⏩
seriously dude and being an American, I'm dying to experience girls from other cultures around the world
There's nothing quite like landing in a new country and meeting up with a sexy, local chick. Get out there brah!
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
Not everybody wants kids tho
Exactly, so less reason to tie your relationship to a government contract.
Originally Posted By chino3⏩
lol you can't be serious right?
Feel free to elaborate..
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Originally Posted By ssilv⏩
Had a brah tell me the other day he's been dating this girl for 4 years and they only have sex 1-3 times per month now. This is why marriage sounds like a trap (srs).
dont get married
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Originally Posted By likeawashboard⏩
Exactly, so less reason to tie your relationship to a government contract.



Feel free to elaborate..
I like belonging to him
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
I like belonging to him
You need an entire government to be submissive and subservient? To each their own.
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If there is a drastic change without marriage or children involved and its already down to 1-4 times a month from what I assume originally was way higher, once other life stressors like mortgage, children, marriage and etc start getting involved its just going to make it even harder for that person to find the time or maybe necessity for sex. I'm sure whatever statistics with these mentioned studies in this thread, there were children, debt, or other things involved in those people lives.
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