Same boat as you


But its not always fear per say. Its the fact that youre disappointing your father by your actions which does more to straighten you out than some low IQ frustrated parent smacking their kids.

Its called respect, when you respect your parents you dont want to disappoint them hence you dont act out

in 2018 it is.

I spank my child. Did tonight, actually. I don't spank her nearly as often as I was spanked but I also don't think she is quite the little **** I was at her age lol. It's my last resort as a disciplinary tool, but I refuse to take it out of the arsenal.

I took some nice beatings as a kid and I swear I deserved every one and never wondered if my parents loved me.

Yup you worded it better than me. Not easy to teach them respect without fear though so many parents resort to hitting their kids.

you'd really have to be some kind of monster to physically harm a defenseless child

spanking and hitting your kids is an admission that you failed as a parent and you teach the child that the way to solve conflict is through harming others to get what you want

nobody gives a fuk about your anecdotal evidence about how you were abused and how much you needed it. we're not hearing from the anecdotal evidence of all the people that were abused and have gone onto make up the vast majority of the prison population or dead drug addicts

[QUOTE=BetaAsPhuck post_id=1565468821]Do you think you might want to do it out of revenge? ("I got whooped, so I'm going to whoop my kids. Why should they be treated better than I was?")

Did your parents generally talk to each other with empathy and respect?

Did you parent generally talk to you with empathy and respect?

I'm a big fan of Lenon Honor on youtube, and he talks a lot about the habitual abuse within African-American families (same is true in British-Jamaican families IME). From they way they talk to each other, to 'whoopings'.

[b]I highly recommend watching this video, before you make up your mind regarding how you treat your children...[/b]

[youtube]f8U0gr2Hzog[youtube]

[URL=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8U0gr2Hzog]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8U0gr2Hzog[/URL][/QUOTE]I grew up in a stable home and parents mainly my mama only got physical when I was way out of line. Kids simply need to have that fear in them to keep from doing stupid stuff. It was good enough for me and I turned out fine I guess. Long vid will check out parts of it.

[QUOTE=Evil_D post_id=1565470811]Serious question.
How much of an effect does thinking like this have on the prevalence of violence in the black community in general?[/QUOTE]Hell should I know I’m not a statistician. But it’s kept me in a straight path srs. Could be the reason I abstained from alcohol, hard drugs etc. I did only see positives.

Do not make your children afraid of you, make them afraid of what will happen if they do not listen to you (which is different)
As not to let them watch TV / PC / phone for X time - much more effective than spanking. The relationship between a father and his son will never be the same with violence and without violence
you will not be open in the same way with a person who beat you, sorry.

I don't think it's necessary to make your child afraid of you. There's got to be better ways of parenting than applying physical force. It is probably harmless in most cases but there are risks.
Lol at people thinking a lack of spankings will automatically produce a spoiled, manner-less kid.

The slave masters taught your ancestors well. It's good to know they are carrying on the tradition.

Well, miscers are known to be the absolute pinnacle of society so I'm glad there's a bunch of them who got beat as a kid to proclaim how they turned out great now. Misc>studies right?

I’m an African African came to America over a decade ago. What’s your argument now?

Can confirm, got whooped several times as a kid and not open with my parents about my life. TBH it sucks ass.

life is hard. if you insulate your kids from pain, theyll be little docile bitches and get ****ed up by bad people later. youre gonna have to hit or slap them, maybe not in public but if you dont youll regret it later when theyre sissies

I know this feel so much. So true.

Wow great advice man

Let me go beat my kids and show them the true fear of the world

Age : 21

Status: prefrontal cortext not finished developing

Yes, because only the top 1% wealthy whites in America enslaved Africans. Never mind that Africans used to enslave eachother. Don’t get me started on how the Muslims enslaved your people which actually continues to this day (Thanks Obama/Hillary).

Good old liberal education.

After reading the comments, I feel the need to clarify that when I spank my child, I'm not harming her and beating her senseless. Just an open hand to the butt a few times. I also always follow up and make sure she understands the reasoning and let her know that I love her and use spanking as a teaching tool, not just because I'm mad. This is something my parents always did as well. I'm definitely not an advocate for smacking your kids around just because they made you mad.

Your daughter is going to develop a butt spanking fetish when she grows up. Whenever someone is balls deep, hitting it from behind she will yell “spank me harder daddy!”. Thanks to you. Great parenting skills, dad.

My son is in middle school now. I spanked him 5 times in his life. The first time was a smack on the leg because he was whining about being in the car seat as a baby. I gave him something to whine about. I called it snapping into reality because whining about the car seat was 1st world problems. No problems with the car seat after that.

2nd time when he was 3 yrs old we were in a quiet setting and he wouldn't stop fidgeting. Gave him 3 warnings. He thought he wasn't going to get in trouble because there were so many people. I picked him up and took him out to the parking lot, pulled his pants down in front of the crowd and swatted him on the butt, pulled his pants back on. Let him cry it out and took him back in. worked like a charm.

3rd time he was 5, argued with mom and hit her on the arm. I took him by the hand to my bedroom and closed the door. Spanked him hard with 2 hard swats to the leg and said, "don't you EVER hit your mom again." never again.

4th at age 8 he disrespected his karate instructor's grandmother (she was also a black belt and punished him in her own way).

5th was 3 months ago. He had a habit of always giving himself a face-palm for a few years when he wasn't able to figure something out or he would get something wrong or couldn't do 100 multiplication problems in a certain amount of time. This bothered me and wife and we always told him to not do that and told him about trying your best and not being too hard on yourself. He's starting to get that adolescent attitude, not a lot but it's showing itself. He face palmed himself because he couldn't figure out how to get a good sound out of his saxophone. I slapped him hard twice and said, "You like getting slapped? I'll slap your ass since you like it so much". i let him cry it off. Been two months and no face palms, and he got his sax to sound right.

We mostly talk it out though because he's a pretty good kid. I was whipped with brushes, shoes, belts, switches, etc. crazy times back then lol I have not seen any good public spankings like the ones that existed when I was a kid.

edit: i don't believe in senseless hitting your kids just because you're angry. My parents did that and I am doing better than them in my own child-rearing. The spankings I give don't even come close to what happened with me and my brother. I couldn't go to school one day because of bruises, and had to wear a turtle neck the next day to cover my arms and neck in the spring AND mom personally took me to school and made me apologize to my teacher for disrupting class in front of my classmates.

There was a time when almost all parents spanked their kids. We didn't have school shootings or any of the kind of crap that is going on now.

If spanking causes so many problems, then explain why the least spanked generation is the worse.

Possibly the best use of this I’ve ever seen.

correlation doesn't equal causation

whats more likely, is the people with good genetics that will produce a calm obedient child in an upper middle class house, don't ever need to spank their child, because the kid isn't a brat

Are they really worse though? Culture has changed so much, how can you blame school shootings on whether the shooter was spanked or not especially if you don't know which shooters were spanked or not lol.

Surely it has nothing to do with bad parenting, the welfare system, having children out of wedlock, culture produced in media, being around other decadent children in school, being raised by incompetent women who aren’t fit to teach and supervise children in schools, social media...

Nah, it has to be spanking. Spanking is the answer to world peace.

I've spanked my kids in the past, and it is abuse and I 100% regret spanking them. I urge you to never spank your kid, and cease if you currently do.

Have a heart-to-heart and ask them how it makes them feel. Hearing their thoughts was enough to make me stop.

kids that didn't get spanked as kids are the same motherfukers in todays society that think they can just do and say and act however they want at spew whatever sjw **** in public they want that actually believe that there are no consequences (such as an ass beating) from it.

"Within a few minutes, children are often back to their original behavior. It certainly doesn’t teach children self-regulation," Sege told NBC News.

That happens whatever discipline or teaching method you use. Bringing up children is about endless tedious repetition. If children learned things the first time we taught them, they'd be moving out of home at four years old.

My friends toddler threw a fit and decked his wife in the face so she gave him a spank...... my friend then yelled “We don’t hit our kids!” infront of both of them.


Not sure he should be my friend anymore..... thoughts?

lol im listening to dan pena. hes right. me included and most likely you, are pussies because our parents were pussies and so on. youre pretty much asking for you future daughter to be sucking cock at 13 and your son to be a beta dip****, because youll kiss their ass when they **** up

drc what their research suggests