That should go without saying, but you seem not have guessed that: humand are prideful beings!!!!!!!!! Especially when they shouldnt be, because humans are the weirdest thing (or because we are too stupid)...

Its humiliating for some (a lot) people to come around to admit "I need no contanct because you affect my emotional health", so they take the easy route. As simple as that.


OP, regardless of you getting back together or not, start a new hobby (like cooking lessons or woodwork??) to aply your energy and let this wave of sadness and resentment pass, otherwise you'll get into a depression. If and when you think you're ready stop trying to rationalize everything you both did, because our minds aren't equations. We may know why people did something or acted that way, but not everything, because even who did it may not know why. But at least learn with what happened (to identify when YOU are in love) so you don't come back to this place later in life. And forgive her and yourself, so you wont get jaded too and ruin your next relationships with the baggage of this one.

True but that's the ideal advice. We're both at the point where attempting to reach out to them in any way is futile and will only push them away more, therefore there's no point in devoting any more mental energy towards it.

you doddged a bullet brah.....its a shame you had to out yourself as a bitch trying to get her back...so weak



btw if you are rellly 32 and dating chicks in college its time to grow up

Not much of an update, but I fail at NC fellas.

Our anniversary was last month, so as a symbolic gesture, I shot her a ******** friend request. Unlike the Instagram follow in May, she didn't delete and block this time. But didn't accept either. Just let it hang. Nothing but silence on her end.

She's not very active on social media, but she updates a couple times a month. No pictures or interactions with Vladicuck whatsoever since May. He also stopped updating his page. Seems like something might've happened.

So it's just a hunch, but maybe he's not even in Ireland anymore. Perhaps Emperor Putin summoned our dear Comrade Chadimir back to the motherland. Either that, or his Ireland visa expired and he couldn't get it renewed. I suppose they could've split too, but I doubt it. The mom was just raving about him a few months ago, saying how perfect he was.

I know what you're gonna say Misc. I'm not doing myself any favors here. Should've just moved on and never looked back. I hate that I'm still thinking about her, but in my defense, I have moved on to a certain degree... I've dated 4 girls since February. Yet none of them compare. I'm still thinking this was the one that got away, brahs.

How much self respect you have left in the tank buddy?

Ready to take her back after another mans had his fill?


The **** is going on around here.

for you kids who wonder why divorce is at such a high rate - it's cause men ignore the million red flags that were all over the op and still decide to pursue a woman

May 1, 2018:



September 28, 2018:


You're still in denial. She blocked you in May to stop you from cyber-stalking her. Vlad probably went radio silent then for the same reason. Now it's 5 months later and you're trying to re-initiate contact. "Olive branch" then....."symbolic gesture" on your (ex!) anniversary now.....please. Now you're fantasizing maybe Vlad left the country, broke up with your Ex, and she wears a chastity belt.

Yet, back in February:


^Rite.

9 months is a long time, Bro. Shake it off. BTW, props to the ex, this bish knows how to do NC. (PS, it's super easy when you have better things to do.)

The friendship was more important than the romance. I would like to repair the relationship at some point, if possible.

Are you sure it was just the friendship and not the romantic feelings that accompanied it? Imagine yourself hanging out with her, her guy shows up and cuddles her, kisses her and they leave early together to have sex. How would you feel? If you'd be perfectly fine with that, then go and establish a friendship.

kinda in ur situation atm

can't imagine how you must feel bro

my gf wants to marry but we're too young for that chit and we both have to go to school. I don't wanna lose her and she doesn't wanna lose me

but you never know .. we both might find someone else and that kinda scares me

but whatever

So I had an amazing relationship with a girl, and for three years it was perfect. The honeymoon phase went on for years. She was completely dedicated to me. The only problem was that she wanted to get married and have kids, and I didn't. I mentioned my feelings a few times, but we usually didn't talk about it and just enjoyed each other's company. We never fought and almost never argued.

Things started to sour in the fourth year, and she became more and more distant. Yet she rarely talked about her feelings. I couldn't seem to fix things. Then, after she graduated from college, she decided to study abroad for a year and get her Masters. I was very surprised by her decision. Due to the circumstances, we decided to go on a break, create a little space, casually date other people, and then get back together when she returned. You can see where this is going. Well, instead she met some Russian cuck that worshiped the ground she walked on. He was ready to marry her on day one. In fact, he was already divorced and had 2 kids back in Russia. She casually dated him for a year, delaying her return to the US because she had a teaching job there and she was busy applying to grad schools for her PhD. She always insisted that her relationship with this guy wasn't serious, and she was still affectionate to me.

To make a long story short, she finally came home for Christmas after 1.5 years of being my lovey-dovey best friend. But then, out of the blue, she refused to talk to me or see me. Finally allowed me one phone call and said it was over, she was marrying the Russian guy, and we were done. She insisted the decision was final, and she couldn't talk to me anymore. Completely blindsided me. Afterwards, I told her I needed to talk about things more, but she ignored all my calls and messages.

So I ended up losing the love of my life. Once the initial shock settled and the crippling realization set in, I freaked out and tried to propose. I told her she meant everything to me, that we could get married and work out all our problems. And I meant it. But that only seemed to make her angrier and she has blocked me on all social media since.

In the end, I am absolutely devastated, and losing her made me realize how much I truly did love her. It is the biggest kick in the balls one can imagine. I am completely filled with regret. I feel like I let "The One" get away. Yet I didn't actually want to marry and have kids. I was willing to make the sacrifice in the end, but I still felt unsure about signing my life away to fatherhood. On the other hand, given the choice of losing her forever or compromising, I was more than willing to compromise. But sadly, it was too little, too late.

So Misc, did I dun goof, or did I dodge a bullet in the end?

CLIFFS

-Dated girlfriend for 4 years
-She wanted to marry and have kids, I didn't
-She went to study abroad for one year
-We went on break but planned to get back together
-She met somebody else, casually dated, said it wouldn't last
-She came home for Xmas, I expected to see her
-Without warning, she tore my heart out and set it on fire

Can't post pics, please don't neg a bro when he's down. Thanks bruhs

I remember you brah.

You're still thinking about her. Gotta let it go. Easier said than done, I know. But this fantasy you have of winning her back or even being friends is never going to come to fruition. You don't need her friendship. She's dead to you. There was a time before you met her, and there will be a time after she is forgotten. You clearly aren't over her, but you will be one day. It just takes time. Sometimes, it takes months, sometimes years. But eventually, you will get over her. And you should. Because you don't want Chadimir's sloppy seconds.

If it's what is in your heart then maybe you should act on it. I'm sure you know the consequences and the risks you are taking by now, and if it's worth it to you, then you probably should go for it. Things of value take work and effort to get and often are risky. Even if it doesn't work, at least you'll know.

Definitely a copy and paste because I read the last year or 2 years ago. Can’t remember exactly. But I know for a fact I read this before on here.

As usual with the misc, 90% of the posts here are borderline retarded.

He didn't want kids. What the **** is he meant to do? Make a baby to please his girlfriend? ****ing hell.

The marriage thing is a bit more of a compromise. It's possible to "come around" to the idea of marriage.

But in the end please don't be one of these "she was the one" people. There's billions of girls in the world, no-one stumbles across their soulmate next door. You just happened to find one of thousands (if not millions) of girls who will make you just as happy.

You had conflicting values on kids/marriage. You did the right thing by breaking up.

Surprised to see this disneyworld "You get the one go brah" bull**** from miscers. Then again... it's the misc isnt it.

No easier way to get over someone than meet them a few years down the track after you've done seen some things and done some maturing only to find out they haven't.

for you kids who wonder why divorce is at such a high rate - it's cause men ignore the million red flags that were all over the OP and still decide to pursue a woman

No easier way to get over someone than meet them a few years down the track after you've done seen some things and done some maturing only to find out they haven't.

remind me in 3years

lmao, guys like OP are not men, they're the lower tier of cannon fodder, beta providers with little to no value

I know this is the Misc, and unfortunately I've been acting beta as fuk in this particular situation, but with all due respect, fuk you buddy.

I DO have value. I'm no Chad, but I'm good looking, athletic, have a nice body, great personality, intelligent, I perform and write music, I engage in creative writing, I'm adventurous and travel frequently, I have diverse hobbies. I'm an interesting person. And by the way, this isn't some used car salesman chit right here. I don't blow girls away at first glance, but I'm unique and girls get to know me and they fall for me. I've inadvertently broken a lot of hearts over the years, which is why I feel like this is probably karma, and life has finally caught up to me. What goes around comes around boyos.

Ironically, the one thing I'm not is a provider. I don't make a lot of money. So girls have to fall for me for reasons other than money. And they usually do. But I had never truly fallen for somebody else before. Until now.

So in conclusion

Life is weird, life is strange

CLIFFS

-Dated girlfriend for 4 years
-She wanted to marry and have kids, I didn't
-She went to study abroad for one year
-We went on break but planned to get back together
-She met somebody else, casually dated, said it wouldn't last
-She came home for Xmas, I expected to see her
-Without warning, she tore my heart out and set it on fire




lmao, you know she banged like 30 different men while she studied abroad, right?

Why do you think everything changed after she came back. She sampled many different cawks. Some bigger, some smaller, some thicker, some curved that hit just the right spot that yours doesnt. She decided she couldnt stay with you for the rest of her life after being pleasured by superior men so many times. If she half way liked you, she would have atleast used use as a beta provider while shes cheats on you but it wasnt even worth it for that. So many cawks in this world she still wants to ride.