Look more approachable dude.

If you saw him approaching other women then yeah he's probably not interested.

Has he?

Why are you assuming every guy approaches every single woman he finds attractive?

lmfao then wtf is this retarded chit?

One thing I’ve learned in life is that everyone, no matter how reasonable or balanced they may appear, has some irrational beliefs/things they cling onto. Myself included. And it’s really difficult to drop them.

Just start a conversation with him and just ask him questions about himself.

If he doesn't understand you're interested in him by then then he's either really not interested or he's autistic. It's always good to do something new. You might be surprised.Ehh good point.

Glad I started reading this thread backwards - no offense, OP, I'm typically interested in threads that you create and am sad to see them deleted at some point, but let's look at this:So 6 feet (183 cm) height is a manlet now?

Furthermore, silencespeaks, you're not understanding that it is not simply up to men to be attracted toyou- I'm speaking as someone who has successfully (cold) approached and had sex with dozens of women before I got married. If a man is sensitive to a woman's cue, it's easy as hell to tell if she's at all interested. That you think the cue is not necessary at all and that men should just 'put themselves out there' is delusional, and I'm saying this as someone who has had alotof experience on this. Not from the incel angle which sometimes comes up in threads like this.

Either way, yeesh. So glad I'm happily married, srs.

i honestly rather have no matches than the fat bitches im constantly getting. its gotten to the point that anytime I match a girl higher or equal to a 6 im convinced shes a robot if she responds more than twice

The ones who don't try are sulking in attention from several men so just pass on those. The ones that give effort, you should give effort too. Sounds like you doing this.All you gotta do is ask her out Lucy6' is manlet?? Tough crowd, geeeez.

You need to make yourself more vulnerable and make your intentions more clear with him. He could just be super shy or maybe even has a gf. You do claim Stacy status, that chit is intimidating.

Seconded. You have nothing to lose.

So right when I was about to delete Hinge and CMB this guy asked for my number. He has the same music taste as me, moderate, likes shooting, and.......is a cop. Anyone here ever dated a cop before?

You should be more assertive. Being shy doesn't get anyone any where. Step out of your comfort zone.

First time I ever heard someone say that to a woman. Women generally refuse to ask men out, so it’s the men that get screwed over if they don’t want to ask a woman out. Women just have to wait for a guy to ask them out without doing anything.

I hate to say this but a lot of men are just shy and wimpy these days. It seems like women have to be assertive in some situations. Not 1 older woman in my family ever asked her man out. They smiled at the juke joint and a man courted her. It was the man. Now that we have social media, men (and women) are now socially autistic and gets nervous around people. It's legit a joke that a grown man can't ask a woman out like his great grand dad did.
Rant over.

See growing up my family has always said that women should never be aggressive around men and never ask a man out because it's slutty. I always sat back and waited on a guy until around 19 or 20. Since some men are wimpy these days it's now a female's job to assertive interest in a guy. If I continued to wait on a guy I'd still be a virgin. That's just how it is these days.

Lol you underestimate how retarded us guys are and how bad we are at picking up even the most obvious signs of interest. Not that i would call what you did a sign of interest as someone above said if a guy came on misc and made a thread saying girl asked me if i was done using this machine hehe i know she wants the D...everyone would be making fun of him.

You need to understand that with todays metoo climate and everything being creepy its very hard for us guys to make a move because we dont want to bother the girl or creep her out. Imagine the horror of you posting a twitter msg saying i was just trying to work out and this creep hit on me..**** like that goes through our heads because it has been in the news before.

Add to the fact that most gymcels dont have good social skills and i think your only chance of getting with that guy is to be direct w him. What you got to lose lol

Maybe, just maybe, many of them don't want to get #metoo'ed in an era where an unwanted compliment directed at a co-worker is now cause to get you hauled before an HR inquest.

Instead of playing the game by rules they don't know, many men have opted not to play at all.

Case in point... the miscer who made a thread a few days ago about complimenting a woman he works with and being reprimanded for it by his boss after she went to HR and complained.

Much of the behavior common in your grandfather's day is now likely to get a man's career ruined.^ Wizard.

So, it's better to be forever alone than make any effort whatsoever?

This is LITERALLY what rotters on here get called out for on a daily basis.

There are lots of reasons why a guy who is into you won't approach you and not all of them are character flaws.

You have to understand though that back then it was different times. Back then you could start a conversation joke with a girl even playfully touch her and it was not a big deal. Now if you talk/touch a girl you are "invading" her privacy or god forbid you touch her anywhere near her ass / back area and you may be looking at sexual assault case and jail time. Sure guys are to blame too because of so much porn watching and social anxiety but its definitely alot harder for guys to approach now then it used to be back in the day.


I swear every time i am at a gym and a thought crosses my mind of asking a girl out i picture her going home and posting on twitter / instagram to her thousands of followers how she was just trying to workout and she couldnt do that because some creep was hitting on her.

Then you have videos like this that get 47 million views



where guys say

How you doing today
Whats up beautiful
Have a good day
Hey whats up girl how you doing

ETC ETC and somehow she is offended/annoyed by all that and then you wonder why all the guys are scared to talk to girls. This **** went viral and all the girls were backing her up and now some of those same girls wonder why guys dont approach.

Btw she walked for 10 hours which is 600 minutes and she got 2 minuts of footage and is making it seem like its so hard being a women and being hit on. Come on someone start a conversation for 2 minutes out of 600 minutes and shes complaining i bet if i walked in NY for 600 minutes i would have more then 2 minutes of footage of people trying to talk to me.

Try talking about something not workout related to really figure it out. When a woman approaches me in the gym for a spot or something workout related, I contextualize it simply as that and nothing more. I understand your point that if he were interested he would approach you regardless, but from my conversations with women who are serious about lifting many of themhatebeing approached in the gym and perhaps he is operating on that assumption - something akin to extending respect.

Those girls are wimpy too. I don't complain when construction worker down the street cat calls me, cause I know in 50 years I'll be old. I honestly appreciate it. There are some women that doesn't buy into that me too chit. Surround yourselves with women like that.

Let me tell you a recent story relevant to this thread. I matched with a decent looking girl, and she had a thing in her profile telling guys not to approach her in the gym. I asked her about it and she said she had to leave 2 gym locations apparently because guys would hit on her. I don't know the full details, but all I know is that some of them just said Hi and it was awkward.

So do you think that story is gonna encourage guys to approach women in the gym? Actually it doesn't change my mindset since it's just one girl (and the guys may well have been creepy), but still - it was right there on her profile.

As others said some men are too scared to approach nowadays due to worrying about what will happen. Some guys have social anxiety which makes it difficult, some are legit worried about the metoo situation, some don’t have a big enough social circle to meet anyone easily, some don’t have a good enough job for a woman to want to be with them for a serious relationship, among other reasons. Even SuperMan himself said he’s worried about what will happen if he hits on a woman. The social media thing goes both ways too though if you want to be fair. Social media has caused a lot of women to expect a lot out of a guy. That average girl getting matches with good looking guys that are likely just looking for a quick lay thinks that’s her level & than refuses to date guys on her own level. Than the whole “instagram model” stuff where these women post slooty photos & pretend they’re actually models. It’s caused a lot of women to develop massive egos due to all the attention they get. It’s very difficult these days in dating to find someone you actually want to be with due to the much different circumstances today compared to back in the day.

That girl is lucky to have a guy say hi to her. I've had 2 guys say "hi" to me my entire time of working out and they were guys I knew from school that had gfs. LOL at my gender sometimes. I'm going to guess she's an entitled cardio bunny...

She acted like she hated the fact guys approached her. lol